I need anything positive right now

mommy~to~a~bunch wrote: Could you please say something nice about me? Or give me some positive affirmations? I'm having a very tough time right now..... .

ZandersMama replied: You are a very strong intelligent woman, and a fantastic mom.

mckayleesmom replied: Your a great mom

Your intellegent

Your funny

Your caring

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Mollie... you're a great person, all around.

Sorry you're going through a rough time.

Kaitlin'smom replied: Molly, I thank you for all the help you have givin me, your a wonderful person. let me know if you need to talk or vent.

A&A'smommy replied:

Your sweet, caring, loving, a great mom, passionate about what you do

I'm sorry you are having a hard time!!!

Teesa®© replied: This is tough when you don't actually know the person, but when I read this, I wanted to say something.

I think you're a great person. You're always offering advice to people here, or hugs if you're not sure what to say. You like to help people.

You like to talk, and when you do, you always have something interesting to say, good idea's to offer on all sorts of topics, or have a good funny to say.

Your siggy also proves you are a great person. You care about our earth and do what you can to make it better. You're a big promoter of breastfeeding, which IMHO, is the next best thing since sliced bread [although, medically speaking, it's probably healthier than bread, lol]. You have 6 children that you love deeply and that's 6 more people in the world just like you - how much more awesome can that be????

I'm proud to have you as my online friend. I wish I had real time friends like you.

Insanemomof3 replied: You are a great mom, a great person all around. Even though sometimes people may disagree with you, you show a lot of maturity and intelligence when debating. LOL That really is a GOOD thing.

Sorry you are having a tough time, just know that I am right there with you.

luvmykids replied: You are incredibly passionate about your kids and give 100% to doing your best for them

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Mollie, it's been said what a wonderful mom you are time and again. And it's true. You are an amazing mother. I have 2 kids and finding the time and energy to be everything to those two is so hard. I can't imagine having 6 kids and try to meet each individual need. But, you have a gift to be able to do this. I think this is a good post. It's a time when you need to focus on yourself and remember what a great person you are in spite of being a wife and mother. You are a great friend. You are also a good listener. I've known you for several years now and even though we've never met, you are one person I know I can go to that will not only listen to me, but won't be quick to judge me either. You are there to offer support and hugs when I need them. I appreciate your friendship. I appreciate your knowledge and expertise on a lot of topics. You are caring and kind. You are also very talented.

You know where to find me if you need to talk. I'm sorry you are having a rough time right now.

moped replied: There are so many, but you amaze me everyday that you raise 6 kids - you are a great mother

bawoodsmall replied: You are a wonderful mom...Obviously. Even though I may not agree with you all the time you have given me so much information and knowledge that I am sure I would not have known if it werent for you. Thank you for that. Keep remembering how awesome you are. If you need to talk please pm me. Everyone needs someone to talk to.

lovemy2 replied: We may not see eye to eye but I never doubted that you are a very kind hearted person and I agree with Aimee - its not just about being a good Mom - its a hard job yes - but in my opinion - its even harder to remember who YOU are while trying to be that great Mom and/or spouse - take the time to get to know YOURSELF again - I am sure you will like who you meet

HuskerMom replied: You are an excellent mom! You're intelligent and your family is very lucky to have you!

mommy~to~a~bunch replied: Thanks you guys. I've just hit a new low with everything. Reading all of these replies has really helped me. DH, well, I'd rather not go there right now, he's not giving me what I need. I need a shoulder to cry on, and sometimes men just don't get most of what we women go through.

I *have* lost myself, I don't know who *I* am anymore. I want to do all of these great things, I have all of these creative ideas, but no way to express them due to lack of time. I have 2 brand new sewing machines that I've hardly used, lots of beautiful yarn waiting to be knit into beautiful objects, but that lack of time again.

What I need to do is set aside 1 day a week where I get to do what *I* want, be it sewing or knitting or baking or just whatever *I* want to do. It's hard though; DH seems to criticize anything that seems important to me. If it doesn't benefit him in some way, it's just a waste of time . Like today, I was flipping through a cake decorating book, thinking that might be fun to do someday, and DH says "You won't even bake me cookies, why would you want to do that?". I just put the book back & walked away, ready to cry.

I get really depressed this time of the year, because school is almost over, and that means the boys will be gone for the summer at their dad's soon. It drives me crazy, worrying about them down there. It's 3 hours away, so I can't visit them whenever I want.

Teesa®© replied: Men just don't seem to get it, do they? They expect us to do everything for them, but when it's time to do something for us, well, heck, it's like pulling teeth.

When mines sick, he just goes off and lays down. When I'm sick, I'm expected to cook, clean, do laundry, take care of the children and wash dishes. If I want to lay down he has the nerve to say, "How come you get to sleep? I never get to sleep and I work all day!"

I'd love to have my children gone for the summer, but I don't have that option. Does your ex have MSN so you can chat with them whenever you want? You'll be able to do your projects then that you've been wanting to do. You could at least get some started and then maybe work on them on the weekends once your boys are back.

Maybe you can also use that time to drill some sense into your DH's head

mommy~to~a~bunch replied: Oh, don't get me started on naps . My DH expects a nap everyday after work, and on the weekends, he spends about 4 hours a day sleeping. It's pure laziness on his part.

All I want is time to do the things I want, that's not asking for too much, is it??

