I'm gonna do it.

Danalana wrote: I'm really sad because I found out that some of you think I am a troll. Seriously, I'm fighting tears right now. I probably shouldn't even let it bother me, but I have been through a lot with yall here. Just knowing that anybody could think that about me takes the joy out of being here for me. I know I haven't posted a full-body picture, and I tried explaining that it is very hard for me. I NEVER get my whole body in pictures. But, if that's what it takes to ease your minds, I will do it. I will either do it tonight or tomorrow, and I will post it as soon as I take it.
I have met mommy2isabella and was going to meet alyssa'smommy but it just never worked out. I know yall don't know me in real life, and I guess you have had some bad luck with trolls...it still hurts my feelings, though, and I guess it's because I DO know me.
Anyway, I will be posting a picture soon. Tonight or tomorrow. I don't know that I will be around much, but I will contact Jessica (mommy2isabella) or Ally (moonmama) when Kade is born. And I might get up tomorrow and my feelings don't feel completely trampled, but for now....I'm upset.
I'm not mad at anybody who has been asking for pictures because I completely understand. I just don't know if I wanna stay where some people don't trust me. In the event that I don't hang around, thanks for all the support, encouragement, and friendships I have made here.
Oh, and you can look for the picture in this thread.

luvmykids replied:

I was going to try to say something to make you feel better, but can't really come up with anything other than I'm sorry

PrairieMom replied: I don't think you are a troll.

Swood75 replied: Dana,we ALL love you here and know you have a hard time with pics..I am sorry you feel like that..I don't think that of you...Please don't go!!

A&A'smommy replied: I'm sorry honey, and I still want to meet up sometime!!!! I wish I could say something to make you feel better!!!

Danalana replied: Jessica, if you wanna meet me, I am going to the doctor on Tuesday. And you probably saw the new hair post, so you would know it was me.

I took the picture and will be posting momentarily. I have just installed new Kodak software and it's a little different. it might take me a minute.

I know most of you probably trust me. You just have to know me, I guess. I'm a bit sensitive anyway, and apparently pregnancy has made it all the worse. I think maybe there are just a few, but that just seems like too many. I wish I hadn't mentioned possibly not staying around, because I promise I wasn't trying to get you to ask me to stay. heck, you were all doing fine before I came along, and I know you'll do great afterwards. Gah, WHY am I crying??

Anyway, picture soon. Sorry it's not the best quality.

A&A'smommy replied: Don't cry!!!!! crap I have a dr. app on wednesday and I don't have the money to go two days in a row plus I have jury duty tomorrow

Swood75 replied: Jessica,we need some new pics of you..I am having to live vicariously(sp?) through all you pregnant girls as DH says no more...

Danalana replied: Here it is...I took it about 15 minutes ago. 38 weeks, 1 day. Sorry it's so big, but I didn't feel like resizing.



p.s. Notice the hand holding the camera. You might remember me posting something about my right hand (I know it looks like the left, but you know how pictures are) being smaller and stuff. Well, that's it.

luvmykids replied: WOW do you look AWESOME with short hair!!!! And FWIW, although you don't like your face, you really do look beautiful, and I'm not just saying that for the sake of your sensitive pg hormones

Swood75 replied: That is a WONDERFUL picture!!! You are BEAUTIFUL and should take more pics!!!

A&A'smommy replied: Dana you ARE GORGEOUS!!! You look AMAZING especially for being 9months pregnant!!!

Calimama replied: I hope you rethink it and decide to stay.

mckayleesmom replied: Honey.....Let it roll off your shoulders....There is always going to be some people that think a certain person is a troll. Heck...there are probably some people who think I am and every other member are. You can't please everybody...Just ignore it.

I never thought you were a troll because most trolls make up unbelievable stuff or go out of their way to cause trouble...You haven't done that...so don't worry about it.

BTW...you are very beautiful...you shouldn't hide. But I understand why you do...Im the same way, plus Im always taking the pictures.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Dana you are GORGEOUS!!

ps - Kudos to you for your bravery. I know it must have been difficult for you to post.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: COOL!!! We have the same hair cut! You look wonderful! You should be proud of that belly!


