Might be taking my - nephew for a while

mckayleesmom wrote: I don't know if you remember me telling you about my nephew Timmy. He is my older brothers 3 year old son. His mom abandoned him with my brother when he was about 6 months old...if that. My brother is an alcoholic who just finished rehab. My brother also has 3 other children from a previous relationship, but they have a different mother then Timmy, so Timmy is his soul responsibility alone. My brother lives with my mom right now and my sister and nephew. Timmy, the poor guy has been through so much. Every girlfriend my brother has he calls mom and then they disapear out of his life and he has no clue why. My brother was in rehab for 4 months and Timmy broke out in hives the whole time he was gone because he thought my brother left him.

Anyways, Im talking to my sister right now, my brother tried to hang himself in my moms garage today....and I guess he got drunk. He says he can't handle being a dad...bla bla bla. I guess he called my sister when she was driving somewhere...she called my mom and my mom sent the police to the house...Timmy was asleep in his room and they found my brother in the garage and he had a box cutter and was trashed....Timmy was scared out of his mind because he woke up with 6 cars worth of police officers in the house..Poor guy.

I told my mom a while back that if she needed to, or if Dustin wanted me and Leithan to..that we would take Timmy till he got back on his feet. My mom asked me if the offer was still good because she is going to ask my brother if he can send him out here for a while....This way Timmy has other kids to play with and keep his mind of what is going on.....

So I might have 3 toddlers on my hand....

Also, when my brother went to rehab...they did a physical on him and at 29 years old...he had drank so much that he was only functioning on half his liver....they told him that if he didn't clean up he would be dead in 2 years.

Seriously guys, if my brother would sign over his rights...I would take Timmy in a heartbeat. I would never keep him from his dad, hes my brother, but that baby needs stability.

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: OMG, Brianne. What a big heart you have. I hope it works out for Timmy's sake.

luvbug00 replied: OMG if your brother will give the ok, I'm sure that your nephew would benifit from the love you will give him! I hope all works out for the little guy. keep us posted!

Brias3 replied: Wow, how wonderful of you to think so much of your brother to offer to take on such a responsibility. A big heart is right! Timmy would be lucky to come and spend time with you and Leithan and the kids.

Best wishes with the decision and we're here for the moral support if you do end up outnumbered 3 to 2 with toddlers!

mckayleesmom replied: Im really hoping he agrees to this....I think he is really stressed right now...he was doing so good...He got out of rehab...lost his job while he was in. Hes having trouble taking care of timmy and trying to find a job. I hope he at least lets me take him so he can get a job...get some mental help and then work on his parenting timmy. I think hes just overwhelmed right now.

mckayleesmom replied: Another thing....Him and Mckaylee get along so well...They are like peas in a pod when we visit....

Brias3 replied: Sounds that way to me too. Sounds like your ideal arrangement might give him the time and space he needs to straighten things out for himself minus the constant needs of a young child all at the same time. That would be overwhelming enough for anyone, let alone someone who's particularly struggling right now.

Again, good luck with everything

jacobsmama replied: Oh Brianne. What a situation You are a great mother/sister for wanting to do this. That little boy does need someone to put their arms around him and tell him it is ok and I think you would be the best person to show him LOVE.

mckayleesmom replied:
Awww...thanks....I always have a soft spot for him because he has been through soooo much...I just met Timmy for the first time last summer and I wanted to scoop him up and take him home with me. When my mom came to help me after my surgery she called him every night to reasure him that she was comming back....He stayed with my grandma....but my mom was taking care of him while my bro was in rehab....It just broke my heart when he would ask when she was comming home from work.....He thought she was at work.

MyBrownEyedBoy replied:
Are you sure you want two Mckaylees in a pod? LOL

mckayleesmom replied:
Mckaylee has mellowed out some and Timmy isn't as bad as Mckaylee....

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I hope he signs over his rights to you. You are right, he needs stability. He's lucky to have you. I pray for strength for you, but I know you can do it. You are an awesome mom to your kids and Timmy will thrive at your place.

1lilpeanut2love replied: OMG I was just about in tears reading that. THat poor boy needs to have a stable relationship with someone. He definitely has been through to much. Good Luck with all of this. THis boy definitely needs a loving home and enviroment. I think staying with your family would be the perfect thing. I wish you the best with whatever happens.

My3LilMonkeys replied: How sweet of you to offer that. I'm sure you would provide him with a wonderfully loving environment and it sounds like that's exactly what he needs right now.

I hope that everything works out and you can care for Timmy while his father gets back on his feet.

CantWait replied: I'm so sorry. I hope your brother is able to recover fully this time. Best of luck with Timmy if you get him for a while in your home. He'd be lucky to have you.

amynicole21 replied: Oh man. That makes me so sad for Timmy I hope you can get him and give him the stability and love that he clearly needs.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: Oh man, that poor kid. I hope your brother agrees to let you take him.

MamaJAM replied: That poor kiddo! No one should have to go through what he did...let alone a 3-yr old! I hope he can come stay with you -- possibly for good. Someone needs to show that guy the love he deserves.

Kaitlin'smom replied: oh I hope he lets him come stay with you. I feel terrible for him. That poor little guy your right I think he woudl LOVE being with you.

Makenzi'sMom replied: Good Luck, I hope you get him and make a more stable life for the kido!!

JP&KJMOM replied: Wow you are the best place for that child right now. He will thrive on what your family will offer if he does come. Good luck in getting him there asap for his sake.

Sarah&Mackenzie replied: I hope that you get him. He sounds like he needs to be with you. Hope that your brother can work out his situation. Good Luck Brianne.

amymom replied: Oh My Brianne I hope it works out and your brother gets back on his feet. Good Job for offering.

giffmom replied: best of luck to you and your family, when should you find out if your brother will let you take care of timmy?

luvmykids replied: Wow, Timmy is so lucky to have someone like you! I hope it all works out, hats off to you for being so willing to step in