Kaitlin'smom replied: everyone deserves 'me' time, and if you are wanting it then take it dont let him ruion it for you, if he makes a comment either shot one back or ignore it. I dont always take 'me' time and I should. I used to feel guilty and get the comments about it, but now when I need the space I take it and think of it as my time out and if anyone gives me grief I usualy snap back and then I get my space. Molly dont let him get you down.

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boyohboyohboy replied: Oh Molly, I so know how you feel! I agree with who ever said to take a look at your siggy! You have all those wonderful children but you still find the time to do all that extra special stuff thats puts just the right amount of caring into your family!
Your DH has no idea what a great catch you are!

sparkys2boys replied: Mollie, I am sorry that things are tough right now The postive things I see in you are that you are a great mom to 6 kids.. wow.. that's enough right there that you shouls be proud of yourself!!! I love that you are passionate about certain things in life and that you will stand up for what you beleive in but never in a negative way to others that don't agree. I love that you are creative in many ways with such a big family and do things in away that I can't imagine even with 2 kids..lol. Give yourself some ME time and don't feel quilty over it and the next time dh asks what youve done for him.. turn the the tables ans ask the same of him. And to answer him, gather up the 6 kids, all the baking, sewing etc that you do and say THIS is what I have done for you

Sam & Abby's Mom replied:
Is your husband's name Tim ?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm an avid baker and for some reason my husband DESPISES that! I'll never understand it.

Hang in there and keep the Faith --- that's what I try to do.

coasterqueen replied: Mollie, I'm here any time you need to talk.

msoulz replied: Mollie, I have learned a TON from you and I am glad you are here! Hope you are feeling better now. Have a nice night!

kit_kats_mom replied: Mollie, you need to pull up those boot straps and not let the "man" get you down. You are an inspiration to this mommie. I can't imagine how you do all you do. I get people telling me all the time that I'm a great, imaginative mom and I always thing "well, I'm not Mollie. I'm not cloth diapering, nursing, blah blah blah blah blahing" She's a GREAT mom, I'm just kinda keeping up.

I hope you get out of your funk soon.

gr33n3y3z replied: You are a good Mom
When the kids get older it will bc very enjoyable for you
I know my Aunt had 9 boys one right after another. When they were younger I remember her feeling the same way and depressed and not having time to herself but thats what She wanted and thats what she got.
Hang in there it gets so much better and even to this day she said she would never have changed it for the world.

mommy~to~a~bunch replied:

Wow, that's amazing for your Aunt! I know I'll miss it too someday, but sometimes it's hard right in the moment. I wouldn't trade any of it for the world either.

Sam & Abby's Mom replied: So,, are you feeling a little better ? I hope so !

mommy~to~a~bunch replied: About myself - yes. About DH - no.

lovemy2 replied:
Sorry to hear that - but feeling better about yourself is a very good place to start - I agree with whoever said it will be very hard to have your boys gone for the summer but try to use it to your advantage to get some more me time - maybe sticking DH with three kids will be less overwhelming to him than 6 and you can start to do some of the things YOU want to do - I imagine it will also make the time they are away go faster........

alice&arik replied: Mollie you are a great mom, I wish I could do have the stuff you do. You have so much patience it's unreal.

mommy~to~a~bunch replied:
Yeah, when I've suggested he watch all 6 kids, he gets this "oh crap" look on his face . If I suggest he watch Abby for x amount of time, he gets the same look . But now that she's getting bigger, he's not as afraid anymore. It helps now that Abby will actually want to be picked up by him now; before she just wanted Mama.

My2Beauties replied: Sounds like your DH needs a good kick in the rump You are a phenomenal person, yes you and I may bump heads but I do have the utmost respect for you in terms of your mothering skills and your earth friendly ideas, nothing but respect!! I'd definitely be leaving all 6 kiddos alone with your DH one day per week so that you can have "me" time for yourself. Whether you just go to a sewing class, a baking class, spend time with family/friends, heck just drive around and go to a park and walk around and feed the ducks...it's your time, do whatever you want to do!

mommy~to~a~bunch replied:
You volunteering to kick his butt LeaAnn ? That weekend almost 2 weeks ago still bugs me when he was gone ALL DAY & I was home alone with all 6 kids in a blizzard witht hem so stir crazy.

I'd probably go somewhere & park & just cry .

Danalana replied: I think we disagree about a lot of things but, from what I can tell, you are a good mother. And you are passionate about the things you believe, which is more than can be said about a lot of people.
Your worth isn't defined by your husband or even your kids...you are you, and there's nobody like you!

stella6979 replied:
I can't say I understand the situation with your Dh as Jeff is always willing to watch Avery and let me do my own thing. He actually takes her for a walk every afternoon so I can just sit and relax by myself. EVERYONE deserves a little "me" time especially when they have 6 kids and If I were you, I wouldn't even ask your Dh, just walk out the door and tell him you'll be home when you feel like it.

mommy~to~a~bunch replied:
Oh man, that WOULD be fun to do! I could also conveniently leave my cell phone at home too .

My2Beauties replied:
Sure!!!

coasterqueen replied: I know I get some me time, but most times when Ryan gives it to me it's because he's seen horns growing out of my head, smoke coming out of my ears, and my eyeballs turn red. I wish sometimes he would give me me time when that's not the case. KWIM? Although, I must be fair to him because I do not offer him me time unless he's looking like I explained above.