I'm very annoyed today

mckayleesmom wrote: I just feel like complaining....anybody want to join me. We are having some financial difficulties right now and it's just making me moody and making all the things that annoy me annoy me even more. OUr financial difficulties should be better soon.

Here are my list of complaints

1. McKaylee is home from school today because I can't send her back until she is puke free for 24 hours....and she is trying my nerves.

2. I hate that my child doesn't qualify for free or reduced lunch at school, but the ones that are wear shoes that would have paid for 3 months worth of lunches at full price...

3. I hate that dh didn't get a bonus this year

4. I hate that we have no savings...not for the lack of effort, but we have moved 6 times in 5 years and everytime we save..we move and have to use all of it for deposits and junk.

6. I hate that everytime it rains my whole tree ends up in my yard.

7. I hate when my husband grocery shops and spends more then he could have....he just grabs and doesn't check prices...For example..the hamburger he bought today for $4 I could have got for $2.

8. I hate that this is ER's last season.

9. I hate that when I'm annoyed I tend to take it out on my kids....and they notice. This morning Mckaylee told me I needed to stop yelling so much.

10. I hate that they don't listen to me the first time...which causes me to lose my temper and yell.

11. I hate when I run out of laundry soup for 1 day. That one day causes me to get so backed up.

12. I still hate the 2 x concentrate laundry soap.

13. I hate that a check we are expecting still isn't here yet.

14. I hate that my kids have no clue what a trash can is...despite being shown one all the time...

15.I hate when schools tell kids about stuff and get them all excited to go and or participate. Although we have been fortunate enough to participate in almost everything this year...I hate feeling obligated because my child was already told about it and got excited about it...kind of makes it hard to say no.

Calimama replied: I hope your day gets better.

I don't really have any complaints other than I woke up to Miabella who has diarrhea today and her sheets, clothes, and body were hit. Oh... and now her room smells. BARF!!

But this time last year we were getting ready for DH to leave... so this year it's pretty hard for me to find something to complain about.

mckayleesmom replied:
UGH...I hate diareah days...Poor Miabella. I hope she feels better soon.

lesliesmom replied: Wow, I could have written almost all of your list myself (financial included)... I know how it feels.. for us it's a constant uphill battle and never seems to look like it's getting any better... there are days I just want to through it all in and be done with everything (car, house, work - you name it). I hope you feel better soon!! And I hope McKaylee is well enough to go to school tomorrow so you can get a break of sorts.

lisar replied: My complaint for the day is

Are yall ready for this one

My ex paid the lawyer for the adoption and the lawyer just called and told me that the check bounced. And he wont answer my calls or call me back and I have texted him and he wont answer those

TheOaf66 replied: 1. McKaylee is home from school today because I can't send her back until she is puke free for 24 hours....and she is trying my nerves.--yep


4. I hate that we have no savings...not for the lack of effort, --yep


8. I hate that this is ER's last season.--yep

9. I hate that when I'm annoyed I tend to take it out on my kids....and they notice. This morning Mckaylee told me I needed to stop yelling so much. --Tanner tells me to calm down

10. I hate that they don't listen to me the first time...which causes me to lose my temper and yell. --BIG YEP

lovemy2 replied: WOW - your glass is really half empty huh

Days like that I try to see the things that are good - like you have a DH who isn't in Iraq, your kids although they were puking are healthy, and you do have a roof over your head - some do not -

AlexsPajamaMama replied:
ooh poor baby girl I hope she feels better soon

we have the ickies at my house too, I just feel so blah today and its rainy and cold

I have a list of complaints too

AlexsPajamaMama replied:
This is what gets me through my negative days too....there are always people out there who are worse off than you are. We may not have any money to spend but our bills are paid and we have food on the table and a roof over our heads.

lisar replied:
Yea my problem is that we are getting deeper and deeper into the hole and the bills arent getting paid like they should. Oh I just wish I could get weekend job.

mckayleesmom replied:
Very true.