Dana, please do not feel like you can not post anymore... I am sure that everyone has questioned the identity of someone on these boards at one time or another. I know I have been questioned in the beginning-I think it is the nature of the beast, so to speak. We all share alot of information about our kids,lives, and selves so it is natural for questions to arise. I think your picture will lay alot of fears to rest (if there were any to begin with!)

MoonMama replied: Oh Dana girl you are beautiful! I hope you decide to stay.

gr33n3y3z replied: You look GREAT
Very pretty

Kaitlin'smom replied: OMG look at that glow, your simply stunning. THANK YOU for posting the pic, I just like to see full shots to see the glow, I dont feel like I ever did and no one told me I was glowing when I was PG so its nice to see and tell some one something I longed to hear. BTW LOVE LOVE the hair cut on you.

luvbug00 replied: you look great! i neve believed you were a troll.

lovemy2 replied: You look absolutely beautiful - pregnancy I imagine has only made you more beautiful

Please don't go - we would miss you terribly - unfortunately you can't please everyone in life but the ones who you have would feel really bad if you were gone

My3LilMonkeys replied: As usual, I have no idea what is going on...but that's a great pic! You look gorgeous - and we have the same shower curtain!

MomToJade&Jordan replied: Dana you are beautiful and I can't wait to meet your little one.

PrairieMom replied: YOu look great. I LOve your new haircut. It suits you.

Our Lil' Family replied: You are BEAUTIFUL Dana!!! That haircut looks SO GREAT on you!!!! I can't wait to see pics of your baby boy!!!!

lisar replied: Dana,
I never thought you were a troll. I was always curious on howcome you wouldnt give us a full body shot, but didnt think you were a troll.

And you a beautiful person you need to take more pics like that.

sparkys2boys replied:
I agree Dana, I always wondered why you wouldnt show us a full pic of you being pregnant but never thought you were a troll. I am sorry that this has happended and don't want you to be upset or leave. Its a message board and that in its self leaves room for questions. You have did it now and should feel great you are very beautiful and should never be so shy about yourself in the futur

Kaitlin'smom replied: in looking at your beautiful pic again with that cute new do you remind me of someone I just cant think of who.....when I do I will post it. dang its going to bug me.......

momofone replied: You look great and I hope you stay

Mommy2Isabella replied: Dana you look STUNNING honest you are a beautiful pregnant person!!

I hope to hear from you about having that baby soon!!

boyohboyohboy replied: dana, I think you look great too, and shouldnt feel self conscious at all! your new hair do is really perfect on you!
I know how you feel, about not wanting to post pics. i never take them of me, and i dont have many of me and the kids, or in our house for that matter..
i am the pic. taker in our family.
but you shouldnt let the feelings of others dictate what you are going to do. you enjoy the boards, and you enjoy the friends you made, so you should do what makes you happy.
you really do look so good!

stella6979 replied: Ok seriously.....how stinking cute are you!!
I really hope you stick around Dana as I always enjoy your posts. I can understand how some people would like to see full body pics, but when alls said and done, you have no obligation to anyone. Some people just aren't comfortable posting pics on a public message board for everyone to see and I can totally understand that. I look forward to hearing (reading) all about Kade once he's here.

coasterqueen replied: I think you look beautiful!!!! I hope you stay hun.

moped replied: Love the short hair girl!!!!!!!!!!

And the belly

And the shirt

3xsthefun replied: Dana, I'm sorry. You are beautiful!!

Please don't let a few people get you down. I have never thought you are a troll.

I really hope you decide to stay!

My2Beauties replied: You look gorgeous and you should never be ashamed to post pics of yourself. I'm sorry you were made to feel that you were a troll. I think we've had such horrible luck with them that we tend to get defensive when someone doesn't want to post pics or full body shots, we've had so many people steal pics it's not even funny, so please don't take anything personally. No one through you were a "troll"

