Mikee Update

mom2my2cuties wrote: I have been getting a lot of PM's about this - so I figured I would post it once so I didn't have to retype it each time and then I realized that I posted it on another thread.

Ok now that I am done wallowing and pouting like my 2 year old because things didn't go my way I kid you not, I came home, posted that message, put on my jammies, turned off the lights, phone and let Andy watch Tv & Play cars and just pouted. And if I sound in a little better mood it's because I have just eaten a box of Jr Mints and while I hate chocolate - I am beginning to see the medicinal properties of it!

Basically what happened was this - I get there - Initially they have to request a bench conference because the DA of the day (aka my ex's attorney) wants yet ANOTHER continuance. My attorney said that he needs a bumper sticker that calls him "Mr Continuance"

Well they are given no contiuance...Thank GOD! - However the whole time during this conference he and the GAL were passing notes to each other and stuff and she actually sat with HIM!

Ok - so confernece is over and they are posting the stuff hearing times. Our hearing is at 10am. Well it is back and forth between the attornies. No surprise there. My ex's decleration was bascially "I don't care that I am a child molestor this is really expensive for me Tish is just using this stuff to circumvent having to prove that she a fit mom."

Same horse hockey from the Grandfather. Thier attorney actually had the nerve to claim that I had abandoned Mikee. To which my attorney had some NICE responses. And there were quite a few allegations from thier attorney all of which were unfounded.

But I do get Michael every other weekend. (Sat & Sun) And if the grandparents don't file anything within 10 days - he gave them until the 15th. I guess I just had my heart set on going home with Michael. But what is going to make it a little easier is that instead of just hanging out in hell - I am going to be going home between visits. It's SOOOO much cheaper than staying here.

Also - we are being forced to pay 1/2 the GAL costs. My ex has to cover the other half. So now i have to figure out how to pay that

My3LilMonkeys replied: I'm glad it is somewhat of a happy ending, and I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you! So if the grandparents don't do anything by the 15th, do you get automatic custody or is there more to go through yet?

redchief replied: Wellll, having sat through family court on several occasions, it doesn't sound like you made out too badly. Any progress there is a blessing. You didn't finish about after 15 days? Else I misunderstood.

As far as the payments and all go, that's the price you have to pay I suppose.

mom2my2cuties replied:
Sorry - - I am a little out of it today. And no I didn't make out too bad - it could have gone worse. But now the comissioner has backed himself into a corner and broke about 10 different laws today.

Comissioner gave the grandparents 10 days to file for custody - basically until the 15th of December. If they don't - then I am going to be able to go get Michael and they will issue the temporary placement orders to place Mikee with me. So part of me is praying for something very tragic to happen so they can't file. (Perhaps my ex father in law will step in front of a bus????)

My attorney did tell me that IF Grovdhal grants the grandparents adequate cause then she is going to request this case be brought before an actual judge who is bound by the law and not a Comissioner who can make his own 'interpretation' of it. And that if need be - we have grounds to appeal all the way up to the US Supreme Court now.


And yes - that is how things go with payments - however I don't think it's right that I have to support my family - pay for living expenses in 2 places - and now pay not only my attorney but 1/2 the GAL while my ex's only expense is his attorney.

gr33n3y3z replied: I know the GP have rights and to give it to the 15th is to long bc I'm sure they are cooking something up.

But in the long run which will prolly seem like forever maybe just maybe they will call it a done deal you win and they get to visit with him x amount of times a year.

I so hope these ppl. realize they are playing with a little boy here and they are hurting him more then he said she said its sad.

luvmykids replied: I'm sorry you don't get to take him home but at least it's some progress in the right direction. Still praying for you!

mom2my2cuties replied:
Actually according to US Supreme Court and every other lesser court and ESPECIALLY in the state of WA - They have NO rights....

CantWait replied: Tish I'm sorry that things didn't go as they really should have. Every second weekend just doesn't seem fair to me either. Hopefully the 15 comes and goes without any interference from grandma or grandpa

~Roo'sMama~ replied: I'm so sorry you didn't get to take him home today! I thought for sure you would. If the grandparents do file for custody within 10 days how much of a chance is there that they'll get them? Good luck I'll be praying for you!

mom2my2cuties replied: Well under the basis of the law - they legally can't...but considering the Comissioner broke so many laws today - it wouldn't surprise me.

redchief replied:
You could always sue the commissioner.?.?

C&K*s Mommie replied: You will remain in my thoughts and prayers, and Mikee will as well. As Lisa pointed out, he is in the middle of the mess, and is the one who is hurting the most.

jacobsmama replied: thanks for the update, I agree could have turned out better but it is some Progress! Hang in there you are strong I can see...

I will be praying for you all.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Yuck, that blows. I'm sorry to hear...