Insurance...ugh

GavinsMommy wrote: My DH just told me that our insurance is going to be 200 a month once Gavin is born. I don't know what we're paying now but it's not much. He makes plenty of money, he just spends it all...so 200 is a lot if he keeps on spending like he does.

Well I just told him that once Gavin is born he can take me off the insurance. And that him and Gavin need to stay on it, but that I will come off of it so it will be cheaper.

And he was just FINE WITH THAT!

I'm guessing he thinks 200 is too much money because he wants to keep smoking all his precious cigarettes and buying his stupid pot.

I know I told him he could take me off but I wasn't expecting him to be okay with it.

God I married a jerk

Kaitlin'smom replied: oh how rude of him I hoep he really does not take you off

FroggyJK replied: I hope he doesn't do that!!! How horrible!

But if he does do it, make sure it isn't until after you are completely recovered from having the baby. I had complications after my last baby and had to have a D&C 6 weeks after she was born. Don't assume you are ok until after you have had your 6 week check up!!!

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Well that was awfully RUDE of him. Of course you need to be on the insurance!! You make sure you stay on the insurance...He can cut $$ in other areas!

Boys r us replied: Okay, Sweetie..HE IS YOUR H-U-S-B-A-N-D! that means he would never and should never just TAKE you off of his insurance and be left with no coverage! that's ludicris! CERTIFIABLY INSANE!
From all that I've learned of him, I can confidently say, that I'm not real fond of him. That aside, the other thing I've learned is that, you will have to stand your ground with him, b/c he's going run over top of you any chance you let him!
Stand up for yourself and DON'T LET HIM KEEP DOING THIS TO YOU!
Don't say, "you can take me off b/c it will be cheaper..." Because when you give him an out like that, it lets him off of the hook! trust me, if something happens to you, he'll be paying a heck of a lot more than $200 month for the medical bills!
Secondly, $200 a month is a a deal and a half for a whole family! For the 4 of us it costs be about $900/month..he should count himself lucky!

coasterqueen replied: I'll agree with Nichole here. Grrrrr.

GavinsMommy replied: Yeah I don't think it's a lot either Boys R Us. I think it's a great deal. And we CAN AFFORD IT EASILY! It's just it would probably interfere with his smoking especially since we're about to be paying for the baby too.

I put up with everything now because I have some insane hope that he is going to instantly grow up when he sees our baby for the first time bc that's what happened to my stepdad. And maybe he will. But if he doesn't stop smoking pot altogether...I am just going to have to leave. I can't put my child in that situation...to be taken away from me. NO way.

And don't worry...my mom isn't too fond of him either anymore. She really liked him at first but after that whole thing with me IM'ng him pretending to be a random girl...she doesn't really care for him anymore bc she thinks he didn't know it was me and thinks he's a cheater. I may never know!

My2Beauties replied: What an inconsiderate a-hole, excuse my french! First of all $200 a month isn't crap compared to what others pay for healthcare in America, he is getting off pretty good if you ask me, I pay $90 a month for my daughter and I and when me and Brian get married it's gonna be $200 a month easily if not more! So he needs to get off of his lazy pot-smoking butt and keep you on his insurance and deal with not being able to smoke his precious "smokes" or whatever else he does! Sorry men just tick me off today, I've read too many stupid men posts today!

AshleyRose replied: 200 is about how many dollars we will have to pay once the baby is born per month as well. Our health benefits are really good too. He better not take you off... I tell you, living life with no insurance is nothing to mess around with. Tell him that it can either be 200 a month.. a stable amount per month OR if something happens it can be thousands if something happens to you and your not covered.

Geez 200 dollars a month is nothing... its not like your asking for a boob job and a beamer!

gr33n3y3z replied: You need to be on the insurance you can not afford not to be on insurance before or after the baby is born. He will pay family rate any way so there will be no reason to take you off. He will just have to stop his ummm lala land crap. He has a family he has to take care of.

loveydad replied: Okay, no, pot!? If he's doing pot, that's not good! a baby doesn't need that kind of surroundings. I would tell him to knock off the pot!

favre4fan replied: Speaking from someone that went insurance less for awhile, STAY ON IT!!! I am still paying off medical bills from several years ago!!