I am so angry at DH

MoonMama wrote: I know we would NEVER hurt Braedin on purpose, but he REALLY needs to think about things first. He brought home Taco Bell for himself for dinner. I asked him if he would take Braedin for a few so I could do a few things. He did of course. But I walk into the kitchen and he's eating and has Brae in his igh chair with some fruit puffs on the tray. No big deal. Then I notice Braedin has a pack of mild sauce in his mouth! I immediately take it from him an ask Alec if he knew he had it. Alec says half laughing oh yeah I gave it to him, he really wanted it and it was keeping him calm. WTH among other things I can think of they could happen, he has a tooth and could have put a whole in it and that would NOT have been fun for Brae. I was so pissed! We had some words an DH left. I am so hot right now, what was he thinking and then to leave.

MyBabeMaddie replied: Aww Ally I'm sorry Guys just don't have a brain plain and simple (no offence guys)... What an idiot! Poor Braedin!

CantWait replied: You know, honestly I think you're blowing this into a bigger deal then it is. If your dh was right there watching him, I don't see what's wrong in it. JMHO.

redchief replied: I have to respectfully agree with Marie here. I know that a packet of hot sauce isn't exactly baby-sized, but if your husband was watching him I don't see the big deal either.

MoonMama replied: Thats just it he wasn't watching him at ALL! He was in the same room but was paying know attention to him at all. Just giving him whatever would get him left alone.

redchief replied:
OK. Well if he really wasn't watching him then I can definitely see why you'd be upset.

My3LilMonkeys replied: I know I'm a much more laid back mom than most, but IMHO it's not that big of a deal. If he did put a hole in it, either he'd like it or he wouldn't, but mild sauce isn't going to hurt him.

I understand your frustration, though - my DH has done things with the girls that he thought was no big deal but freaked me out.

Mommy2Isabella replied: JMHO ... It isn't a huge deal, I probably would have gotten mad as well, but DH gives bella all kinds of stuff, to let her try it, not that a taco bell sauce packet is OK but sometimes men don't think things thru, if it keeps the baby from crying, they are cool with it.

Hope you get your feelings across to him why it upset you so much!

MyBabeMaddie replied: Well I still think my opinion stands: Guys lack a brain

Danalana replied: Ally, I understand your concern. I also know there's more to the story...

MoonMama replied: I can see where you all are coming from. But regardless I think it was dumb to do, and this isn't the first time he is ALWAYS giving him things he shouldn't have to keep him from bugging him when he wants to be left alone. And I think I am more upset about the way he jumped at me cussing, then leaving for telling him he shouldn't have given it to him.

Danalana replied:

MyBabeMaddie replied:
Aww, its not cool to swear around the babies, I'm so afraid Madison will just blurt "hey mom F*** you you B***h" out of the blue cause shes heard it so many times

Twelve Volt Man replied:
My wife knows that I will not tolerate cursing each other. I don't do it to her; I won't stand for it being done to me. And certainly not in front of our son. Not to imply that I don't let choice words slip, on occasion, but I refuse to direct them at her. We seldom argue, but if we do, and it's so heated that neither of us can discuss it rationally, it's best to take a walk for a bit until things cool down.

MoonMama replied:
We have that same rule. And I have never cursed at him. I don't know why he did, this is all new for him.

AiT replied: When my oldest was around 18 months, we were out for Mexican food and he kept crying for the salsa we were eating. DH finally told me "go ahead and let him try it".

He tasted it and went absolutley ballistic! I was SO mad at DH.

But he never, ever cried for salsa again!

AiT replied: nevermind - I'm a n00b.

Danalana replied:
Read her current thread...that will fill you in some.

lovemy2 replied:
I maintain always that no one can take care of baby like Mom does- even the best of Dads who think things through...my husband does the same type of things.....and I am sure it wasn't really the taco bell packet that really set you off but more the way the whole situation unfolded...hang in there kiddo - marriage is a tough game....put on a new uniform and work it out with him when he gets home