I am so upset and don't know what to do - daycare vent

aspenblue1 wrote: I am so mad at my daycare provider. I dropped Kyrsten and Isabella off today I didn't realize there wasn't formula in the bag (I have to supplement). There was 2 things food but she only found 1 well instead of calling me to tell me Kyrsten didn't have any food or formula she didn't feed her. I am at a loss on what to do I would love to beat some sense in to her. I am just curious don't you think she should have called me to tell me Kyrsten needed something? How could she just let her stay hungry all day.

1lilpeanut2love replied: JMHO.. I think that was very irresponsible of the daycare provider. She could probably get in trouble if you reported it!! She should have called you!!!!! I am SO sorry your DD wasn't fed. Poor thing. She must have been SO starved and was happy when she got home. Good luck with this!

luvbug00 replied: Here's what I would do...

go over to her house and punch her dead in the nose!!!!

ok now a more calmly i say this . WTH ( why the h**) doesn't she have extra food for the kids just in case??

if your children pooped thier dipers would she let them sit in poo all day?

I would report her letting a child go without food is just plain cruel. I would NEVER in my life let a child starve because I couldn't find their food regarldless of wither a parent packed it or not. This angers and saddens me beyond words! I'm sorry you and your child had to go a day stressing over this.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: You have every right to be mad!! I'm not sure what I would do. I would probably find another DCP, but if you don't have a choice, then definitely let her know that she MUST contact you first and have backup formula/food.

mummy2girls replied: oh no! (((HUGS))) YES she shouild of called you. I would talk to her tomorrow and let her know how upset you are and such. Because if you dont she may do it again. And if she does something like that again that youw ill be taking her out of her care..

I went through the same thing when jenna was 8 months old. They would not even give her any food all day for 2 days in a row. So i reported them. and took jenna out of the centre

holley79 replied: OMG I would be completely livid. I would have hit her and thought about it later. (It's that redhead temper of mine.) Anyway, I'm sorry but I would report her. I don't know if she is the owner or whatever but I would NOT let her get away with that. That is just totally unsat.

Mom2Boyz replied: OMG that is crazy!!! She definatly should have called you!! I can't believe she doesn't keep extra food on hand for instances like that.
How did you keep from punching her lights out?

aspenblue1 replied: My MIL picked the girls up so it may get ugly tomorrow. I have a tendency to get extremely nasty when I get mad and I can not stop thinking about it. I was just in complete shock that she wouldn't feed her something or call me. I am looking for other daycares today but they are a lot more expensive than the in home daycare the girls are currently in.

mummy2girls replied:
Have you decided to look into another dayhome... Jenna was in one dayhome whioch didnt work out so i put her in the one she is in now and I love her provider! So maby look around for dayhomes as well:) just a thought!

my2monkeyboys replied: OMG!!!!!! I can't believe this! How does someone let a child go hungry?????
Report her ASAP!!!! And then knock her lights out!! (No, I'm not kidding about that either.)
I certainly wouldn't let them go back. If she's that stupid, imagine what else she may do (or not do)!
AAAHHH! I'm so mad and it's not even my child! Stupid b*%#&!
Please give your kids lots of hugs from all of us!!! That's just horrible!!!

amymom replied: That is just wrong. I would not bring them back EVER! even for a moment.

When my ds was about 10 months old I found out one morning that the dcp was not refridgerating his bottles. And we were trying to find out why he had consistent diarrhea. Well, now I knew. I was walking to my car after finding this out and started to cry, then realized I was his only protector, I went back in, picked my son up collected all his things and told her I would not be paying her for the last week and I took son to work with me.

lots of hugs to you and the girls

lisar replied: OMG... I would be so mad. I dont know what I would do. Let us know if you say anything.

mammag replied: OMG! Did she actually tell your mom she just didn't feed her for the day??? Wow! I would not even be taking the kids back there for the day. I would be worried about leaving them with someone who could let a kid go hungry....what else is she not doing??

Let us know how it goes today.

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PrairieMom replied: totally uncool. That would really make me qusetion her judgement in other areas as well. How could she not have something on hand just incase? totally irresponsible IMHO. That would make me consider a different daycare.
Your poor little one. She must have been so miserable!

PrairieMom replied:
I imagine you can really save a lot of $ cutting corners on non-essentials like food. What a yucky situation. I hope you give her a piece of your mind today.

coasterqueen replied: She should have definitely called you. I always tell my sitter when I'm short on milk that day to call me so I can come by and nurse Megan. I would tell her that for now on you expect a call in these situations, no matter what. I'm sure she didn't want to inconvenience you and the baby probably did well anyways, but still explain to her it's not an inconvenience.

AlexsPajamaMama replied: I agree with everyone else when they say that is uncool & irresponsible. I'd look into another daycare/dayhome too. Sorry your baby had to go through that! Hope things get worked out.

MommyToAshley replied: I'm so sorry that happened, poor baby! I am sure the dcp didn't go all day without food, so how could she do that to a baby. I think I wold always question her judgement and not feel comfortable leaving a baby there, so I'd have to look for another dcp.

PrairieMom replied:
Carrie, my post kinda sounds lkke I am balming YOU. sorry. That isn't what I meant. I MEANT, she can keep her prices low by not having extra stuff on hand for situations like this.

aspenblue1 replied: I didn't take it that way and I am looking for other daycare provider I am just really leary about in home daycare after this and other things I have seen there so I will be very careful about anything I choose I am just worried about the change on the girls they have been through so much in last couple of months I was waiting for them to get adjusted and I was going to change them I was hoping I would be able to stay home with them at least part time but that isnt going to happen right now until we figure out my DH's new pay schedule.

Kaitlin'smom replied: OMG that would have been the end of it for sure. Why would she not call you? she had NOTHING she could have feed her? Sheesh I woudl be so mad. Once my sitter had not gone to the grocery and did not have money to go and really did not have much for Kait to eat and she told me I took them lunch and payed her early so she could shop that night. she felt terrible about it, I said hay we all get in susitaions like that I am just thankful you told me so I coudl help and make sure the kids were fed.

best of luck finding a new place.

kayla's mama replied: OMG I would be livid If she let her go with out food for the whole day WHAT else is she NOT doing. Oh that just makes me sooo mad. I would let them go back. Some people

Best of Luck finding a new DCP

~~*Missi*~~ replied: ummm I am floored YES they should have called you. i remember when I worked in a day care i would have to use my cell phone to call parents because the "head" would never..... i didn't care because I knew as a mother i would want to be called and well they did to cause they gave me the cell...
WOW, another reason i fear daycare for sabrina....

I AM FLOORED i would call the agencies that look into (i am drawing a blank) daycares and inform them.....what if you kid or another kid had prediabetic tendecies and went into a sugar coma OMG i am po'ed for you!!!!
slap that lady

b&bsmom replied: I just can not believe she let her go all day with nothing. Is that really what she said? I always have extra baby food on hand and I would have called you had you not packed formula or bottles for me. I have had to call a parent about their dd medicine, she was on a neb for cystic fibrios , imagine if I hadn't called to get her medicine.

I would definitly get the full story, what the deal was, then I would go off on her when I didn't like her answer but I would give her a chance to explain herself. COuld there have been a miscommunication? I hope your baby didn't go all day without food. Glad she is home with you now and in good hands.

Cece00 replied: I would be extremely upset, too. Poor baby How on earth could she not feed her, I mean she mustve been hungry and fussy b/c of that. I'd def look for another DCP.