Danalana replied: Ok, here's what happened. A moderator PMed me and asked me (though it wasn't mandatory) to take a full-body shot and send it to her, so that she and another moderator could see. Then that would silence whoever the people were who doubted me. I never was mad at this person, because I understand her position, and she (as well as everybody) has been very good to me here. It just hurt my feelings, because I know me and my heart. I guess I can't expect everybody else to know that too, but it still hurt.
Believe me, I know there are weirdos out there. I made a friend once (from Canada) and she ended up coming to the States. She turned out to be wacko and was tricking a LOT of people about a LOT of things. It didn't end well. But, even with all of that, I just don't think along those lines. Maybe once I have Kade, I will be more defensive about people on boards. Before I came here, I didn't even realize that fakes come on and steal pictures.
My problem with pictures is not that it's a public message board. It's not that I just don't take full-body shots for the internet. I never take them...ever. I hate seeing all of me in them. I won't even look at them if they are in my presence. I do understand why you wanted to see....some wanted to see pregnancy glow and some wanted to just verify that there was a pregnant body to go along with my face. I do understand...I wasn't trying to be stubborn. Some people have phobias about heights, crowds, enclosed places, etc. Mine are full-body pictures.
Anyway, thanks for all the kind words. As I said, you have all been good to me, and that's why it hurt so much to find out that some thought I was fake. So, that's the scoop. There wasn't anything on the board that you missed...just something brought to my attention.

HuskerMom replied: Wow you look great!!

Please don't leave us!

~Roo'sMama~ replied: OMGoodness Dana you are so pretty! I LOVE your new haircut - it's a great style on you.

I haven't been on much lately so I don't know what's been going on but I'm sorry your feelings got hurt. Don't feel bad - like others have already said we have had so much bad luck with people stealing pictures and pretending to be pg and have kids that aren't theirs, it's easy to get suspicious. I didn't ever think you were fake, but I have been suspicious of a lot of people, some of whom turned out to be fake and some who weren't, so I can understand. I can understand your not wanting to post pictures of yourself too... I hate seeing myself in pics too. But believe me you have nothing to worry about ~ you look great!

DillsMommy replied: dana--you are SO pretty! I love the hair and your beautiful baby belly! Please rethink everything and decide to stick around. Theres so many of us that just love ya.

holley79 replied:
Dana you look great girl! I love the new cut! It will be much easier to care for when Kade gets here. I was flippin HUGE when I was 38 weeks. You look darn good! Can't wait to see pictures of Kade.

Mommy2BAK replied: You should let this roll of your back Dana. You are a very real and I can say that for a fact!

danahas4monkeys replied: I think you look great!

Boo&BugsMom replied: Dana, I never thought you were a troll. And know what? If you were, I really wouldn't care, it's not like I don't have a life outside of PC, ya know? I think people need to realize that just because someone doesn't post pics, doesn't make them a troll. Honestly, some people are just afraid to post pics, and understandably so with the high volume of people on a site like this. You can never be too safe, and that also goes the other way. I'm on another board way smaller than this that consists of many people who wont post pictures simply because they don't want their pics floating around on the internet...and I RESPECT that, and I think everyone else should too!

And...you are gorgeous! Never let anyone tell you different, and that includes yourself.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
This is JMO, but I think that is way over the top to ask and I would have been not only mad, but felt very offended. Not because people thought I was a troll, but because I was even asked that. I don't think that is anyone's right to ask for something that personal, IMO. Makes me feel like I'm in high school to be honest.

holley79 replied:
It's very sad. I dont' post pictures of Annika any longer. Doesn't mean she is not my child. I think it is everyone's right to post or not to post.

Can't wait to meet Kade Dana!

lovemy2 replied:
Very well said as usual Jennie

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: The troll thing NEVER crossed my mind. I don't think it's anyone's business when it comes to posting photos. No one should be pushing IMO, but I know it happens. You have mentioned you suffer from an ED, so if anything, we all should be more sensitive to the fact it probably isn't easy having full-body shots taken of you. That's at least what I'm assuming since I've btdt. Sorry if anyone is calling names, I think it's unfair.

You are beautiful and I love the new haircut!! And I can't wait to meet that little Kade!

mom2my2cuties replied: Dana I'm sorry you are going through this. You are BEAUTIFUL!!! I love the haircut!

skinkybaby replied: I'm sorry someone upset you! And for what it's worth I think you look adorable!

