Just need to vent
Our Lil' Family wrote: I just need to vent because I've been having a tough time with this. Let me start by saying I LOOOOOOOOOOOOVE Andrew......more than life itself...and I think he totally completes our family and brings so much joy to us, and can see how he will keep us laughing for years to come. BUT...............................I want him to grow up!!!!!! I know, most of y'all are like, oh they grow up so fast, I can't believe they aren't babies anymore......well.....I'd love to fast forward about 2 years! I've just had a really hard time starting over after 5 years. What was I thinking waiting so long? It's nice on one hand that Thomas is in school (cause if he wasn't I'd surely be coo-coo), and that he can do almost everything for himself...but guess what......HE'S IN SCHOOL and can do ALMOST EVERYTHING for himself....and here's Andrew who depends on me for EVERYTHING! I had a tiny taste of freedom last year when Thomas was in Pre-K all day.....and now....NO FREEDOM, or rarely. That's a hard pill for me to swallow. I know most of this is because he's teething and VERY whiny and clingy and that really affects my mood. I normally have 1 day a week (a whopping 4 hrs) for MDO, but they are taking a break until May 4th...and then again for the summer....so that's been hard too. Anyway, someone PLEASE tell me I'm not the only one who has felt this way.
And those of y'all with babies so close, I really don't know how you do it without alcohol every night....seriously....HERE'S TO YOU!!!!!!
Danalana replied: Well, I'm one of those who hates how quickly mine are growing, but I can still understand what you are saying. I don't really have any advice, but I'm sure lots of mamas here have some wisdom on the subject!
luvbug00 replied: I know just how you feel. So much so that it has effected my desire for any more children. I love mya so much and I am so glad that I made the choise to keep her and be a young mom.
However I realized as much as I love her, I'm not ready or wanting to do it again. I'm happy with what I have..I remember moments thinking " when will she learn to do this herself already!" ..It's not because I didnt enjoy my time with her but I think it gets fusterating at times to have to do everything. Everyone says it's just part of the job but at least even at a job you get two weeks of vacation to gather your whits. I havent had a vacation in ten years! maybe that is just what you need. 
coasterqueen replied:
CantWait replied: I hear what you're saying, although I still want Mia to stop growing so fast, and since I'm bf'ing, I still won't drink.
Sometimes a glass of wine sure would help I'm sure though.
stella6979 replied: Uh, I could have typed this exact same post as I am in the same boat. Waiting 5 years and starting all over again is so hard. I've never really been a baby person though, I prefer toddlers so much more  So, you are definitely not the only person who feels that way.
Maddie&EthansMom replied:
Gosh do I understand!!!!
Those days are really really hard!
Cut yourself some slack--don't try to do everything and just make life as simple as possible.
I'm so glad you got a chance to get away this past weekend. I know you needed that!
Our Lil' Family replied:
Shelly, I'm not a baby person either! Maybe we should commiserate together! I was SO happy when Andrew turned 1.....people thought I was crazy but I just was. 4 is my FAVORITE age....tick....tock....tick....tock. LOL
Our Lil' Family replied:
Aimee.......you've known me long enough to know it's not in me not to do too much! 
I am trying to relax about the house always being messy......it's been VERY difficult! Guess I should learn now, 2 teenage boys won't be any better right?! Maybe there's hope if I train them right....haha. I told Tim he was beyond training but my boys....there's still hope!
coasterqueen replied:
Yes, just know your house will always be messy. I work all day and try my hardest every night to pick it up, then spend a lot of time on the weekend cleaning and it's always a mess and we aren't as here as much because of work/school.  I used to have major issues/anxiety about my house always being clean and I finally had to give that up. It was stressing me too much to where I would fixate on it even at work. 
ETA: I'll take him while he's still a baby. I LOVE LOVE the baby stage. I am not a toddler/kid stage kinda person. 
boyohboyohboy replied: I enjoyed my other kids as babies, but honestly I'm looking forward to Andrew getting into preschool. It's been hard. I feel less energetic and just really warn out on the baby stage.
And by all means a drink after the kids go to bed can be well earned!
Maddie&EthansMom replied:
I KNOW you try to do too much---that's exactly why I said that! 
I looooooooove you!!!
luvmykids replied: I totally know that feeling...I felt that way when I had Macie. Although she's only two years younger and I hadn't really left the baby stage with the twins I still felt like I was starting over...up all night, diapers, etc.
Looking back, that time was SO short and I really wish I'd been able to just relax and enjoy. But, I didn't, and I have had to just accept that as much as I LOVE LOVE LOVE babies, especially mine, I just didn't do well during that phase!
mummy2girls replied: oh i know what you mean...BUT with my career i will never get away from that being I will always have a one year old in my home 5 days a week....LOL. Its funny because i have changed bumbs every day for 16 years...LOLOLOL. Im immune to the smell now.
Breanna was born when jenna was 6.5 years old:) And it was a hard pill to swallow.Expecially because she was extremely colicy!!! It defenitley proved to me that I am done having kids. I LOOOOVE Breanna so much and i could never see my life without her! She is almost 2 years old and is dependant but also not. Jenna can do so much on her own and i remeber those days where she would go to her rooma nd stay there for hours... SILENCE!!! And when she was in school all day and i had a day off from work it was AWESOME!!!!!! And then the weekends aron would take jenna for teh whole weekend so me and marcus had us time and we can come and go as pleased, and sleep in together. Not so much now...
time to get snipped? LOL
Boo&BugsMom replied: I know the feeling too to an extent. Tanner was almost 5 when Aiden was born. I cherished the baby stage with him, but when he got into the toddler stage (1-2 years old) it was very different. Now at 4 though, I don't want him to grow up anymore. Since I've been a SAHM, him and I have really bonded and the age he is now is so much fun! I really think that inbetween baby/toddler stage is tough when you are use to your older kid being so independant. I had those feelings for awhile when Aiden was that young. I loved him dearly...but couldn't wait for him to not need me for every tiny thing and I could feel safe walking out of the room for awhile. I can relate. Hang in there!
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