I am so angry I am in tears - mother vent...

5littleladies wrote: Ok just a little history-My mother and I do not get along that well, mostly because we are very different personalities. We don't really fight too much, just don't have much of a relationship.

When I first got pregnant the only people we told were our closest friends, because they are here everyday helping with the house and I knew they would figure it out. My mother was very upset when she found out that they knew before her but I figured she would understand and let it go.
Now we get to the angry part. I had decided to not tell the kids about the baby until the addition is done or at least until I have gone to the doctor and had some reassurance that this baby isn't going anywhere. I have told my mother this numerous times. She keeps asking me "Have you told the kids yet" and I tell her the same thing over and over. Today I was talking to DH about why I am showing already-baby down low but pushing everything up and making me look pregnant already, etc., etc. My mother was in the living room and said "What? What about the baby?". I thought she was genuinely curious and went in and started saying it all again to her but after a few sentences (very revealing ones) I realized that Maddie was standing right in front of me so I stopped talking and tried to figure out how to cover up what I said. My mom then said "Ha ha, I did that on purpose". I'm thinking "WHAT?!?!?". Then she said to Maddie-"What did your mom say about a baby? Where is the baby?". Maddie clearly knew what was going on but felt shy about it so she just pointed to my stomach. Then-this is the kicker-my mom says "That's what you get for telling your friends before you told me".

I have never been so angry at, nor felt so disrespected by my mother in all my life. I called my dad and talked to him about it and I bawled. He said he was sorry, that he would talk to her, but I don't know if I care. How dare she when she knew my feelings about it?

I'm sorry this is so long-I just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.

amynicole21 replied: Oh, I would be SEETHING!!! How Dare She??!!! I think that would effectually end my relationship with my mother for a while I'm so sorry this happened.

Sherry replied: That is horrible. It made me sad to read that. Being vindictive will get her nowhere. I am so sorry.

MommyToAshley replied: OMG! I can't imagine that she would do that. Being a mother herself, you would think she would respect your feelings on this issue. I am so sorry. I would be furious, I don't know what I would do, but I know I would be furious and bawling too.


I am sorry!

kimberley replied: How juvenile!!! i cannot believe she did that to you! i am so sorry you had to deal with that and Maddie had to find out that way . that is an awful mean thing she did and i hope it comes to bite her in the butt one day!

mummy2girls replied: OMG! I would be soooo mad if that happened to me. I would disown my mom for a bit for being so childish!

Mom2Boyz replied: OMG I would be FURIOUS if I were you. I'm afraid I would have to give her a piece of my mind!!!!

momof2girls replied:

You have good reason to be upset, Im another one that would be.
That is soooo disrespectful! No wonder you dont have a good relationship with her. Im so sorry!!

MomToJade&Jordan replied: How old is your mother? Two? That was a pretty childish thing to do if you ask me. I would have asked her to leave at that point. I'm sorry that she did that to you. That's just horrible.

MomToMany replied: Oh that would be the last straw if my mother did that! And what a nice grandmother; not even considering Maddie's feelings or how she might react. That's just awful. I'm so sorry she did that to you, Jennifer.


How did Maddie feel afterwards? Did she say anything? I hope she wasn't too upset.

aspenblue1 replied: I can not believe a mother would be so childish! That is just horrible. I would be so furious with my mother if she did something like that.

coasterqueen replied: That would have me so furious I wouldn't speak to my mother for a while and would not allow her in my home!!!!! That was just so juvenile!

That would be something my mom would do.

Kaitlin'smom replied: Sounds like something my selfish selfcentered sister would do!

I would be so mad, to the point of not speaking to her until she said she was sorry and told me why she had to do that, oh man gurrrrrr I am just so mad for you.

I am so sorry she is being so childish.....

jem0622 replied: Wow...talk aout a blatant disregard for your wishes and your kids well being. NICE. I probably would have been so upset that I would have asked her to leave. Or I would have taken her aside IMMEDIATELY. Sorry that she did this.

HUGS

A&A'smommy replied: OMG HOW AWFUL! It sounds to me like your mother needs to do a little more growing up!! That was SO incredibly mean of her!!! (((((BIG BIG HUGS)))))

Boys r us replied:
I agree with Amy!!! No doubt in my mind AT ALL that that would do it for me!

youngmommytobe replied: How unfaithful,that was so foolish of ya mom to say that,I am very sorry that happenend.......I would not trust my mom again if she had done that to me,how childish!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Alicia mommy to be early next year!
Princeton/Shurwin/LaDarion/Shaykwon or Brocton for a boy
Dashanti or Sha'Kyra for a girl

Josie83 replied: Hi I hope you don't mind me adding what I think! I unerstand totally what you mean, how can your mother be so awful? I don't have a very good relationship with my mum at all, she's never really liked me or my sisters (always made it obvious she wished we were all boys like my two brothers) and she can be sooooo horrible, particularly to me and my older sister. We are a Catholic family so obviously my getting pregnant then having a baby at eighteen outside of marriage (although I am engaged) didn't help. She has done harsh things to me but nothing like what you said. Is she a grandmother to your children? Unfortunately, my mother had an instant dislike of Cassie the day she was born (no word of a lie) which gets worse every time she sees her and is clearly purely because I am her mother! I don't particualrly care about the way she acts towards me (lets face it I'm used to it) so like you were about Maddie I get really annoyed if she's awful to Cassie. For example Cassie is a really bright two and a half year old, and she talks more like a four year old and instead of praising her for being intelligent my mother tells her little girls should be seen and not heard (no, really!) and that no one likes a chatterbox. She is so harsh to me and my daughter that Cassie is scared to go to her house and starts to cry if I tell her that's where we're going! Grrrr my situation with my own mother makes me so annoyed for you and your children! Sorry that this comment on you turned into being a rant about me, but it makes me so mad! i can't imagine ever treating my baby the way my mother treats me! Congratulations on your pregnancy though, I hope it goes well, love Josie xx

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Awwww Jennifer! I am soooo sorry. My grandmother has done these things to me my entire life. I totally understand how you feel. She must be entirely jealous of you... I concluded that was my grandmother's hang up with me.

Bless your heart and to your mom. I hate it that Maddie was caught in the middle. That was VERY childish of your mother. What a way to ruin it for the kids and for you. I hope it isn't too bad of a memory. Maybe now you can think of something super fun to celebrate your pregnancy and involve the kids so it can override this terrible memory of your mother spoiling it for you guys. I just feel so bad for you. It is such a special time.

Mistydiane replied: I am SOOO sorry, that is horrible!

DixieDarlin replied: OMG! How rude and disrespectful! I would be LIVID! I am so sorry that she did that to you!