I couldn't believe she said that! - ..some people are so insensitive

Lynda836 wrote: The other day I dropped by work for a visit...with the baby. I'm going back to work in three weeks but I'm going away for training and then probably to a different position, so I figured it was the last time I'd see many of these people.

So I'm talking with the ladies, and they're asking about me about my training courses. One of the ladies can't get over the fact that I'm choosing to come off mat leave early for training...same one who's made under handed comments about my husband being a SAHD in the past.

So I'm mentioning to them that it's going to be tough on me, but I have to do the training at some point. And since I have to be away from DH and DS for 4 months, I thought that it would be easier on DS if I did it now while he's still a baby rather than a year from now. So what does this lady do? She coos to DS..."Oh you won't even know who your mother is by the time she comes home again!"

I'm already starting to stress over leaving him. WTH made her think that was a nice thing to say? I felt like telling her where to go.

b&bsmom replied: Some people just don't think before they say things. You know what is best for you and your family. You have to try and ignore those kind of comments. Hang in there.

C&K*s Mommie replied: Let her say what she chooses, we all have that right (to an extent), you go about your business without batting an eyelash to her foolishness. For you, that is the best decision, you do not need that undo stress adding to the decision that obivously weighs so heavily on you by having to leave him to begin with.

Leave her be with her own comments, and show that you are not affected. Walk away with comment, or change the subject as though she never said it to begin with.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I don't know, if I knew I wasn't going to see her in a long time, then I would have told her where to go! Or at least tell her that her comment was hurtful. JMO.

luvmykids replied: I'm sorry you had to deal with her!! You are doing the right thing for you and your family which boils down to nobody elses business, and JMHO she can stick it in her ear!!

moped replied: Can I ask what you do? Your career? Will you be away the whole 4 months stright???

I think that is terrible of her. I went back to work when Jack was 5 months, because tha tis what made sense, and I think it is great for daddy to get bonding time!

Lynda836 replied: I would have liked to have said something...but she's one of the supervisors (not mine). It wouldn't have gone over well.

To answer your question Jen, I'm in the military. I'm not required to go back now, but I'm choosing to go back. The training courses I'm going on are only available once a year. I was supposed to go last summer but I was pregnant, so if I don't go this summer I have to wait until next summer. And until I do these courses, I'm not fully trained for my position, and my job is at a standstill.

What sucks is that the training's not just a couple of hours away, it's halfway across the country. Can't exactly afford a quick visit home. You guys will probably see a few tearful postings from me this summer. But again it's my choice to go back now. It's just that with the time coming so soon, it's starting to sink in...I'm probably not going to see them for 4 months

....except maybe by webcam

AlexsPajamaMama replied: Wow that was way out of line....sounds like something my MIL would say to my DS!! She is always making comments to me but saying them to him in a cutesy way

I agree with you that it would be easier to do the training now and be away while he is younger

redchief replied:
I don't believe for a minute that the trollup didn't think about what she was saying. On the contrary, I believe she knew exactly what she was saying and the significant impact it would have on mom.

Lynda836 replied:
You just gave me the best laugh I've had in days. I can just picture the look on her face if I called her an "old trollup"!

WAHMCrystal replied: That was unbelievably rude! I'm so sorry you had to deal with that!

kimberley replied: some people are idiots! sorry she was so insensitive. i agree with your logic that it is better to do now than later when they realize you are gone. stick to your guns. and LOL @ old trollup... fitting hahaha