I agree with Boo&BugsMom. You can't be too safe on the internet and I don't think anyone should be chastised for not wanting to post personal pictures for whatever reason they have. And it really doesn't matter to me if someone IS a troll. As long as they're not stealing someone's identity or stalking someone I just let it go. I usually get a good chuckle out of them

Danalana replied:
Well, she was very kind about it and she told me she didn't think I was fake at all, but that she wanted to be able to prove it to others so they could stop doubting me. I don't have an issue with her at all. Unfortunately, I'm one of those people who wants others to like me, and that was the hard part. Just knowing somebody thought I was a troll was upsetting. But the moderator who PMed me has been really great and supportive, and I can understand her wanting to be able to just put it to rest.

msoulz replied:
ITA totally - I have only posted a picture of Erin once and then I took it down not too much later. I have never posted Jake's picture. Too many unknowns out there to be displaying my babies to. And for someone to ask for a full shot is horribly intrusive IMHO, especially someone who has been very open about having issues with her body and an eating disorder!!

That being said, Dana I hope you see you would be very missed and will stick around.

MommyToAshley replied:
I agree... I think people are skeptical on the web because they are sharing information about their kids and because of past experiences... every message board has had a person turn out not to be who they said. And, I think just about everyone here has had their identity questioned or something about them. I am camera shy and very seldom post pictures of myself... so I am sure there are those that question me.

Try not to take is personal, it's just the nature of the internet. That shouldn't take away from the fact that you have built some great friendships here, or take away from you enjoyig the boards.

I happen to think you are BEAUTIFUL. I am not just saying that to make you feel better. I love the hair cut.. it's super cute!

julesmom replied: I never thought you were a troll. I have never posted any pictures. I don't post pictures online for the world to see. But, I am not a troll. I just lurk more then I post. People probably think I am a troll!!

I had to come out of lurkdom to say YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!! I just wish I looked that great at 38 weeks pregnant! You look awesome. Pregnancy definitely becomes you. The short hair cut is great too! You're one HOT momma!!

Ok, back to lurking.................

Danalana replied: Just to be clear, the moderator didn't ask me to post one on here...only to send one to her, if I was able to do it. I chose to post it here...might as well get it out there, if I'm gonna do it huh?

Danalana replied: I wanted to add that I appreciate all the kind words and PMs that lots of you have sent. I didn't expect it at all...thank you!

kimberley replied: i am sorry you were hurt. i think you are a beautiful girl.. inside and out.

Kentuckychick replied: OMG! I'm not sure I've ever seen a pregnant woman look so glowing and beautiful. I think it's the whole package -- the glow, the cute haircut and I love your outfit!!

You look amazing. And I think it's sad that anyone thought you were a troll!

Danalana replied: Gosh, thank you.

redchief replied: 'Nuff said already. Anything else would be beating... well you know. I did want to say that you are beautiful, Dana.

I totally understand how you feel about your personal phobia. Mine is appearing on the evening news. I have to figure out how to do interviews without sounding like a total idiot. One of these days, perhaps. I'd like to borrow Ted Koppel's voice. His confidence wouldn't hurt either.

jcc64 replied: I'm totally with Jennie on this. I don't really understand how a full body shot fully authenticates someone, anyway. Anyone with a modest proficiency with Photoshop can work around that one. (refer to today's child predator thread for proof).
We cannot litigate and insulate ourselves out of every possible danger, fake, etc... These kinds of things are the price of living in a free society that allows the unlimited exchange of information. If it means that we occasionally have to be duped by a troll, so be it. But I refuse to operate in an atmosphere of extreme paranoia- it degrades us all. You're a much bigger person than me, Dana. I wouldn't have capitulated. Your reasons for not posting a full body shot are your own, and you don't have to explain yourself to anyone, imo. You shouldn't have to step outside of your personal comfort zone to satisfy the misguided paranoias of a few suspicious and mistrusting members. (and I'm not referring to the mod that requested this, but the member(s) that instigated this inquisition.
My language is strong, b/c I think this situation is wayyyy over the top. I'm sorry you got hurt, Dana, really. And tbh, I don't really care if my post pisses anyone off. I think this is pretty ridiculous.

Jackie012007 replied: Okay, FYI - I am the one who had concerns that Dana was a troll. And I've tried to just keep my mouth shut but it has been blown up WAY out of proportion and before you all continue to judge me without knowing the other side of the story, here are the facts.

