I just left him - waaaaaahhhhhh

Schnoogly wrote: It took forever to get him checked in & paperwork done and he decided this was the morning to get separation anxiety. Even at home he wouldn't let me out of his sight. I think he knew!! But he really likes the teachers, even reached out for her to hold him. He was almost crying when we left though. Even Dh couldn't leave!!

I'm just worried he won't sleep at all...

I'm going to call at 10:30. Is it 10:30 yet??

Would it be really bad to take an extra dose of zoloft??

amynicole21 replied: Awwwww! Trust me, this is harder on you guys than it is for Iain... He's probably going to play until he conks out on the floor, then get up and play some more! Don't worry yourself sick about him... he's in good hands

Mommieto2Girls replied: It'll be ok. You will be picking him up before you know it. So go get some work done and hurry you don't have much time.

supermom replied: Poor Steph!! It really IS harder on the parents, from experience.....he will probably have a great time and you will have worried for nothing......HUGS again!

maliksmommy replied: Big Hugs to you Stephanie I know how hard it is, but just remember that even though they might be crying when you leave they get better in just a few minutes. He will adjust and love it there I'm sure:) And call all you want especially if it makes you feel better!

Schnoogly replied: Just what I was worried about--I just called and he hasn't slept yet. Normally he would be on his second nap by now but he falls asleep in her arms and then when she puts him down he wakes right up. This has happened twice so far. She's going to try the swing next.

Surely he's not the first baby that has been like this for them?? I'm supposed to call back in a few minutes to see if the swing has worked. She said he was crying because he was so tired.

Remember, this is the baby who NEVER sleeps in a crib and only sleeps in his hammock for short periods. This is what I'm really worried about. I don't know what we're going to do if he won't sleep there.

maliksmommy replied: I am sure Ian is not the first baby that has cried for them, Malik does things totally different at daycare than at home for me. At daycare she can just lay him down while he's awake and he will fall asleep and take his nap, but at home~no way! He has to be rocked for me to get him to take a nap at home, so maybe he will just get used to things differently there. Don't give up yet, it took Malik a good week to get used to his new daycare. I know it is so hard but you just have to be strong and if there is a big problem they will let you know. Let us know if he falls asleep

Kaitlin'smom replied:
I second that! It took Kaitlin about a week to get uesed to her sitter and then about another week to get into arutine with her. Now all is smooth saling. I was so worried I would get a call at work telling me this was not going to work, but all is good now.

and what witht hen being able to lay down for others and go to sleep but not at home??? Okay Kaitlin does not always do this to me but somedays she will. Funny I also have noticed if she does not get to play long enoght (in her mind) in the evenings she wil not go to bed as easlily.

Schnoogly replied: OK he's asleep--on the FLOOR! I can't believe it. he has never slept on the floor in his whole life! He's on a playmat surrounded by blankets. She said he is OUT! I hope he sleeps a LONG time! I was going to go at lunchtime to nurse but now I don't think I will--I don't want to wake him up and I don't want him to freak out again when I leave.

Thanks--it is hard just knowing he is crying and I'm not there

mckayleesmom replied: Good Boy Ian....Maybe the daycare will prove to be good for him...He might sence your frustration sometimes and maybe thats why he doesn't sleep well. Im so proud of him for you...

Heather replied: LOL for a second there, I forgot that you were dropping Iain off at daycare and thought you left your DH! Okay, crazy one here I know! Forgive me! ANyways...

Big Hugs..it must have been tough. I know it will be fine! I would call as often as you feel comfortable. I am sure after the "newness" wears off you guys will adjust fine!! Hopefully, you had a nice day despite misisng your babe!

Kaitlin'smom replied:
thats good, can they call you when he wakes up and then you can go feed him? thats if you want to go over. I know i hate waking Kaitlin up to eat especially when she just falls asleep.

as for the floor Kaitlin has never done this at home but she has at my moms and the sitters! dont get it but guess she was just pooped and fell asleep.

maliksmommy replied: WTG Ian~see he's already adjusting to the different place. Each day will only get better and better

MommyToAshley replied: WTG Iain!!

Guest_SChnoogly replied: Well he only slept for 20 min on the floor then he refused lunch so they gave him a bottle. That's the last I heard. I'm at work now, 45 min away so can't rush over. I didn't go over for lunch since I didn't want him to freak out on me when I left again.

DH is calling this time because I'm afraid to, I'm afraid they're going to say he's been screaming nonstop since he won't sleep.

MomofTay&Sam replied: Awww poor little guy. I am sure he will adjust in no time at all. How did it go when DH called??

CantWait replied: So how did he like it all in all????

