Mini Vent - About DH

lisar wrote: Well lastnight when me and Dh got home I asked him how much cash he had. Well I told him to to leave me a twenty so that I could get myself lunch. I had no cash. I also cant go anywhere for lunch I have to have someone else bring me lunch. Well I called him about 20 minutes ago cause HE DIDNT LEAVE ME ANY MONEY, and I asked him I said did you leave me any money? He said yes. I said Where? He said on the counter in the kitchen. Okay so I asked him why would you leave it there. He said thats where he was. I said why couldnt you leave it near my purse or stick it in my purse or by my car keys or something. Why on the kitchen counter when I have no reason to be in the kitchen to begin with. I told him I said fine I guess I will just starve today then wont I. He said well I am at work I cant do anything. I said yea but if you were thinking this morning then we wouldnt have a problem now would we. But its all good a friend of mine that works in the warehouse is buying me lunch, so I will just buy hers tomorrow.

Do I have any right to be mad or am I just pissy today?

C&K*s Mommie replied:

TheOaf66 replied: well I hate to defend him and of course I don't know the whole story here but he did do what you asked and that was leave you money, I don't know if you have a "usual" spot for him to leave it but if it were me I guess I would be wondering why you were so upset but that is just me.

mom2my2cuties replied: It kind of sounds like a bit of miscommunication to me. But you might want to apologize - because unless he knew that you expected him to put the money in your purse, then he didn't do anything wrong - he left you the money like you asked.

Just my opinion, but if it's important, then I would have made sure I had it before I left the house in the morning.

CantWait replied: I would say you're over reacting, but Tish said it better so I'll leave it at that. I'm sure a simple sorry would surfice tonight when you get home.

Boo&BugsMom replied: It sounds like something that would irritate me too, but that is because I hate inconveniences. I think it is something pretty trivial to get upset at, but I can understand being frustrated over the inconvenience because that is how I would be, as much as I hate to admit it.

C&K*s Mommie replied: I thought it was an overreaction too, but to call you pissy - well only you would know for sure.

redchief replied: I think you overreacted a little. Sorry.

jacobsmama replied: I can totally understand being inconvenienced and mad when you got to work but In his defense (sorry ) If you asked him to leave you the money, He would probably expect you to make sure you had it before you left for work.

I agree with other girls miscommunication unless he would always put it in your purse every other time....we all have these days!

gr33n3y3z replied: I agree with Tish

hawkshoe replied: I think you are just pissy . My husband always leaves things for me on the counter. He would never go in my purse, nor would I expect him to. Your husband did leave the money, you should have checked around for it. I think you kind of owe him an appology. JMO

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Hmmm...toughy... I'd expect my dh to put it around or near my purse too... but then I'd get annoyed at him for actually have touched my purse...

we have a "usual spot" for notes, items etc for each other... it's in a small basket in the kitchen... so when he asks me to leave him something, I put it in the basket... and so does he... it's the whole family's basket, really, since we put important stuff for the kids in there too, but obviously they can't check it.

I don't think you really need to apologize to him... but maybe a "read between the lines" apology on both sides is warranted, since both of you miscommunicated what was expected.

I hate it when my dh doesn't read my mind too.

holley79 replied: Well... I get like that also and I want to blame DH also but in truth he DID leave you the money, just not where you saw it.