I too am sooo mad at DH!

indywndy_04 wrote: I normally am gone from the house at work for about 11 hours (1hour each way to get there and 9 hours there). I went straight to soccer practice in my work clothes and then finally getting home I ran upstairs to change. He was cooking dinner (like he always does, which is great!) but was getting overwhelmed because the baby was starting to get fussy (mind you, I did not know any of this while I was changing my clothes) and then DH decides during the middle of his chaos to wash the bottles, sterilize them and clean the kitchen (he has WICKED OCD and can not stay still) So, when I come downstairs he lays into me for going upstairs and changing when he needed help. I am not one to let someone talk to me however they feel so I stand up for myself and defend myself. I also start saying "what is your point" about 1,000 times because I was sooo irritated at him. Well....guess what he did. He threw a pea in my face. Then he threw another....

ummmm - I don't think so, I grabbed the bowl of peas and they went all over the floor. Who cleaned them up? Not me!

What a jerk, he continued to be a jerk all last night and this morning as well.

MEN!

TheOaf66 replied: well that is 2 threads now about being mad at a DH...great I have no chance today do I I think Jennie would have a caniption if I would dump a bowl of peas on the floor Mabye while Jennie is at work tonight I should put Aiden to bed and go to sleep myself so I can avoid the that looks like it is coming to me

sorry you and the hubby got into

lisar replied: Fighting with peas. Thats a new one for me. Atleast they dont hurt when they hit you. Sorry I find the pea thing funny. But he was being a jerk.

lovemy2 replied: Sorry to hear you and DH had an argument - but I have to say if DH threw a pea at me - it would be game on and probably end up in a food fight with us both on the floor laughing -

Hang in there - you are adjusting to being back at work etc. it will come together for all of you soon

A&A'smommy replied: I'm sorry he was being a jerk, you didn't deserve that. But maybe there is something on his mind??

The pea thing cracked me up too, and if my dh had thrown a pea at me I would have DIED out laughing right then and there

indywndy_04 replied: I do agree, the pea flinging was pretty funny and my DH was actually embarrased that he did that but I was in no mood to laugh at the time. He is a grown man and should not act like that.




I believe it was a full moon last night, maybe that is what all the DH fighting is all about! I agree, run and hide!

Insanemomof3 replied:

bawoodsmall replied:
I think the word man in this is enough said. DH was throwing acorns at me so be glad it was peas. He thought he was being cute and was trying to annoy me.

Calimama replied: He threw a pea at you!? That would have ticked me off soooo bad at the time. Sounds like something my DH would do.

Twelve Volt Man replied: I HATE peas. I'd be mad, too.

NaturalMom replied: i think since you both have the traditional positions switched so it tends to get like that sometimes. maybe u could of sat back and realized where what he was saying came from. Any mom that is doing what he is doing, knows all to well about the frustration and the unrealistic expectations and crabbiness we give off when the spouse comes home and we are exausted. Thats all it was. He is human too. He should not of yelled at you for it but i dont think you took the time to see where his anger was coming from. If we all took the time to do that instead of just defend ourselves cuz we feel attacked, things in our relationships wouldnt be so difficult. Maybe if you would of said something like " i understand how you feel and where you are coming from, but i was just changing from my long day at work and i was planning on helping you. I know you are tired and i love you for all you have done today but i just need a few minutes to get out of my clothes and ready to help you! " Sometimes we let our pride get in the way and it turns into pea fighting! lol He was wrong to attack you but you were wrong in how you reacted. If this type of dialog goes on when one is upset, it makes for a much happier relationship and MUCH less resentment. Im sure if you talk to him like this next time it happens, he will realize that he was just letting out frustration and snapped at you when he knows he really shouldnt have. I know i do this all the time and thats something im working on. Us SAHM know this senario all to well and would like our hubbys to respond like i suggested instead of yelling back. So why not show by example ;-) Im saying this to offer a different point of view and help you, not pick on you ;-)

indywndy_04 replied:
wow, thank you. I feel like I should be paying you now or something.
You are right though, but I was just as tired as him (because I stay up with the baby at night as well as work full time) but, you are right. Sometimes we are just too tired to think straight.

NaturalMom replied: LOL believe me i understand completely! I have gone through that situation many times. Both ways too. Thats the only reason i see that point of view now. lol it took us 9 years of resentment and arguing to finally learn how to take a deep breath and evaluate before we yell. It doesnt work that way all the time tho. lol but we try! good luck girl ;-)