In all seriousness, how do you politely tell - someone they're driving you crazy

My2Beauties wrote: OK I have this really good friend. I will say this, she is the dingiest person I have ever, and I mean ever met in my life. I'm not joking you guys, she is as dumb as a box of rocks. I don't mean to be mean about it, but she say stuff like Kelly would on Married with Children or something. OK as an example so I can give you background info on her, we had just moved into our new house and our dishwasher got delivered she comes over. Our dishwasher is sitting in a box that says DISHWASHER really big on it and it's sitting right in front of the old dishwasher that we're taking out and replacing and she goes oh what's this? Dh and I were like um.... a dishwasher and she was like oh so it's a dishwasher in that box? We're both like yeah and she goes where are you putting it? Excuse me!! Um...where the old one is at now!! I mean she says stuff like this all the time, and you guys she is as serious as a heart attack when she asks these questions ok, serious!!! So anyways, so on top of all that, which really gets on my nerves because she's a sweet girl but just is sooooo stupid for a lack of better word. She also calls me like 10 times a day for the DUMBEST reason. Last night she calls me at 11pm (I have a 4 month old baby, my cell phone sits right beside my bed on my charger at night, my 4 month old sleeps in a bassinette right beside my bed too....and again I have a 4 month old and she calls me at 11pm to say I'm gonna e-mail you tomorrow! WTF I was like hey you woke my baby up, she was like oh I did, I'm sorry! Then she kept on going and going about e-mailing me about a job where I work at now. I've been here for a combined total of 2 weeks, I really can't just be buddy buddy with the recruiter and magically get you a job. She calls me at work sometimes 3-4 times in 1 hour if I dont' answer my cell phone. I've told her before to stop doing it. She's been fired from 2 jobs in 1 months time you guys and she wants me to feel sorry for her, quit doing stuff to get fired ya know. She has this boyfriend of 6 months and everyday it's something different about how he doesn't want to be with her, one day it's he isn't cut out to be a step father, the next day it's just him not wanting to settle down, the next day it's something else. He dumped garbage on her head for pete's sake and he pushed her up against their kitchen cabinets, drew back like he was gonna hit her and hit the cabinet beside her head...ok LEAVE HIM ALONE! Im' so tired of telling her. He makes three times as much as she does and complains if she doesn't pay for her own dinner, after he asks her to dinner Then she'll say soemthing like (the next day) well we talked and he is just confused and says he loves me. How do I tell her that #1 - it's getting old I'm tired of telling her to leave him alone or whatever, seriously. Quit calilng me about it if you're not going to do anything about it. #2 - she needs to stop calling me 10 million times a day. I mean she's so rude about calling, I can remember one time I was at an OB appt and you're not allowed to talk on your cell phone in the dr's office as everyone knows. Well we used to work at the same place and I e-mailed her before I left, i said going to the doc talk to you later. So she calls, I was like I'm already herein the waiting room, call me back later. She said I have a quick question (it was stupid, i can't remember what it was about) so I answered and said I'll call you back when I'm done. Do you guys know she called me 5 MORE TIMES!!! Twice while I was still in the waiting room and 3 more times while I'm getting my OB check-up exam. I was LIVID! Then when I call her back she's like hey what are you doing? WTF do you mean what am I doing??

Don't get me wrong, she's a sweet girl, I love her to death and I think she has a heart of gold BUT...she is soooooooo freaking annoying so without being rude or coming across sounding mean or outright ignoring her calls, how do I get her to quit?

Edited for spelling!

TheOaf66 replied:
where is Bill Engvall...."here's your sign"


sorry I have no advice

luvbug00 replied: my friend kim does this sometimes too. so i just distance myself a little and if she asks i say i was busy. i don't think there is a polite way to tell somone what you want to.

Boo&BugsMom replied: Is your friend my cousin??? Sounds just like her. Calls me ALL the time and leaves like 5 messages a day. Well, she did, until I stopped answering the phone that is.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: LeaAnn, do you want to be her friend or not? You weren't totally clear on that. She bugs you, but you say she has a heart of gold and that you love her to death. I'm confused. I guess what I'm trying to say is if she bugs you this bad, I would just start distancing yourself. Screen your calls. Don't invite her out. Keep saying you are busy with the new baby. Turn into the friend that just doesn't have time right now. I know that sounds rude, but come on, you don't have time for people who don't understand that babies are ALSEEP at 11pm at night!!! You obviously have told her that it isn't polite to call you that late, but she doesn't get it. In my mind, you've done your part - you were honest with her, but it's still not sinking in! So move on. Sorry, JMO.