I had concerns and asked people that I trusted IN CONFIDENCE (or so I thought), and when those people eased my mind about Dana's legitimacy, I was totally HAPPY and satisifed, and thought it was done. But no, there were some who felt the need to perpetuate it and tell her and apparently make her take a picture of herself. I want to make this clear that I did not, IN ANY WAY, ask a mod to do this. I'm not even sure who the mod was that did this - I have my suspicions but don't know for sure.

I have shared pictures of my daughter from in utero up until her first birthday with all of you, as many of you have done. I had a really hard time with the whole Amanda situation - I got to know her, bonded with her, and she eased my fears about being a young first time mother - only to find out she was a bored 18 year old girl. This all came to light while I was in the hospital having carly via an emergency c-section - I came back to total chaos and it really messed with me.

Dana, I am sorry I doubted your legitimacy, but you know what? It wasn't so long ago that people on here were calling ME a troll and asking me to post a picture with my newborn THE DAY I came home from the hospital because they thought I was fake. And I sucked it up and did it - it hurt my feelings, but I took a picture of me, Carly and a sign because I was asked to.

It makes me laugh to see so many people on here appalled at the thought of a member being asked to show a pic when it was standard procedure not too long ago, and these were the same people I was told were questioning MY legitimacy and asked ME to take a proof picture!!

And I have since forgiven those who doubted me and put it behind me.

Things weren't adding up to me and I was concerned for the people I care for on here, and myself. SO I asked a simple question, and it has been blown way out of control. I did NOT call you names, I did not ask a mod to make you take a picture of yourself, I don't hate you, I don't want you to leave PC - the things I am being accused of did not happen. I had a simple concern, I asked someone I trusted, and they betrayed that trust - I didn't even want Dana to know I was questioning her legitimacy, I was just concerned and when someone told me she was in fact legit, i was THRILLED because I like your posts, Dana - i was just paranoid and for that, I'm sorry.

I think its really unfair to continue painting me as this horrible person set out to hurt Dana, when none of you even knew what really happened. So before you continue to bad mouth me on this post, take a second to read this and see my side of the story. So, flame on if you must, but I am very tired of this. Thank you for letting me tell my side and Dana, I am happy for you, I hope your birth goes well and please keep posting.

MyBabeMaddie replied: People need to realize that by forming ANY relationship with someone online they are taking a chance of befriending a liar. This is this internet, anyone can do/say anything they want, and who's not to believe it? I'm sorry you got hurt Dana, and you look stunning in your picture!
I hope you have a great birth experience and decide not to leave PC - I wanna see some pics of Kade!

CantWait replied: Dana, I never thought you were a troll so I hope you don't feel as if I felt that way about you. I honestly just like to see pictures of my OLFriends whenever possible. Makes it more real, ya know.
On the other hand, I can absolutely understand anyone doubting anyone that hasn't proven themselves (wrong choice of words, but I don't know how to word it). It's hard with people on the net to truly believe in everyone.

You're an absolutely stunning woman.

Kaitlin'smom replied:
happens in real life to...... you might think someone is a good friend then bam they snap

Sam & Abby's Mom replied: Dana, you are gorgeous, girl !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Boo&BugsMom replied:
That's the truth! The trials and tribulations of life I guess. People are nuts, and they are everywhere...internet, around the corner, next door...you name it.

grandma replied: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7GcVnhNjWV0

This thread made me think of this Brad Paisley video.....

Boys r us replied: Hmm..I'm so so sorry Dana that you were put through this! ...and that's all I'm going to say for fear of saying more than I should! I happen to be the same way..HATE HATE HATE pictures of myself. When I see a pic of myself, my eyes INSTANTLY pic out every flaw I have and then some..things most people would never notice and sometimes things that aren't even legitimate. So, I completely 110% get EXACTLY where you are coming from not only not wanting to take pictures of yourself..but much less share them with everyone!

I hope that you know, somewhere inside, that you are AMAZINGLY beautiful...

bawoodsmall replied: You really are beautiful!!! I hope you stick around I am looking forward to seeing Kade.

holley79 replied:


I love that song/ vid.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Dana you are an incredible person. And you are so beautiful. That new haircut is perfect for you.

I'm sorry your feelings were hurt. I've been called lots of things in my life, some of which were probably true at the time, but it still hurts. I'm glad you aren't going anywhere.

