I have a problem and I am really torn

TANNER'S MOM wrote: Well this stems from me winning the tickets to the concert:


I won tickets to Lee Ann Womack, I wanted to take Britt for her Birthday. I thought it would be an awesome moment together to here.. I hope you dance.

I told Dh and he said how fair is that to Tiffany. His daughter. I love Tiffany. And I don't want to sound like I am a bad step Mom...but that was going to be special. If I go now DH will be mad..and I don't know that I want to actually buy a $30.00 ticket..

I am sure this will work out..but ???

Am I the evil step mom???????????????????????

gr33n3y3z replied: Oh Mel I'm sorry to hear that

I see nothing wrong with it as you taking Britt with you and as Mom and daughter thing for her Birthday.

But if DH is going to mad about it maybe just let the 2 girls go alone but then I would be a reck about that.

I hope you can get that worked out bc even if you did buy another ticket your chances of sitting next to Tiff are slim and none Unless you use the ticket that you had to buy and let the 2 girls sit together.

Good luck

mckayleesmom replied: I don't know...I would be torn too. When is the concert? Is Tiffani even at your house on that date? Maybe you can take Brittney to the concert and make plans to do something special with Tiffani....Maybe go get your hair and nails and a pedicure or something...

A&A'smommy replied: Oh that is a toughie.. I actually thought about that when you posted that you were taking Britt BUT she is your daughter AND it is her birthday so maybe when Tiffanys birthday comes around you can do something REALLY special with her!

Follow your heart!!

A&A'smommy replied:
That is a good idea too!!

Boys r us replied: I would just say it's for her birthday..end of story!! No you're NOT an evil stepmom!!!

MissyKay2005 replied: That is tough but I would take your daughter and do something with Tiffani another time like was already said. You only have 2 tickets and to by another one likes said already also they would not be close together I am sure. Dh will get over it and I am sure tiffiani will understand as well.

amymom replied: I cannot tell from your posts that Tiffany is a 'step'-daughter (unless it is important to the story). You always seem to treat them similar. So, I would look at it this way ... What if it was Tiffany's birthday coming up and you won 'two' tickets. Would you have thought of taking her? and not taking Britt? IF the answer is yes ... Than there is your answer. And have your DH look at it that way too. Won't he do something special for Britt next week, since it is her birthday. That special thing doesn't take away from Tiffany or anyone else in the family. It is just that it is Brittany's birthday and here is something that is able to be done for her.

I always tell my kids that things will never be the same for them, but they best believe that we always give them what we can, when we can, and how much we can. But it will never be even. Never can be!!

coasterqueen replied:
oooh that's a good way to think about it!!!

3xsthefun replied: That really is tough. I know I would feel bad about taking one and not the other. But then again it is Brittany's birthday and I don't see anything wrong with you wanting do something special with just two of you. I really don't see why you couldn't just do something special with both of the girls another time.

CantWait replied: I think everyone else already said everything you need to justify taking one and not the other. Good Luck with dh.

~Roo'sMama~ replied:
ITA! And then you can do something just as special with Tiffany for her birthday like Jessy Ann said.

boobies4virtue replied: Well, if it's supposed to be her birthday present, why is it wrong? If he won tickets to a concert at DSD'd bday, would it pose a problem if he took only her. Plan on something similar for her bday, too.

mammag replied: I agree with everyone else....I'd just make it part of her birthday present.

Good luck!

punkeemunkee'smom replied: Mel~ I agree with everyone else it is Brit's birthday! Every kid deserves to have some one on one time and since it is her bday it is that much more special! Suggest to dh that he and Tiff go to dinner together or something! HAVE FUN!!! I know hearing that song will be so special!