Lies spread about me - rant

Celestrina wrote: I hope this is the right area to post this. I work in a small store there are only six of us there (including myself and my boss). We are all friends, or so I thought. I had always felt close to one of my coworkers until the other day. I found out that she has told lies about me to at least two other people at work - one of which is our boss. She has told them that I have certain, um, "unique" preferences (if I said what they were I would get banned). None of what she said is true. I can't confront her on this because it will be obvious who told me and I don't want to put them in the middle. Why would she lie like this? Nothing she said has any basis in the truth. Even if it were, it would have been told in confidence. It is humiliating knowing what she said, but I'm glad I found out. At least I know who my friends are.

uwishucudfly replied: I'm not exactly sure what you mean by "unique" preferences...are you talking about "batting for the other team?"

Well, even if that isn't what you were talking about, I still think that you should confront this woman. It is not fair for her to spread these rumors about you! Just casually mention that your other friend asked if this rumor was true or not. She can't get mad at you or this other person, because she is the one in the wrong. At least in my opinon, I don't think I could stand by and bite my lip.

Celestrina replied:
No, more like domination and leather.

gr33n3y3z replied: Sorry to hear that
I found Its just best to ignore it for now
And use that info at a later date if the subject ever comes up or something like it.
But like you said now you know who isnt your friend/friends are. But look at it this way its no loss to you.
And even if it were true does that make a you bad person? I would hope they wouldnt think of it that way.

mom2tripp replied: I'm totally confused about why she would just make that up and start telling people--WEIRDO. I mean is she still in high school. I say ignore her right now also and just laugh at the comments she made--anyone that knows you will know that what she is saying is RIDICULOUS

Celestrina replied: I'm not going to say anything to her. It would just cause more trouble than its worth. I am however going to ask my boss if she has said anything else about me; I know he will tell me the truth.

mammag replied: I would try to blow it off for now. No sense in getting things completely out of hand. Now you know her for what she is. I certainly wouldn't worry about what anyone else is thinking about you.....I'd possibly joke about it in a sarcastic manner. If you act too upset over it, it will only give it more fire, and make people think it's true all the more.....kwim? Besides, there are far worse things to be accused of...

Celestrina replied:
No, it wouldn't make anyone a bad person, or even a pervert. What's most upsetting is that she would lie about anything on my sexual behavoir.

DVFlyer replied: The first question to ask yourself is why it bothers you that this person lied. There is always a reason. Sometimes obvious, sometimes not so obvious.

Then it comes down to whether or not you want her to know that you know what she said and who it was that told you. Which means you'd have to accept the unknown consequences of that action.

If it was me, I'd ask her if she said what this person said she said (huh?). It would matter to me that someone was spreading lies of that nature. If it was something else, maybe I'd blow it off. But this is too personal. I'd never let someone get away with it. But that's me.

gr33n3y3z replied:
yeah that is very strange
I feel its no ones business what anyone likes to do

And why should she care anyway
grrrr ppl. just pi$$ me off when they talk trash like that
makes you want to oh never mind I have to be good here lol

uwishucudfly replied:
Ohhhh......in that case, I wouldn't say anything unless it truly upset you. I think that is strange and weird! Why would someone start a rumor like that, and why would she think that other people care? Anyway.....maybe you could joke around with her about it...you could pull out some leather and handcuffs and ask her to hold them for you for a second. I'm a dork, I know....

A&A'smommy replied: I'm sorry hun she is probably just jealous of you!! ((((((HUGS)))))

Celestrina replied:
Hahaha! That is sooooooo tempting!