MamaJAM

PrairieMom wrote: Anyone seen her around? Its been a while since she posted.

Bee_Kay replied: LOL! I JUST posted the same thing

Both of us posted the SAME thing as EXACTLY the same time??? creeeeeepy!

C&K*s Mommie replied: Have not heard from her, maybe she is having comp problems, or with her children getting out of school she is busier than ever!

CantWait replied: Come out come out whereever you are

luvmykids replied: I've noticed too, I miss her! She always has such great perspectives and I hope she pops in!

kayla's mama replied: I posted about her awhile back and no responses.......

Anyways, she has left the boards because she thought no one cared about her and some of her posts went unanswered.

PrairieMom replied: really? that is sad. i must have missed that some how.

luvbug00 replied: Oh that's sad

CantWait replied: Oh well. I hate to sound mean but this is really getting rediculous the amount of people that leave because either a post was misconstrewed or it didn't get as many responses as one would like. I've posted several topics which have gotten next to no replies, but one must remember that everyone is either busy, doesn't read all posts, or only replies when they have something of input to contribute. It's to bad another member has left, but the net is not a place for someone that is fragile. Best of luck to her.

kayla's mama replied: Marie I have to agree with you. But I really think that the main reason for her leaving was the cliqueiness (sp?) and just tired of the same ol stuff going on.

Bee_Kay replied: I really didn't know she felt that way.

I sometimes post a crapload of stuff that sometimes don't get many replies. I can get pretty repetitive I don't really mind because I find myself not replying sometimes (not intentionally, just when I feel kind of blah).

Well, that's too bad she felt that way.

luvmykids replied:
Same here, I don't intentionally not reply to any specific person.

C&K*s Mommie replied:

luvbug00 replied:

ok I can understand that some of the moms on here talk IRL and see eachother but I have never felt like i'm invading some "clique". It's like the more you post ( even if it doesn't get as many responces all the time) the better people know you. The longer you are here the more of a bond we can all create.


This is a family there are NO favorites in a family.

C&K*s Mommie replied: you hit it on the head, Nadia! IMO. I may not always see a post, but if I read it & have something to say I will respond to it regardless of who posted it. With the exception of some underhanded spammers that seem to more common now.

kayla's mama replied:

That may be true but for someone (not me) who has been here for almost a year and posts alot, but she was here for over a year and not too many people really knew her and she posted alot. No one bothered to pm her and say hey haven't seen you on in awhile. She was just not feeling the love, kwim!!!!

AlexsPajamaMama replied:

AlexsPajamaMama replied:
Same here.
I wish I had the time to read and reply to every post but very rarely am I completely focused on just the board when I'm on the computer

Bee_Kay replied:

I am guilty of that. I don't always notice when someone hasn't been around for awhile..... then again, there have been times that I hadn't been here in awhile and it went unnoticed..... I didn't care LOL!! I had no expectations that I would be missed Oh well, to each their own

mammag replied: This is my take on it...

In any social situation there will be those who stand out more than others. I think it is a bit the same here. Some might stand out for things they post (maybe something controversial or having some major crisis or another), other's will stand out because they post a lot of pictures and you get to know there face and their kids more.

From my own experience, I took some time away to get my life more in order. I didn't get pm's asking where I was. That didn't bother me. I think if I had been regularly pming someone than maybe I would have. IRL, I am a very sensitive person but I look at online "friendships" as a different thing.

There are a lot of people that come and go here and if we posted everytime someone went it could become an everyday occurence. Plus, it is sometimes hard to keep track of everyone who is here and when they last posted. I also know that not everyone is checking daily so I just assume that's the case or that I've missed their posts. Of course there are the regulars that post a lot that I would wonder about....worry about... at the same time, I would probably not pm them because I don't want to make anyone feel like they have to be here or be checking daily, ya know?

Anyway, we have a great bunch of people here that I know really care about us and I think you would have a hard time finding that on most boards. I honestly believe that no one on here would try to leave anyone out or exclude anyone because they're not "one of the cool kids"

JP&KJMOM replied:

Excellent post. ITA!

mckayleesmom replied:
We did ask where you were alot though.... . I think that lately the boards have been super super slow all together. But I do notice that alot of the people that leave because they "don't feel the love" so to say....are usually ones that mainly make their own posts, but also hardly ever respond to others....An internet community is a 2 way street.

C&K*s Mommie replied: Very well said, Jeanie

ashtonsmama replied: I think that it always just gets WAY too out of hand sometimes-people start leaving, the morale goes down...it's gets ridiculous. That's why I left the other two sites I used to post on. And it's just really sad, IMO. I think that the strong communities stick together and don't get bothered by any little issues that may arise, and those are the "families" I want to be a part of. I think we have a great core group here that posts regularly, and even from my few months as a member, I've come to know and love many of you dearly. It can just become a vicious cycle--drama, people leave, more drama, it settles, then more drama, etc. I hope that this can stay to a minimum here, because we have a great group of ladies and men here that I would hate to lose contact with. JMO.





with Jeanie.