Is this a bad idea?

mysweetpeasWil&Wes wrote: My BF just called me on Monday to tell me she got a positive PT last weekend! This is her first pregnancy and I am absolutely thrilled for her. I went out that day and bought her a cute Pregnancy Journal and a nice "congrats" card. But I haven't sent it yet. I'm wondering if I should wait until she hears a heartbeat and is further along before sending the gift, just in case. I hope no one is offended by me asking this...I will be there for her if she has a m/c, but I would hate for her to open my gift if this happens. So I'm wondering if you would wait or should I just go ahead and send it? She is only 5 weeks along, still hasn't even had a PG confirmation from her doc. WWYD?

PrairieMom replied: I had a similar situation with my SIL. I bought her the week by week book with a bookmark that said something about a blessing and joy of new life and all that. Then she started bleeding the morning of her 12 week appt. I felt just horrible. We thought for a long time that she had miscarried only to find out a month later that she was still PG. Anyway, at the time I felt just horrible. I would wait at least until she has her first appt.

CantWait replied: Well I'm not one that thinks of the negative, so I say go ahead and send it. Very thoughtful.

DillsMommy replied: I would send it. I think that's a very sweet idea.

gr33n3y3z replied: I would send it

grandma replied: I would wait til her first doctor's appt. But that's just me.

lovemy2 replied: I would maybe wait at least until after her first OB appt. - does she have a history of m/c or did she have a hard time getting preg? If not then I would probably send it soon - its not like if something god forbid did happen she wouldn't have wanted people to acknowledge that she was preg KWIM?

A&A'smommy replied: I dunno I'm kinda on the fence.. I think it would be sweet to go ahead and send it.. then again I dunno.. sorry I'm not much help

bawoodsmall replied: I think you should send it because god forbid if something does happen it wouldnt change the fact that you loved her so much and was so happy for her that you got her the card. I dont think the card would change how much it will hurt if it were to happen imo. KWIM????

Sam & Abby's Mom replied: I would give it to her now. At this moment, she's probably so excited that she could burst. Now is when she'd be thrilled to receive such a thoughtful gift.

There's never a full-proof time, KWI? My niece lost her baby in the 9th month.

sparkys2boys replied: I would send it, you can't sit and wait for the unknown KWIM.. its a nice gesture and I am sure if god forbid something was to happen she would never ever think of your gift as wrong. GL with the decision

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Since she already told you she was pregnant she doesn't seem to be the superstitious type. I would send it. I think it will just make it more "real" for her to get something like that and make her excited. It will give her something to read and look forward to. Obviously she is excited about being pregnant and therefore if she miscarries she will try again, and she will need the book. You guys are best friends. Best friends do things like that. Don't think any more of it. I got things from my best friend as soon as I saw two lines. It's not like she isn't going to buy things of her own in preparation.

boyohboyohboy replied: i would sent it too, remember how when you had your first you just loved all the books and reading everything about being preg..and there are things she might already want to put in the journal...
plus, she wants to share it with you, and getting that first gift is always so cool!

Calimama replied: I would send it!! Very sweet idea.

holley79 replied: I would send it.

Our Lil' Family replied: If she had a history of m/c I might wait but from what you are saying she doesn't, so there's nothing to lead me (you or her) to believe that she might, so send it on girl!! That's really sweet of you!

My2Beauties replied:
I agree. Very thoughtful of you.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Okay thanks you guys, I'll send it!

Nina J replied: I would send it. I am the kind of person who thinks along the lines of; if I don't send it in case something bad happens, what if it's tempting fate?

HuskerMom replied: That's a sweet idea. I think I'd send it too. I wouldn't be patient enough to wait anyway!

punkeemunkee'smom replied: That is so sweet! I would send it. Prayers for her to have a happy and healthy 9 months!

MommyToAshley replied: I would send it too. It is very sweet and you are so thoughtful to make such a gesture. She will love knowing that you are as excited as she is!

Congrats to your BF! H&H 9 months!