I swear one of these days I am going to swing - for my mother! Sorry this is long

Josie83 wrote: Alright if what has happened between her and my sister isn't bad enough, now my mothe rhas caused even more chaos. As you know, she is not the easiest of women and is really NOT happy about my life, particularly Cassie being born when I was 18 and unmarried Okay so as most of you know, my sister has been staying with us because my mother turfed her out of the house. Well, this morning, Jason had got up with Cassie while I was still in bed. He had JUST got out of bed with her when the doorbell rang so he just went to answer it, he was only wearing a pair of boxer shorts and Cassie had been sleeping one of my T-shirts. My mother barged in and started ranting to Jason how it was disgutsing him parading around in front of his child in nothing but his boxers, and that Cassie should not be in one of my tops because she has her own pyjamas She then found my sister in the living room and started having a go at her. I heard my sister stomp upstairs and went downstairs to see what the matter was (wearing a vest top and a pair of knickers - HELLO what I SLEEP in!) and my mother made some snide remark about me not knowing how to dress properly either and how I was setting "Cassandra" a bad example . . . and then she started having a go about the fact that Maria was still with us. She ended her little tirade with another her favrouite subjects, Cassie's speech (I don't know if you know but Cassie has a bit of trouble with her pronunciation even though her vocab and speech is pretty good)> She said that its no wonder that Cassie can't speak properly with us as parents and that she has got "no chance!" I was so upset, and jason had to ask her to leave. I don't understand what right she thinks she has to wak in upsetting everybody! Ugh I'm sorry this is so long but I just needed to vent Sorry this is so long xx

~Roo'sMama~ replied: Ugh, I'm so sorry you're mother is like that! I think If I were you I'd just burst in to tears every time I saw her coming. She's the one that's setting a bad example for Cassie by going off on you in front of her. Maybe you should move to the States to get away from her!

A&A'smommy replied: Josie I am SO sorry!! You shouldn't let her treat you that way, you and Jason are adults and you guys are Cassies parents and wonderful ones at that!! You mother is such a pill I would love to get my hands on her... I agree she is the one setting a bad example that is why I don't hardly ever let Alyssa see my mil because she is "unstable" lol anyway I hope she will leave you guys alone for a while! ((((HUGS)))))

akbutterfly83 replied: I'm so sorry she is being like that... and in frount of Cassie...... she is the one that is setting a bad exsample....... If I was in your situation.... I would have went off on her...

I kinda know what you and your sister are going threw...... my mother is the same way... but has a few more problems, but I wont go in to that...... but I just flat out tell her... "no..... this is my child... it's my life.... and I'm goind great without you..... I don't need this greef... so if you can't be nice you can just leave, and don't come around until you can be nice, and suportave....."

I wish you and your sister and family the best..... hope everything works out.....

((((((Hugs)))))))) for you and the girls......

ediep replied: oh my!!! josie, I am so sorry that you have to deal with that. She has no right to speak to you and your husband like that! How RUDE!!!!

Josie83 replied: Tell me about it . . . Sara, shall we come and stay at your for a few months She has really just got to stop. Ih ate the way she makes me feel like a bad mother, like I don't half the time already because I KNOW I had her young and I KNOW that Jason and I being at school all day isn't the best thing for her, but I dont need her to tell me. Her parenting skills leave a lot to be desired herself! And this thing she's got with Cassie's speech is the worst. It makes me feel awful for Cassie, because its just a pronunciation thing that she will grow out of, she speaks like a five year old just with a few sounds wrong. Grr . . . my patience is really pushed to the limit when that woman is around! xx

akbutterfly83 replied: I'm so sorry she's being like that...... ))))))))HUGS(((((((((

Don't listen to her... your doing great........ your a wonderful mother......

We all think you are a wonderful mom...... just look how smart your miss cassie is.... who cares if she can't pronounce some stuff, she's just a kid.... she's still learning...... I'm sure she couldn't speak as well as cassie, with the wide range of vocabulary either.... @ her age......

Well I hope things get better...... can't wait for more little miss Cassie stories.....

))))))))HUGS(((((((((( to you all again.......

kit_kats_mom replied: Your mom is really just pushing the envelope isn't she? does she want to lose the family? I would seriously just cut off all communication with her until she could learn to, at a minimum, control herself in front of Cassie. No child needs to hear thier mom and dad being berated by anyone.

MommyToAshley replied: I am sorry your mother is acting this way, especially in front of Cassie!

mammag replied: I agree with Cary. If she can't speak to you in a respectful manner, then it's time to cut off communication until she can.

I wouldn't worry about Cassies speach at all. When a child is smart like that they will say things that another child wouldn't but their speach still hasn't developed (as you wouldn't expect it to) but it's more noticeable because of the words she is using...am I making any sense?

Any way, I hope things improve for you! You are a wonderful mom so don't let what she says bother you......who is she to be judging you anyway?\\

loveydad replied: Remember that donut thing you told me? Tell her that. And use the world BLoody A lot.

momof2girls replied: Your mom is just awful my gosh, she is being so mean.
I would tell her she is not welcome to come over if that is the way she is going to behave...

Your sooo sweet Im sorry she puts you through this!

~Roo'sMama~ replied:
Lol ok I'll be watching for you! But be warned, being around my baby is going to give you baby fever!

danahas4monkeys replied: Josie, just wanted to add my 2 cents! you are a wonderful mother you are loving her and caring for her and there for her so much more than some kids get! as for being young, i was 18 when i had my first and 19 with my second, no maybe it wasnt the ideal time and was definitely not with the right man( another story another time) but babies come when babies come! some of lifes greatest joys are unexpected and unplanned! i come from a totally dysfunctional family and understand about having parents who dont approve of choices i made/make! dont let her get you down! and yeah for your husband telling her to leave! dana

Josie83 replied: Thanks everyone. I have cut her out but she just keeps returning! Li,e she just walks in the house without invitation She isn't invited to Cassie's birthday party but I feel so bad because I want my dad to come: Cassie LOVES her nonno. But I can't invite one without the other Oh well . . . hopefully it will all get sorted sometime! Thanks for your support everyone xx