A&A'smommy replied: I'm sorry I have a friend kinda like that, well she use to be anyways until I finally told her that I HATE talking on the phone and I sometimes don't mind it at night now she only calls once a day unless I tell her to call me back or unless she actually has something important to say Just tell her that you can't talk on the phone at work (and if you actually need to tell her something email her ) and then tell her that you don't talk on the phone after 830 pm or something its hard I know

redchief replied: How about,
"I'm sorry, but Miss South Carolina is on call-waiting, and I find her conversation much more intellectually stimulating. Perhaps while you're waiting for me to get back, you can solve the problems in the Iraq? Bye, hon."

Edited: Spelling... so much for my genius.

AlexsPajamaMama replied:
lol sounds good, it sounds like it would confuse this girl more than anything though!!

I say distance yourself too. It wouldnt be lying if you told her you dont have time to talk on the phone a million times a day. I hope you get it worked out soon and she stops driving you crazy with her dumbness

gr33n3y3z replied:
Rae has good advice

MommyToAshley replied: It is apparent that she doesn't take clues or hints very well. If you want to continue a relationship with her, I would just set some ground rules. It sounds like she needs it spelled out exactly. I would tell her that you can't receive phone calls at work and no phone calls after 7:30 PM at night. Or, tell her that she should email you instead of calling you -- whichever is better for you, just spell it out very plain and simple.

If you don't want to continue the friendship, I would do as the others suggested and screen your calls and distance yourself. Eventually, she'll get the hint -- maybe?

lisar replied: I agree with distance yourself as much as you can at first. She will get the hint eventually. Stop answering your phone, she will get it and quit.

My2Beauties replied:
You crack me up Ed! Yeah...like last night she calls. We had Desiree's open house, it was over at around 8:30 so I went over to MIL's and checked on Hanna and Aubrey, she said she'd keep them for the night since we had The Open House and Hanna is under the weather, didn't wanna send her to the sitter's sick. I'm on my way home around 9:00 and she calls. She's asking me if I have plans this weekend and I'm like well my girlfriend is coming in town from Indianapolis and there is about 5 of us all going out for a girl's night out, she's having a rough time so I said you can come along. I said but I'm on my way home now and Brian has to leave at 9:30 to work 3rd shift. I said we've been at an open house all night, I'd really like to spend some time with him before he goes to work can I call you back. She said yes. So not even 5 minutes later goes by, we're at home eating (I was pulling in the driveway when I got off the phone with her) and she calls back. I'm like well you know like I said Brian has to go to work in a few can you please call me back and she's like no can you please listen for one second b/c he's (her BF) is outside working on my car and I need to talk. Brian was PO'd at this point because we're eating and he could hear her on my phone asking me to stay on the phone so I was like can you make it fast please? So she goes on about how he told her today that she loves him more than he loves her and she is holding onto him and it's not gonna work out, so her next question is do you think I should ask him to go away with me this weekend to re-kindle our love DO WHAT?? This is a guy you've been seeing for 6 months, he dumped a trash can full of garbage on your head, he's told you numerous times that you are a financial burden on him because OMG he has to pay for your dinner when you go out to eat, for pete's sake, I yelled it out - I said HE!! No Leave him alone, get out of there, he's a jerk and he's not worth your time. I said make him think you're fine, tell him have a nice life, his loss end of story. So Brian chimes in, and he was like why is she acting so desperate, it's going to make things worse. So she was like ok you're right..I'm gonna leave - then she says can I stay the weekend at your house? OMG - she has nowhere to go. Bother of her parents and her younger brother are deceased, she has no family, her other brother works on barges and travels everywhere, he's only home every 4-6 weeks. What do you say?? I was like I don't know I'll talk to Brian about it. she's soooooooo needy! Then I start thinking what if she comes over and decides to stay for more than just the weekend? OMG I'd go crazy and probably commit a crime on her Anyways, Rae I like your advice, I'm to the point where I really don't want to be her friend anymore, because she is just a living breathing tick stuck to me and I have a family to worry about...she is so upside down in her life right now. I mean she moved out of her apartment 1 week and a half ago to move in with him and now he says this to her...Im' like boy you have yourself a winner there...she doesn't get a clue!

hoosier momma replied: I don't think just brushing her off is going to work for you. You are probably going to have to be blunt and tell her that she is a burden on your relationship with your husband and family. Tell her that you are a wife and mother and you cannot be around someone as immature and "out there" as she is. I would probably also have a serious (well as serious as someone like that can be) talk with her about getting her life together. And, I'm sure she has other friends she could stay with or some family somewhere or a little cash for a hotel. Good luck, she sounds like a nightmare. And, sorry if I sounded too harsh.

gr33n3y3z replied: Just tell her no OMG you will never get rid of her
bc ppl. like her just dont go away fast