Miscarriage? - When does the...

ashtonsmama wrote: ...likelihood of having one drop? I forget, but I've been thinking about how sure I feel that we're having this baby...I've been going ahead and telling everyone, but my oh-so-sweet (NOT) aunt said to me yesterday when I told her not to get my hopes up, because I could still miscarry.

Wasn't too kind. But I know why she's so skeptical, she's never been able to have a healthy baby, she had 8 miscarriages and 1 baby stillborn...

So I can see where her fear and disappointment comes from...
But when is it safe to say that you're pretty much past the time when you need to worry so much about miscarrying? I haven't ever had a miscarriage, so I'm not too worried, it'll just let me breathe easier once I get past that time I think...KWIM?

ashtonsmama replied:

Nina J replied: 8 weeks, I think. We waited until 10 weeks to tell people, just to be safe.

jem0622 replied: I lost a seemingly healthy pregnancy just after a 14 wk ultrasound. Anything can happen and we have no control over it. I could ramble on about when you typically could lose a pregnancy and why, but don't want to worry you. P&PT for you!

ashtonsmama replied:
Thanks Nina. I was going to say 8-10 weeks, but wasn't positive. I guess we should hold off maybe telling so many people until then...I guess we've only really told mostly immediate family members...

MamaJAM replied: I always thought it was 10-12 weeks...but I could be wrong.

As for your aunt....while I understand her reason for making that comment...it was still in MAJORLY poor taste. When I was preg with DD#1 - DH's aunt sent us a 'congratulations' card -- in it she included a newspaper clipping about miscarriages. The same aunt...in her card when DD#1 was born, included another newspaper clipping -- that one was about SIDS. LOVELY woman.

ilovemybaby replied: I was told 13/14 weeks.
I wouldn't worry about it. You have one baby already. Have you had any m/cs before?
I told everyone straight away. I did last time too.

paradisemommy replied: i waited until after the 1st trimester to tell everyone, so about 3 months..

CAMSMOM1 replied:


Miscarriages can happen anytime during your 1st trimester, and sometimes in the 2nd, depending on what's going on with the baby. Most happen before 15 wks of pg.

But don't worry about it sweetie. Just focus on the positive, and it will all work out.

I told everyone as soon as I found out. Just enjoy your pg, and sharing the exciting news with your family.

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: If you are waiting to spread the news, normally the risk goes significantly down after the first trimester. I started telling people right away. But that was just me.

BAC'sMom replied:

We didn't tell anyone about PG'S till we were way over 3 months. But we had had a previous miscarriage in first trimester.

MommyToAshley replied: I think it is after the first trimester. But, I find it hard to keep such good news in. If you feel like telling everyone, then tell the world! I'm happy for you!

ilovemybaby replied: I know someone who lost their baby to m/c at 16 weeks.
I think I would rather tell my family anyway... then at least you've got some support if it did happen KWIM?

ashtonsmama replied:
Thanks Ann-you ladies are so sweet...thank you...

And I haven't had any MCs before, so I'm not too worried about it...

jacobsmama replied: hope you and (baby in the belly) and baby ashton are doing well. The chance for m/c signifigantly decreases after the first trimester which is 12 weeks. But everyone is right it can happen anytime. As for your aunt very rude what she said to you

Just positive on the good things right now like ashton and being healthy.