It just gets frustrating sometimes. I just hate that when we need help...we can't get it because we get this....MAKE TOO MUCH . There is never any help for people that just need help ...sometimes. When we do occasionally fall on hard times there is no help for us because he is higher ranking....but they never consider the fact that last year we barely survived because they put us in an area that hadn't been updated in years. We get paid on the cost of living scale for the area.....but some places haven't been evaulated in years. Here we do ok for cost of living when we first got here, but they need to consider Gas prices, grocery's going up...everything going up. My husband makes a straight salary...he doesn't get overtime and is not able to make more when the need arises.

We are still picking ourselves up from living in Jackson, Alabama. We are still paying off a high payment loan that we took when living there just to survive...It's paid off in about a month...till then ...we struggle on.

mckayleesmom replied: Oh..and nothing irks me more then seeing a parent paying with food stamps at the store. I'm all for welfare when needed, but when their kids are decked out in baby phat, nike, ...all the expensive brands....Drives me nuts. Oh wait...when the same person walks out to a brand new car that is all spruced up with rediculous rims complete with sound system....

We have never even qualified for WIC and we struggle ...not all the time..It comes and goes, but my kids wear Target, Walmart...occassionally name brands from places like Marshalls where it's last season.....but I have never spent more then 30 bucks on their shoes and that was one time for Mckaylee and 2 days later the dog chewed the velcrow and that was the last time.

ZandersMama replied:
THings arent always what they seem. As far as the clothes go, i get assistance, and both my kids have nikes that I got for 1$ a pair at the Salvation Army. I know its frustrating, and I totally understand, but sometimes, things are differant then they appear.

jem0622 replied: Well you just about covered my gripes so I'll give ya an 'Amen!'

My other annoyance is that I thought I made it to round 3 for a job that is very close to home and would have allowed me to do so much more and have better quality of life...but I was told I didn't make the cut (by my mother who checked in for me).

lovemy2 replied:
That is a good point and so are Brianne's you are right Bri - DH and I have been there too - we made just enough too much to be able to get help when we needed it for a short time period - it is frustrating and I agree with the point too that things aren't always what they appear - my kids wear Walmart, Target and also consignment clothes too not because we struggle financially - fortunately we don't - we aren't rich but we both have good jobs but we both also work hard and try to make our dollar go as far as possible - there will always be those that abuse the systems but more often there are those who need it and use it as its intended....

Can you try to get a PT job or is it too hard with daycare, etc.? Maybe now that McKaylee is in school FT and you only have to put Russell in daycare? Maybe at the schools so you would have off when they do? Just a thought. I kinda think in these times people have to be creative and think out of the box sometimes and be willing to give up their SAHM status if need be.......ETA that I don't mean to say you aren't willing to do that - I just meant in general.

mckayleesmom replied:
It is possible and has been thought about, but with dh's hours I would have to put Russell in daycare and that would take what I make here. We are just trying to hold out till next year because Mckaylee's school has a preschool program and it is all day and Russell will be eligable for it.....It is also only 60 dollars a month and the lady said that most military qualify automatically....which we never qualify for anything...so we shall see. I have been thinking of getting a job at night, and there is a place opening up nearby that is a good prospect, but its not open yet.



I know that sometimes it's not what it seems, but I also know that sometimes it is. You never know which is which, but its still aggrevating. I see moms at Mckaylee's school all the time and know for a fact that that they get free lunch and are on assistance and the moms come walking in with name brand designer clothes, purses and acrilic nails newly done and hair that just came from a salon and it just irritates me. I volunteer in Mckaylee's class sometimes and I know most of the kids and their parents. There were ladies just like I described above that I sat next to on orientation day and watched them fill out those free lunch forms.

lovemy2 replied: I know - it is frustrating - hang in there though - things always have a way of working themselves out when you are really commited to doing what you have to do to make it happen