I am REALLY Ticked off!! to put it nicely!

Boys r us wrote: I am!!!! I am seriously freaking irritated!

*background* Braedon is very clingy and very apprehensive about the unknown..he's a real worrier! He made me promise that I would walk with him to his classroom b/c he was scared he would get lost, I of course agreed..not like I planned on dropping him off at the curb..lol..I had every intention of getting him to his classroom..taking a picture outside the classroom door...etc..

We went to orientation the other night and they were kind of pushing for independence..they didn't say don't walk in with your kid..but they were like put them on the bus if they're going to be bus riders etc. Braedon in't going to be bus rider..the school is on our street and we have a long driveway and if I have to pack alliebelle up to go to the bottom of the driveway to meet him at the bus..I may as well go get him.

so we take Braedon to school this morning...get there we all get out of the car to take him in...we're greeted at the front door by the assistant principal and some other random woman. They said, " We'll walk him to his classroom for you" and Rick looked at me and I looked at her like she was nuts, calmly said,"no we'll walk him" she got this huffy look on her face and I proceeded with, "that's okay...right?" and she said, "well it's not best but do what you need to do?" Okay..I was a little ticked at that point...this is the first year we've ever been discouraged from taking our child into their classroom on the first day..mind you..Tanner has gone to that school since it opened 7 yrs ago...
I've always taken him and on his first day of kindergarten their was a classroom full of parents.

So we walk on..much to her dislike and then I hear "the last word" that she obviously had to sneak in once our backs were to her...
"We haven't had one do this all morning"

As in..Go ahead if you think you need to walk him to his class..but you're the only one who has had to ....

I wanted to turn around and slap her and say..."Go ____ yourself"! but..I didn't...however, I was really close to telling her how unnecessary her comment was and that I had promised Braedon I would walk him to his classroom and I was not going to let him down on a morning that was already neerve wracking for him...and if that made me a bad person, then fine!

seriously though..I'm furious! Rick, Alliebelle and I went to breakfast after we took Tanner to his first day of middle school(which btw we were not allowed out of the car for...lol). So...anyhow, I couldn't even eat I was so mad. It's really not even WHAT she said so much as the fact that she was a total b!tch about it and didn't have to go there. So what if I wanted to walk him to his class..what's the big freaking deal???? It was just unnecessary. I am really tempted to say something to her if I see her this afternoon!

Am I wrong? Seriously don't sugar coat it..I want to know if I'm out of line for being upset about this..should I have just dropped him at the front door with strangers to him?

moped replied: UGh - well why don't you just explain to her that your son was worried about school and you did what you needed to do! I would be so mad too!!!!!!!!

TANNER'S MOM replied: Nope! When I took my kids they let us all in and to take pics. Heck we could stay all day if we wanted~! I would be so mad!

luvmykids replied: I know some schools have started doing it that way and I understand that for some kids (and their parents LOL) it's better but I don't think it's right in any way to say a parent can't walk their kid to class, at any time. IMHO I think schools should be very open door and parents should be allowed to see their kids class ANYTIME they feel necessary. I would have been livid at her attitude and comments

Our Lil' Family replied: You are completely right! Personally, if it was me and I saw her this afternoon I'd tell her something along the lines of, "I do whatever it takes to make my child feel comfortable in a new situation. I'm sorry if you cannot understand that and if other parent's don't do the same."

luvbug00 replied: this from experience, when i worked in daycare and the parents would drop the kid off first day i would ask them to walk the kid in, say somthing comforting , give lots of loves and walk away. No matter how much screaming and crying they hear keep walking. not to be insensitve but it distracts the other kids and makes it hard to do what needs to be done with a kid standing there crying her head off and the parents who keep comming back and spending time trying to comfort. the best similar situation i can think of ..kids afraid to swim it's better to just "throw" them in the water, then to draw out the fear. I DO think you should be able to walk you child to class and that the comments made were rude. But i think they had the "first day of school screaming upset kids" thing they didn't want to deal with.

that being said. Mya is sensitve too. Chances are more sensitve then Braedon. she will probaly will be crying when she starts the new school. ( and she's 7!) but last year and the year before she would have days where she would cry when i left her at school. I just had to walk away.

I hope the school day goes well for him.

