I can't stand ignorant people

mckayleesmom wrote: I HATE HATE HATE...when Military wives blame the military for their husbands cheating.....The military didn't make your husband cheat you ding dong....there had to have been a problem in that marriage in order for them to cheat. It might be a communications problem, sexual problem...whatever. Just because your husband is deployed or has to go to school for weeks, doesn't make him a cheater. What happened to vows and respect. Last time I checked...those 2 were very high on my marriages priority list over sexual needs. I guess some woman need to tell themselves that their husband cheated because of the military because GOD forbid you admit that there were problems in your marriage...

When a woman on our Army wives site admits she cheated...she always has an excuse or reason for why she thinks it happened...and its always marriage problems. When a man cheats...its the Army's fault of course.....WHERE IS THE LOGIC IN THAT??? Last time I checked...if a mailman cheats on his wife...they don't blame the post office.

mckayleesmom replied: I will copy and paste in P and I tomorow....this conversation....ok...fight I had with this lady was hillarious....I swear...ignorance is growing like mold.

Nina J replied: Thats just ridiculous. Why do people even make up excuses for cheating? They cheated, admit it, it's not anyone's fault but there own. I can't stand ignorant people either, I don't think anyone can. Except, of course, ignorant people

mckayleesmom replied: One of the reasons it makes me mad is that because of those ignorant people...Military marriages get stereotyped. How many military wives here have seen the look on peoples faces when you say "my husband is in the military"...You can see it on there faces or sometimes they even say flat out "isn't there alot of cheating in the military"?. Its ignorant people like this woman that fan the fire. Yes..alot of cheating goes on in the military, but it also goes on everywhere else.

holley79 replied:
Sorry but that was too funny.

DH's ex wife got pregnant while he was on the boat. He said it's because her needs weren't being met while he was gone. Darn the Navy. Haven't you ever heard of a toy store. Hello!!! I can't stand when they blame the military also.

A&A'smommy replied: yeah that is pretty ridiculous... what are everyone elses exscuses!!!!!! seriously its sad though

Bee_Kay replied: People cheat no matter where they live, their race, or what their career it!

I know what you mean Brianne. The ONLY thing to blame for cheating is the cheater him/her self!

luvmykids replied: My ex-SIL cheated on BIL who is a fireman because he was gone too much .... hello?!?!?!?!?! He's earning a living, which he'd chosen before her so she knew going into the marriage what it was all about!

mckayleesmom replied:
Her needs might not have been met, but there were other things she could have done besides cheating. Your husband was not to blame.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: People say the same thing about the car business. I can't tell you how many times I've heard the same thing.

luvmykids replied:
I used to work in the office at a dealership, it was awful the way everyone gossiped about all the guys! And 99% of them were honestly nice guys who didn't deserve it one bit.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Oh yeah....they are awful about gossiping. I don't know why....I guess b/c it's more men and women working together? I also worked in the office at a dealership. That's how I met Scotty. And there ARE affairs...there were several going on while I was there. But, I think it's everywhere.

Scotty works a lot of hours. He sees those people at work more than he sees his family. But, he is very aware of what goes on and he is very careful around certain women. They do tend to fabricate stories. He got mixed up in a huge mess early on in his career...he learned REALLY quick from that mistake.

I heard it so much when we were first together that I wanted him to change jobs. Then I grew up and realized that Scotty isn't that type of person...if he were going to cheat on me he'd do it anywhere. And that's true of anyone.

luvmykids replied:
Yup! I had my own epiphany like that too... Good for you for being secure enough to let it go!

btw-what did you do in the office? I was a lowly title clerk and did booking too or whatever it's called I can't even remember!

Edward's Mommy replied: Wow! That's just sad!

ilovemybaby replied: ITA they can't blame the military.
My sister said that when 9/11 happened a lot of women would get together with the men that survived (the firefighters, policemen, medics) if their husbands were not found. I think that is sad. My sister lived in Canada for 2 years.

I would never marry someone with a long distance job. I want my hubby here.
You know the lady in Ladder 49... how she was always complaining about her hubbys job and how he wasn't at home. All I could say to that was "well, you married him lady".

Maddie&EthansMom replied:
My friend was the business manager and when the telephone operator went on maternity leave she called and offered me the position. So, just the telephone operator. My first day there I walked into her office and Scotty was sitting in there talking to her. She introduced us and the look on her face was like "Uh oh." LOL! She was older...I actually babysat her kids. She was pretty protective of me.

Scotty was the administrative assistant...nephew to the owner. (slave hound )

That was 10 years ago. Now he is a GSM...working on going out on his own. It's a slow process.