I am sooo mad!

TeagansMom609 wrote: My mother told me my sister might not be coming to Teagans 1st birthday party because she HAS to go to the St. Pattys day parade that day as she does every year. They go bar hopping starting at like 11 am, until they cant drink anymore. My sister and her husband are over 30, sounds like their young kinds though right? So I said something to her about it and she said, Teagan wont even know im not there. She said she didnt even know I was having a party for her. Then she said well maybe I can stop in for a few minutes. Why cant you have it on Sunday instead? Grrr...Because we want to have it on Saturday and why should I change it for just her, one person out of many?!!

Josie83 replied: That is so anoying and makes your sister sound a little selfish. ave you made it clear to her how impotant it is for you to have her there? I think it seems harsh . . . after all, it is her niece's first birthday. Could you maybe have your mum have a word with her? I hope you get it sorted out xx

TeagansMom609 replied:
Yea, when she said to me "but I go to the parade every year, its a tradition", I said yea well Teagans birthday is a new tradition too! But she figures because Teagan is so young that she wont care if shes there or not. But I do!

gr33n3y3z replied: Well if Teagans party was planed way before your sisters outing and she knew about it she should be there.
Maybe she can come early if its going to be such a problem for her and have lunch with her.

texasp3 replied:
That's exactly what I was thinking... it's not about whether or not Teagan will notice, it's about whether or not you will. Have you told your sister how important it is for you to have her there, to be part of this important family event?

If you have, and she still thinks barhopping through the St. Patty's day parade is more important.. well it's probably a lost cause this year at least.

Just because people are family, doesn't mean they're going to share our priorities... and if she's only going to show up and act huffy ... or show up drunk... eee... maybe better to not have her there at all. After all, it's her loss if she chooses to miss something as precious and fun as a 1st birthday party!!

Boys r us replied: That's rude!!!!
Change the day of your child's first birthday party b/c her aunt would rather get drunk instead? Now don't get me wrong, I can appreciate going out and having fun..especially when there is green beer involved..but you know even if you did change it to sunday, wouldn't she be too hung over to come?

I'm sorry hun! I don't think people without children understand the importance of things sometimes!

mom21kid2dogs replied: Does your sister and her husband have kids? If not, they might not get the significance of a "first" birthday party. It IS more for the parents than the child, which of course would be all the more reason to be there as a sister! Sorry she's just not getting it but I bet you'll have a great party anyway!! Enjoy!

Kaitlin'smom replied: I know exactully how you feel, my oldest sister did not come to kaitlins first birthday (she has 3 kids) and while its perfectully fin for her not to come to such events gosh forbid we dont show up to something for her little family, kno wwhat she was doing? NOTHING until 4pm when she went to her MIL to get gifts from christmas I was so mad and VERY hurt, this is her only neice.

Sorry to go off on my own there, I would tell her how you feel and if she cant come for a while then she is selfish. I am sorry you have to deal with this.

My2Beauties replied: That is extremely RUDE Sorry your sister is showing her butt, but I would explain to her how important this is to you and if she decides not to come then her loss, but I would let her know that it hurt you!

mckayleesmom replied: You should let your sister know that Teagans birthday party is a new tradition that is much better for her liver function . Sorry...I like to drink once in a while too...but that doesn't seem healthy to drink to an oblivion on purpose...he he

atlantamomof2 replied: Well, if we all looked at it like your sister does we wouldn't have to celebrate anything until around 5! Think about it, do you remember anything about your first through fourth birthdays?! No, but that's not the point. I hope you can find a way for her to understand how important is to you that she be there.

aspenblue1 replied: I am sorry. I know how you feel I get to go through this every year with Isabella's birthday. This year my mother wasn't at her birthday. It is so frustrating.

kimberley replied: (((hugs))) sorry she is being so selfish. we have run into the same thing with all the kids' birthdays and baptisms some people just don't get how important these things are.

JJJ replied: You have every right to be angry. Teagan's b-day is more imp than anything no matter how old she is!!! (B-days are really big for me) It is the one day to celebrate her place on this earth, and we are suppose to celebrate because we are so glad they were born. If your sis would rather go DRINK. .......sorry, I had a little rant, I will stop so I dont make it worse for you!

Well I will come to her party, and if you have let your sis know how you feel and she still decides not to show then you will have to figure out how you want to handle her from now on. I have learned after you have children you def know where things stand with other family and friends.

I pray you can all work it out and she comes around. Tell her she can get drunk after the party.

loveydad replied: I'd be pissed too! A girl only turns 1 once!