Mommy2Isabella replied: I would have flipped out. I would have let the lady know that what she said was UNCALLED FOR! Yadda Yadda Yadda, If I were you and I saw her this afternoon, I would say I understand you guys are trying to get away from parents walking their children in but he was TERRIFIED, and I promised I would walk him in!!!! URG ...

moped replied: Also I don't think I would be stirring up the pot on the first day - then you might be labelled the "nasty mom" - LOL



Kidding

jcc64 replied: I'm with you, Nicole. My kids' elementary school has, at various times, depending on the principal, had less than welcoming attitudes about parents walking kids to class. I always felt like a gate crasher or an uninvited party guest. I'm sure it's less of a hassle for the teachers and staff if the parents stayed at the front door, but too bad. It's your kid, you do what you feel is right for him. They're in the business of dealing with little kids- it's not a one-size-fits-all approach.
Do what you want, f&^% her, kwim?

Boys r us replied:
Sure..I understand that....I wasn't planning on hanging on him or him hanging on me all morning..but I wanted to at least give him the comfort of getting him there. and it went fine..he hugged us..I could tell he was very ancy about it all..but he was fine. We spent 10 seconds with him tops at the classroom door. End of story!

moped replied: THey need to make it as smooth for the kids as possible - poor mom!!!!

luvbug00 replied:

oh I'm sure you just wanted to give reassuring words and loves but I'm saying what i discribed is probaly the kind of situation they are trying to avoid.

Boys r us replied:
Jeanne...you're right..@*&$ her! LOL

mummy2girls replied:
I agree to a certain extent.. but i think the first day if the child wants the parent to come with them then it shoudl be ok and not frowned upon like that teacher did. after that then yes the parent should turn and walk. I run a dayhome as you all know so i know the first day for a new child is hard so im ok with the parents hanging around for a bit. Its always chaotic anyways when i new child starts. but after the first day i kinda push the parent to just drop off and leave.

dylansmom01 replied: I think she was way out of line! Next time just smile real big at her and keep on going. They can't stop you from walking your child to class. That happen to me last year and I was so angry I could have knocked the lady out...but I didn't. LOL...
Keep your head and try to enjoy the rest of your day.

Boo&BugsMom replied: I'd for sure be irritated at her attitude and her unkind words. There is no need to act so childish, esp. if she works in a school. I wouldn't have been upset about not being able to walk him though, as that is a common rule and policy in many schools. If that is a written policy, I can understand if they felt like the policy was not being respected. Does the school have a handbook of sorts? Usually parents should view it before the first day so you are aware of the policies and any changes to the policies. No offense, but I always get irritated when parents do not read my policies, then they act stunned when something happens and then I have to redirect them to the handbook which they should have read from the start. It still doesn't excuse her attitude though. She could have handled the situation much better than she did, and the comment under her breath was uncalled for.

TANNER'S MOM replied: Oh and I would like to add.. that to me Kindergarten is HARDER on Mom than the kids. When I took Tanner to Kindergarten the teacher was patting us Moms on the back, telling US it would be alright. I made it out the door before crying.

Tanner is in 4th grade and I cried Monday. I teared up at where all the time had gone.

Crystalina replied: Our school allows parents to "hang out" if we want to. We are not encouraged to keep walking by our childs door or "stalk" them but our school is ran 90% by parent volunteers. The crossing guards , cooks, classroom helpers, playground monitors...we do it all. It is a public school and only goes to 2nd grade. Our only "rule" is that you must check into the office before doing anything at all so random people cannot just come in. You have to be recognized by the staff and of course be a parent to a current student. I'm sure I would be more then PO'd had I been told I could not walk Izabella to her class. And who's to say the 3rd grade school won't be less parent friendly? I will not like that at all.
It would have been hard for me to hold my tongue. Kudos to you for keeping your cool.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Nadia, being a daycare owner I know exactly where you are coming from. It really only delays the inevitable, and sticking around sometimes only makes it worse.

I do want to say that I do think schools should make a special exception for Kindergarteners or for new students to the school on their first day of school though. Just walking them and saying goodbye for 30 seconds shouldn't be that great of a deal, but I can see how they are trying to make the transitions as easy as possible and stick with a method of some sort, since there are SO many kids to deal with each day and some parents probably would stick around forever, making it harder on the teachers to do their job effectively.

holley79 replied: Well if there isn't a policy in place saying parents can't walk a child to class then what's the big deal. You made a promise to him and you kept it. I would tell her to bite me.

Calimama replied: Ugh rude, I would have said something about her "last word" politely on my way back out.