Crystalina replied: All I have to say is if I ever get pg with #3 (btw AF is here ) and you all expect a pic from me your SOL because that ain't happening. I don't have that cute little belly that most of you post so I'm not posting. Uh-uh. Better start slapping that troll label on my forehead if you must.

Dana, I never doubted you and I remember the pics you and Jessica posted from your visit.

grandma replied:
Crystal,
not only do we demand to have a preggo picture of you, we want it in the buff....

Crystalina replied:

Aw heck! You will be waiting for quite awhile.

Danalana replied:
Jackie, I was never told who the person (s) was. I wasn't going to ask, and the moderator was keeping it private. I don't think she would have told me if I had asked, and that's the right thing to do. If you hadn't told, I never would have known and that was fine by me. I'm not mad...yes, my feelings were hurt, but I also haven't ever been on a board where there was much doubt about who anybody was. I'm not holding a grudge and, honestly, I thought it was a whole mass of people who thought I was a fake. I don't care if one or two people do because I guess that's the nature of the internet. And, like somebody said, any photo can be doctored to look real (EXCEPT by me, because I totally stink at photoshop). I mean, I could have taken a picture with something under my shirt to make me look pregnant, KWIM? Anybody can do that. I started to take one with my bare belly, but I just couldn't. I will if I need to, but I'd rather not. I'm just saying that there will always be fakes. I'm on a pregnancy board and God only knows who is faking on there, but I don't dwell on it...actually, I don't give it a lot of thought. Of course, I haven't gotten as close to them because everybody's so busy getting ready to have babies.
The point is, I'm not angry and had no idea who it was. I seriously doubt anybody else could have known unless you told them.

kimberley replied: Jackie, i am not sure where all of this is coming from. In all of the mod discussions I am aware of, your name has never been mentioned. Had you not posted in this thread, I wouldn't have known you brought concerns to anyone. Dana was not told to post a picture on the board, she chose to do so.

As for telling Dana that her authenticity was questioned, that is standard practice. We would never tell who said what. We are here to keep the peace, not stir trouble. I have not read anywhere that someone hated Dana or wanted her to leave the board.

If someone has said these things to you, I strongly suggest you forward those messages to an administrator. Otherwise, I suspect it might just be a case of conscience.

I don't think you are a horrible person and from the sounds of it, neither does Dana.

Danalana replied: I know some were probably suspicious that I either posted head or belly shots, but not both. I would have only done my head, but it's my belly that's pregnant so I had to show that. If my head looked pregnant, that would suffice, but it just looks like a regular ol' head. And because of the full-body phobia, it was just nature for me to do one or the other. Since the other board I'm on is pretty easy-going with just belly shots, it just never occurred to me that I was making anybody feel uncomfortable. I didn't mean to at all.

Insanemomof3 replied: Dana, you are one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen.

Danalana replied: Awwww, thank you, Denise

A&A'smommy replied:
your so crazy!!!! GIRL I DON"T have a cute little belly either but I STILL post pictures (although I haven't in a while)

Danalana replied: I wish mine was little. I saw some former co-workers the other day and one of them asked if I was having twins See, in the shot I took, that shirt makes me look smaller. I'm actually quite large.

CantWait replied:
Dana stop apoligizing, you have NOTHING to apoligize for.

Danalana replied: Ok. I just wanted to make sure everybody knew that I would have done it sooner if I had known it was really a big issue.

tammyhopkins replied: WOW where have i been!! You look great i love the short hair. I wish i looked that good pregnant but i do not get a glow LOL.

As everyone has already said i did not ever think you were a troll. I have never posted pics of myself I hate pictures of myself as well and prefer not to have to look at them. Jen (moped) my sister has been begging for a preggo pic and well she still has yet to see one lol.

Anyway I trust you as well by the sounds of it everyone else does.

Bamamom replied: Girl you know I have always been one of your biggest fans. I prayed so for you when you were trying to get pg and was so thankful when you did. You are one of the few members of the board that DH knows by name. You are beautiful - but I knew that before I saw your picture. (Yeah so that was a little over the top and cheesy - I'm pregnant - blame the hormones not me )

Danalana replied: LOL.....I know about the hormones!
And thank you

Danalana replied:
Thank you, Tammy!