Is this normal - Testing Mommy behavior?
moped wrote: So a few scenarios that Jack does.......
1. the last few night he will say he doens't want a book tonight - I know he does, but if he says no then he is off to bed - of course crying for a book.
2. He sits up in bed until I get near the door then he will cry because he HAS to be laying down when I leave (his thing), so i go back lay him down and kiss him - this is a real annoying one
3. He pretends he is totally helpless when I am around - he can't eat by himself, he can't dress himself, NOTHING
Is this all just testing and am I doing the right thing by not "playing" his little games??
Maddie&EthansMom replied: ABSOLUTELY!!!
The kids do this to Scotty, too. Except Scotty plays the game.
Sam & Abby's Mom replied: OMG ! I've always wondered if this was normal, too !
We call it 'the game', also. ROFL
Sammy does it to both of us, but he knows Mommy doesnt play the game - so he wont cry as long. (I give him one more chance,,,and then 'that's it'. I walk away). Daddy, however, plays the game waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too long.
Sammy's been 'playing the game' for a solid year, now. He's 2-1/2.
I have to say the two things that pushes my buttons the most (regarding Sammy) is when he 1)plays the game 2) pushes Abby.
Good luck!
luvmykids replied: Mine all go through this
Macie: I don't want to read a book Me: Ok, goodnight then Macie: (on the floor screaming) I wanted a book. You never read me a book
Me: Do you want a drink? Macie: No I leave the kitchen, then she's inconsolable because she's thirsty and I said she couldn't have a drink
Don't buy it!
gr33n3y3z replied: you got it dont play his game he is just seeing what he can get away with and or get you to do that drove me nuts when mine did that
lisar replied: Oh yes the game. I hate it and it drives me completly insane. I just walk away when they start it. And then its all my fault cause I wouldnt give them what they wanted. Well they shouldnt have said they didnt want it.
moped replied: I wonder where they learn the "GAME"
Boo&BugsMom replied: Sounds like the "trying threes"! It does get better, I promise. The last one sounds like he may sense the baby is coming and getting jealous. Maybe he hears about the baby a lot? I remember Tanner being like that before the baby arrived and soon after. He would act "baby-like", still does a little to get attention once in awhile.
Just be firm. Consistant. He will see that you wont play his little games. But yes, all normal I'm afraid.
moped replied: Actually we don't really discuss the "baby" coming..............
I am glad it is all normal - but man it is annoying!!!!!
Insanemomof3 replied: Both my kids do this to me too. Tristan is worse right now and he is almost 6 now. It gets soooo frustrating. LOL
Boo&BugsMom replied: He does see changes in you though, the belly and all, and can probably "sense" it even if not talked to about it yet.
No matter the reason...just know it will get better. It might be awhile , but it will get better. Tanner's thing lately is playing at the dinner table. He's getting a lot better, but it's so annoying, like you said. Then once one thing gets better, it's on to another stage. It's always SOMETHING! Arg!
moped replied: My neighbor swears that all stages last 6 months!
lisar replied: I dont believe that. It depends on how fast you can change them. The stages that is. If its a bad stage then you can make it not last that long at all.
moped replied: True True!!!
A&A'smommy replied: I have NO idea but alyssa seems to be going through something similar here recently and lets just say its driving me CRAZY!!! I'm guessing its a phase though
Sam & Abby's Mom replied: 6 months ? I wish !
Sammy's been doing it for at least a year and he's still going strong.
Boo&BugsMom replied: Yep, it depends, I agree. Some of Tanner's stages have lasted beyond that, others have lasted less. It depends on what it is. The extreme stages we nipped in the butt. The less extreme, more annoying stages...those are the ones that seem to linger.
lovemy2 replied: See my response to your thread about him not eating - same thing here.....
tammyhopkins replied: 6 months that is the craziest thing i ever heard. Josh lasted in the aggresive stage for OMG like year and half.
And no i did not sit back and let it happen he is just a very stubborn child and takes alot more patience thab some.
moped replied: Oh I know - you are very good with him Tam!
Insanemomof3 replied: Share some patience with me??? lol I have zero patience and it is really hard for me to deal with the 'phases'. I am terrible.
mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: OMG, this could totally be Wil! Today was the worst. We were outside on our new playstructure. When it was time to go inside, he didn't want to go in the door I was going in, which was off the patio. He wanted to use the walkout basement door. So I said okay, go ahead in that door, but Wesley and I are going this way. But then he just sits there helpless like he can't open the sliding door, totally throws a fit. So I run down to the basement, open the door for him and of course, he then decides he wants to use the PATIO door instead. So same scenario happens there, he can't open that door and throws a fit. We seriously went back and forth (well I went back and forth, up and down stairs) until I just had to grab him to come inside. Drives me NUTS! Total game.
And everything must be done BY HIMSELF. If I try to help get his shoes on, "NO Mommy, I do it". But then he acts like he can't do it and yells for me to help him. Ugh. Same goes with the book reading at bed. And it happens at just about every meal.
Jen, you are not alone. Just normal toddler behavior.
moped replied: I am actually glad to hear all this - especially about Wil because Jack wil do the EXACT same thing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Lets all hope we survivie this!
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