Kaitlin'smom replied: well that was certanilly RUDE

A&A'smommy replied: NOPE not wrong it was YOUR child's VERY first day of school )(*&(*&( yes you should have been able to take him and she should have kept her mouth shut!!!!! I can't believe more parents didn't have a problem with it

Bamamom replied: I would probably have a word with the principal and possibly superintendent over it. I should be allowed anywhere my child is - if I'm not then I grow suspicious about why I'm not allowed.

gr33n3y3z replied: I think its important for the children in PreK and kindergarten to know taht the parents will come back and get them and so its not a full shock to them
they are still little babies to us

punkeemunkee'smom replied: Nope you are NOT wrong in any sense of the word! ITA with Monica in that schools should have an open door policy in the morning-I understand parents coming in and out all day would be distracting but IF I want to walk my child to the door of his classroom EVERY morning and help him get prepared for the day (before the bell rings) then (&**^^ you if you don't like it! We are still talking about little children here...if/when my child needs 60 seconds of extra attention from me in the moring then he/she will get it! I think it is awesome that you stood your ground and took him in and I know it meant everything to Braedan too...It is sad to me that you were the only one who did so!


Oh yeah about the *&^%$ at the door...I probably would have said something so you for keeping your cool!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Sorry I don't have time to read what everyone else wrote, but I would totally say something to her Nichole. I usually tend to stay out of things, but since she made that rude comment behind your back, I would totally mention it to her. Tell her or the principal that you overheard her comment and that you found it to be completely out of line. There is no need for that type of attitude, especially from someone caring for kids. If she has some type of set policy that you have to leave your kid at the curb, well then it should have been brought to your attention at orientation. Just sounds absurd to me, especially on the first day.

bawoodsmall replied: Geesh...It's Kindergarten for goodness sakes. Maybe by first grade they can move out on their own. I would have been so ticked I would prob have to say something when I had her by herself. I would however do the trick of kill her with kindness. Say.. oh I appreciate you letting me walk him to class, he was so anxious and it really helped. Blah Blah Blah. I however would be thinking...you are a evil witch. I do know about the daycare thing because my children go to a daycare. They told me they didnt want me to stick around but i always did unless i saw it was hindering the attachment process. Make sure you dont say anything negative about the teacher because your son may pick up on it and then it will be a long year.

momofone replied: I hate when people make rude comments. You have every right to make your child more comfortable on the first day of school.

One time when my daughter vomitted in school one of the teachers walking past said to her "I hope that's not what I think it is" really made her feel better.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: You're better than me... I would have turned around and said something to the effect of "excuse me? I didn't quite catch that?" then she would likely have stumbled and backtracked...like so many people do when confronted about an underanded comment... and then I would have told her that if she "felt" it was unnecesary for parents to walk their children to their classrooms on the first day, it should have been sent by written notice to all the parents.

Serious, what a b!tch.

MoonMama replied: I WOULD have said something.

cameragirl21 replied: personally, the way I see it, that is YOUR son and it's YOUR decision, whether she likes it or not. If you want to walk him to his classroom EVERY morning then as long as it's what Braedon wants then it's fine imo.
I think that it's great that schools encourage independence, etc but every family has their own culture, boundaries, etc and as long as you're not doing anything illegal or immoral, then that decision is yours, regardless of what the assistant principal thinks about it.
Now if a mom were insisting on doing this and it was against her child's wishes then maybe I could see the school gently trying to talk you out of it but you made a promise to your son, it's what he wanted and truly, it's none of her business.
Idk, I think often schools get too involved in thing that really are none of their concern. If you want to do something that may not be done thing or is in her opinion, not the norm, that is up to you and your child and not up to her.
JMO
As far as saying something to her, if it would make you feel better, I don't see anything wrong with it, as long as it's done calmly and rationally. I see nothing wrong with reminding her that you are his mother and you're quite in the position to make these decisions without her input and if these decisions of yours are not in line with what she would do, she is certainly free to do things differently with her own child.

momtoMegan&Alyxandria replied: When Meg went into first grade she started at a new school. On the first day I walked her up the 3 flights of stairs to her classroom, said goodbye and then I left. Everyday afterwards for at least 2 months, I had to park my car, get out and sit out front of the school until the bell rang with her. She was nervous and didn't want me dropping her at the curb and leaving. Nobody ever said anything to me thankfully. I think I would have gone off if they had of.
The way I see it is, they are our kids, we gave birth to them, not the principal or anyone else, if we want to walk our kids to their classroom they shouldn't stand in our way. It must be for a reason and they should respect that we know what we are doing with our kids. Esoecially if it is the first day of school, or a new school. That woman shouldn't have said anything.