Schnoogly replied: Well he finally ate some bananas and some vegetable soup and a whole 5.5 oz bottle (that's way more than usually takes). And when we got there at 6 he was sitting and playing on the floor and he looked at me and went right back to playing! Like "hey mom, look at these cool toys they have!"

He did take a 1.5 hour nap while the teacher held him. They are really confident he will get used to it, and said it normally takes about 3 weeks.

All the teachers from the other rooms (older kids) came by to meet him and he was a total ham, smiling and laughing at them. He definitely doesn't have stranger anxiety! They also said he really gets around (crawling). He does really go fast!

They said he will be fine. It's just going to be hard with the naps! Now he's squealing and talking nonstop, like he's telling us all about his day. It's really cute!

Also we had to get a note from his doctor that says he is allergic to disposables so he can use the cloth there. He isn't but the doc will give us a note anyway. The director said that disposables are their regulation because of the sanitary issue, and the ADA regulations are that if the baby is allergic then cloth are OK if they have waterproof covers and the covers aren't reused. He has his own diaper genie for them that we bought.

Boy it was a long day though! I was stuck in traffic on the way home for about an hour and I was so impatient! I just wanted everyone to get out of my way! I wanted to yell "MOVE You **&&&^^^%^%ers! I have to see my baby! Get out of my way!"

MommyToAshley replied: It sounds like he is already on track to getting used to the place. I am sure he will work out the naps.

supermom replied: Well, it does sound like he had a good time there. Maybe a bit of stimulation (yes, I know, not too much) is what he needs to start drawing out his naptimes and taking longer ones? I really don't know, since I have never had to deal with a high-needs baby. But all in all it sounds like he had a blast!! Keep us posted on how he's doing.

So, did you accomplish anything or did you spend your whole day worrying?

natchie replied: oh i know just how hrd that is .. i went thru that too but hang on .. good luck

ediep replied: that is great that he had a nice day.....that sounds like he did pretty well for his first day. I'm sure I will be a worry wart when jason goes to Daycare next year

Schnoogly replied: I don't know about the naps Supermom. I've tried it both ways--lots of stimulation and calm days, and the result is about the same. At home he'll take about 40min-1.5 hour naps 3-4x a day. The average nap is about an hour, in the hammock, at home. Nothing seems to change this. Even when I hold him that's the limit. Also sometimes I have to help him back to sleep halfway through or else it would be only a half hour nap, god(dess) help us!!

He did take two 2 hour naps on our trip up to the wedding but I think the antihistamines the doc prescribed for his congestion plus the motion of the car had something to do with that. He does sleep a little more soundly if he's had a long morning, but there is a very fine line between enough stimulation and too much--he turns into a spaz hyper baby with too much. The line is so thin and the amount of overstimulation that is too much seems to change daily depending on his mood, how he slept the night before, etc. Raising him is surely a challenge to my wits and my patience!!!

The funny thing is that they have another new baby (10 month old) who has been there a couple of weeks and is usually really fussy but yesterday he seemed to know that the teacher was busy and was really good all day!

If he starts taking 2+ hour naps at daycare I will think he's been kidnapped by aliens and replaced with a pod baby or something!!

It's funny, there was a line on the health form to describe your baby's personality. I wrote "spirited, alert, curious, friendly and generally happy IF he gets enough attention. Otherwise watch out!"

I did get some work done--read some parts of my diss I hadn't looked at in months to get re-acquainted and did some used car shopping online (tee hee). Also some laundry and a really long shower! I was rushing around so much I forgot to eat lunch before I left for work and got an awful headache!!

supermom replied:
Teehee - that is tooooo funny Steph. Glad you have your sense of humor about you this morning and also glad you got to get some work done.

I just have this good feeling that it will all work out. He's growing up, as much as we all hate to see our little ones get big, it happens........ And as much time and energy as you spend on him every day I think it will be good for BOTH of you - you need the break, and to have a life and to get to do whatever you need to do to go on with it. And no, that does NOT make you a monster or even CLOSE to a bad mommy!! Don't you let anyone else tell you otherwise, and don't think it yourself, either.

And you know if you are having a bad day, we are here for ya!! and stop worrying - teehee (easier said than done, ya, ya, I know!)

CantWait replied: So glad he enjoyed his day, no doubt he's going to get use to it really quick.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Woo! WTG Iain!

So Steph - has it been better today so far?

Guest_Schnoogly replied: I dunno...I'm too scared to call. I can't do anything about it so I'd rather not know if he's screaming and not sleeping. They will call me if it is really bad. He did get in a good nap before we took him in this morning though, so that ought to have made the morning OK at least.