Just a reminder

CantWait wrote: The news of Tamara has really taken me aback and left me in shock, but in hearing so it makes me realize that a reminder is in order.

Even though I have not met most of you, you are all VERY important in my life. You all have played a role for the last 7 years in who I am, and though we may not agree on some things sometimes and have different views on many many issues, you are very much loved and wanted and important.

I would hope that if the need was ever there, you could count on me or another member of this community to turn to in times of need. It's sad that something so tragic had to happen in order to say this.

Sometimes it's just not said to those in our world quite enough how important they are to be in our lives.

mckayleesmom replied: Ditto to what Marie said. I feel so sad knowing that Tam was struggling and she didn't feel she could come to us. I feel even more horrible that I didn't see it. Looking back I see little things that she posted, but those were not things you didn't see on most peoples pages.

I love you all very much and want you all to know that. Even if we don't see eye to eye on everything, you are still my family. They say it takes a village to raise a child..you are my village. You have helped me raise my babies. I don't care if we don't converse one on one everyday...if you need someone to talk to and I'm online...please talk to me.

I plan to be a pc member when I'm a grandma. I never realized we would lose someone this early in life like this.

boyohboyohboy replied: Marie, I totally agree with you! I love my friends and frienships I have made here just as much as my daily "real life" friends..

booey2 replied: I feel the same way. I have been here for over 7 years and in that time have come to feel like you all are a part of my real life. I talk to my DH about all of you like you lived down the street and we see each other regularly. I have no family or friends that live close to me so when I reached out here and was welcomed with open arms it is one of the best feelings I ever felt. Knowing Ihave a place to come where no one will judge me for decisions I have made, where seeing that my kids are not the only ones who will draw in the walls or drive me up the wall.

Thank you all for being here, I know I have away for almost a year now, I am still dealing with my grandma's passing last year and have yet to come to terms with it. But just knowing that you are here brings peace to me.


Terri

PrairieMom replied: ITA. All you ladies here at PC have been such a huge part of my life. You have helped me through 2 pregnancies, and Ben's toddlerhood. I have learned so much from you guys. I can't imagine parenting without you.

My2Beauties replied: ITA, I need to start coming back here and posting more often and keeping up to date! We all get so busy and forget to tell our friends and loved ones what they mean to us! RIP TAM!

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I have only met a few of you. But you have all been so supportive to me and my family. I don't know what I would have done without all of your support. I haven't been on her in a long time, but I think of all of you as part of my extended family! And if anyone needs a shoulder to lean on, please reach out to someone. I would be more than happy to repay the kindness that you have all shown to me!

amymom replied: Thanks Marie for this topic.

I appreciate (more than I can express) each and every one of you.



Hugs all around, especially today.

moped replied: I feel the same way marie. Thanks for posting this message.

luvbug00 replied: I'm at work and barley holding it together , this hit so close to home for me. You guys are the best group of friends and together we willl find peace in this tragady..

MommyToAshley replied: What a wonderful reminder, and something I think we all need to hear at a time like this. ((((hugs))))) I feel the same way about you all. Some of us have been together since our babies were born. But whether you're a new friend or an old friend, it's nice to know that there is someone out there that gets it and is there to listen without judgement.

Crystalina replied: Marie you are so right and I will second everything you said. I didn't just come here last night to find out what happened, I also came here because I knew you all would relate to losing T. You don't have to meet someone IRL to bond with them and want to stay in contact.

I honestly did not realize how hard this would be until it happened last night. Like I said, I never met her IRL but her death is affecting my every thought today.

I've gotten too busy with my business to post here but it's not because I don't want to. I think it's easy to keep in contact on FB but I do need to pop in here more to get the entire "group" thing going again.

I miss our chats, pic sharing and debates. Even the not so nice ones, I'm not one to hold a grudge against someone who thinks different then I do.

And if any of you are not on my FB then add me! Even the members I don't know because I've been gone...I'll get to know you darn it.

My2Beauties replied: I love all of you

lisar replied: I agree, I know I am not on here much as I lead a very busy life but I know at the end of the day I can always count on yall to be there for me. Luv you guys.

coasterqueen replied: I feel the same way. You all mean more to me than you will ever know. If you didn't you would be apart of my IRL conversations with family and friends. You have all touched my life in so many wonderful ways.

I know I've not always been so kind in debates, as I do tend to get harsh with my views, but that will never change the way I feel about you as a person, each and every single one of you. Our views might not always be the same, but our hearts, our souls will always be connected because of this board.

A&A'smommy replied:

I found out about her this morning on my cell phone waiting in the parking lot to weigh in at weight watchers and it was all I could do not to drive home and pop on here and just allow myself to cry.... I never really REALLY realized how much you guys mean to me. My heart is SO broken mostly for her family but also because I lost a friend... I wish she knew that she could have reached out to us!!!

PLEASE know if you EVER EVER need someone to talk to that you guys can turn to me!!!

My2Beauties replied:
Ditto...you know the saying you never know what you have until it's gone, it made me realize how truly truly close I have become to each and every member of this board and to their families and children as well!

MomToJade&Jordan replied: I absolutely agree Marie It has been a while since I have been an active member here, but when I saw what had happened on FB this was the first place I came. When I joined PC I was a first-time Mom with a baby not yet one, and living so far away from my family. You all became my family in such a short period of time. This place was like a second home to me because we were all going through the same thing. We all learned how to be parents together. I am saddened that it has taken such a tragic event to get us all here again, but comforted in the fact that in the end I still have this second home to come too. I love you guys so much and so very thankful to have each and every one of you in my life. Please know that if there is anything you need, anything at all I am right here. We will mourn our loss and heal together. It's good to be home

My3LilMonkeys replied: I feel the same way Marie I don't post here nearly as often as I should but I read almost every day and I feel like I really know everyone here even though I've never met any of you.....I told one of my friends at work about what happened and she just didn't seem to understand how I could be so upset about someone I've never met....unless you've been a part of a wonderful community like this you just don't understand how close you can feel to people all the way on the other side of the country.

Danalana replied: I agree! I actually just made a similar thread....
I love all of you. I'm usually the odd one out on a lot of issues, but I know yall don't hold that against me.
Today was a reminder to tell the people you love how you feel. Don't take anything for granted.

Mama~Love replied: Hey Ladies, long time since we talked. I wanted to say how much you all mean to me as well, especially the "long-timers". I know we didn't always get along, but you all are friends to me, no matter what, and I've thought about all of you a lot over the years.

I'm so sorry it takes something so sad to have to remind each other how much we mean to each other. We need to comed together & try to prevent something like this from happening again.

I've missed you all so much !

amymom replied: Hey Mollie Welcome back, This is just like IRL when you see family at funerals and weddings. Let us all committ to continuing to stay in touch.