I am so angry & hurt right now.

MoonMama wrote: Tonight my brother and I got into which isn't unusual we tend to but heads a lot. Part of the issue is everything I say is always wrong and my feelings are always wrong or I'm too sensitive. And when he talks he tends to talk down to me. And honestly I'm not the only one who see's this everyone around us does too and he tends to talk down to everyone. I just don't know how to handled things with him because of the way he talks to me and disregards everything I say.
Tonight the issue was this, he just had surgery and he wanted me to come and help him and I told him I wasn't able to because of my back. And he said that I'm not there when he needs me the most. At which point I explained to him in a calm voice (which he took as yelling) that everytime he has needed me I have jumped and been there, (he has shoulder and neck issues and has had to have several surgeries and I have taken care of him everytime) my marriage has suffered before due to this,. And I also explained that I was kind of hurt because the night I hurt my back he was not willing to do a thing to help me. He wouldn't take me to the doctors or go and get my pain meds from the store or even make Braedin a bottle.
I no he has a lot of resentment towards me due to the fact that I married his best friend and he reminds me all the time that I 'took away his best friend" which is not the case he pretty much ended the friendship by HIS choice, which hurt DH a lot BTW. And has always been this way towards me way before Alec and I started dating. But he says its because of me dating and marrying Alec that he acts like this to me. Because I "distroyed a part of him and he can't let that go". It hurts me so much that he feels that way and I feel like such a horrible person for it sometimes.
And in all honesty I have done and done and done for him without the slightest bit coming back when I have needed it. I am just at such a loss and don't know how to handle this situation anymore. He attacks my intelligence all the time, makes me feel stupid and like I am wrong for my feelings, that nothing I do is right or good enough. Sorry for venting on you all and I know this sounds silly but I just needed to get everything off my chest.

amymom replied: I am sorry this is happening.

amynicole21 replied: Oh man. He sounds like he's being really immature. Can't he take responsibility for his own life? Is it your job? Yikes.

JadensMama05 replied: Ya know, my brother is like that too - always wants our help but when we need his, he's suddenly impossible to contact. We've asked him to help with the benefit for my step-dad and he said he'd help but hasn't offered anything. He borrowed $1,200 from my Mama before Christmas and ruined her Christmas cuz he promised to pay her back the following weekend.. She still hasn't seen any of it. And he's done that a few times, always with $1,000 plus. I'm sorry you have to deal with a PITA brother too.

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MoonMama replied:
I'm so sorry you have to deal with the BS too. :angry:And to not help with the benefit esp. after saying he would, thats enough to send me over the edge! Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help. And your mother that is just horrible. Lots of to both you and your mom.

Thanks all, more then anything I think I just needed to vent about it. And what's worse is this is my OLDER brothers (32) shouldn't I be looking up to him?

3xsthefun replied: I'm so sorry he is being like that.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I'm sorry you are going through all of this with your brother! I hope that in time your relationship will improve!

MommyToAshley replied: I am sorry that your brother is acting in this manner. I don't quite understand how your marrying his best friend ruined their friendship? He can't be friends with him because you married him?

I am sorry he hurt your feelings. Sounds like your brother needs to grow up.

MoonMama replied:
I don't understand fully ether to be honest...

holley79 replied: I'm so sorry sweetie.