Mother Inlaw for Heck! - huge rant!

abunky wrote: not sure if i can post this here , if not you can move it to where it needs to go...

ok , so today i got engaged , 3 days ago i found out i'm having a new baby , all is going great , well guess again.....i already met my boyfriends mother , lets just say the engines running but theres noone behind the wheel , she very mean and cold to me , so my BF gets this huge idea " let me call my mom and tell her the good news" i'm like yeah thats gonna go over real good, he put her on speaker phone , and says " hey mom guess what i'm getting married , she replies with who, oh to that so called girl your with , she's like dont ruin your life your not stupid , she was married befor and couldnt hold that together what makes you think she will be happy with you" ok wll that didnt sit well with me , then he says " well i love her and your gonna be a grandma " she replies with OMG! you F-N retard get an abortion , your just doing this to me to hurt me you dont care about your mom , i hope she looses that baby and you can finaly move on with you life , dont call me ever again as long as your with her and decide to have filthy kids with her , she will never be part of my family and as long as you 2 are together neither will you".....he;s very upset almost in tears ...ya know if i ever get my hands on that women , ya know i have given that women so many chances to be nice and i'm not doing it anymore , i told him she not allowed in my home or near me or my kids , she's a very angry and mean ,selfish women , ....ya know i can never recall a time she was ever nice to her son or me at that....i'm so ticked off ........ok i'm dont now

Anthony275 replied: you & him shouldn't talk to her for a few months and maybe she'll realize how stupid she was with what she said, don't send her anything about the baby or marriage

aspenblue1 replied: I am sorry

kimberley replied: give her what she wants... cut her off. you are better off without that poison in all your lives. imagine what she'd say to ur kid when he/she was older if she can say those things to her own son. it's her loss.

try not to let her ruin your joy. you are at such an amazing time in your life. enjoy it!

TrulyBlessed replied: One of our hardest obstacles was dealing with the in-laws. Ten years later we are finally starting to get along. I'm sorry she was so mean about it and my heart goes out to the both of you.

austins mom replied: girl... i feel for you. my mil is horrible too.. i cant stand her.. believe me it wont be your loss. just hers... im lucky for one thing mine lives 4hrs away.

abunky replied: thanks girls, yeah i wont let it ruin my happiness , but it still sucks to see my BF suffer because of her

luvmykids replied: Wow, she must be one miserable woman. I'm sorry she's being so awful to the both of you, and I feel sorry for her too

Teesa®© replied: Awww, I'm so sorry, hon!!

I'm very lucky to have a great MIL, and even my ex MIL was awesome. I adore both FIL's too.

I'll share mine Or I'LL be your MIL!!! Hope ur soon-to-be DH is younger than I am

I'll just adopt ur honey and that will be the end of that, lol.

Now, to try to rectify things....

Son: "Hey, mom, guess what? I'm getting married!"

Me: "Oh, to that wonderful girl you're with? I hope you'll both make each other very happy!"

Son: "Well, I love her and you're gonna be a grandma!"

Me: "OMG! That's WONDERFUL!!! You do know I'm not OLD enough to be a grandma yet, right??" *laughs* "Have you picked out a date or any names yet? How far along is she? Do you need anything? Your father and I can buy the crib or whatever you need."

Oh, my new son has a little brother and sister, 6 and 8... just so he knows...

Wow, not only do I gain a son, but a DIL and a grandchild!!

MoonMama replied: And I thought my IL's were bad. Honey I am so sorry.

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sparkys2boys replied: Oh wow, I can't imagine a person being that cold and heartless... geesh, sounds like that women has issues of her own let alone worry about your past.

Try to forget it and move on, you sure don't need a person like that around you or your child.

Now.. CONGRATS!!!!!! Soo, when's the wedding and when is the baby due??

abunky replied:
, that made me feel better

abunky replied:
uh the wedding is going to be with in the next 4 months , so this way i have time to squeez into a dress LOL, the baby is due nove 28

HuskerMom replied:

Teesa®© replied:
Aww, you made me cry!!! I'm sitting here trying to see my monitor with tears in my eyes.

You have control on whether or not to let people hurt you. Be a duck, sweetie. Ducks are waterproof and liquids roll right off of them. Pretend all the nasty things are water . I know it still hurts, but try hard not to let it get you down. If you worry about it, it'll just give you stress and you need to be all nice and healthy right now

I'm sorry this "woman" [and yes, I use that word loosely as she's giving us REAL women a bad name] said those horrible things to you. Honestly, and it's not that I'm naive, I just can't wrap my face around the fact that someone could actually say something like that

My offer still stands about being your MIL. I just told my DH that I adopted someone. He said, "Oh? Who?" I kind of blanked and said, "Um, well, some guy." He goes, "Okaaaaay." I told him we're also getting a DIL and a grandchild and he was all like, "Huh? What???" So I read him the post. He's He's a little leery on the grandparent part, LOL, it was a little bit of a shock

WELCOME TO OUR FAMILY!!!!

Oh, we're in Canad-eh, is that far from you? lol

gr33n3y3z replied: That was so mean of her and very heartless
I'm sorry hun you did very well for not yelling back at her while she was still on the phone
Maybe over time things will heal with her if not no loss from her just her loss with the children and knowing a good person and that is you

grapfruit replied: OMG that's so horrible!

How long have you been together, are you sure that's not my evil step mom?? B/c that sounds like her!

Shake it off honey. Chances are she's never going to be happy w/ANYBODY he has, so cut her out and be happy w/o her.

abunky replied:
well were in SC its tad bit far , but not to far , being felt wanted in a family is all i need and i'm glade your doing that for us , i told boyfriend we have new inlaws now , and there alot nicer

Teesa®© replied:


Well, I guess it's best to have IL's far enough away that they can't just drop in all the time

Well, if I'm officially adopting him, there's a few things he should know: he now has 11 brothers and sisters, 21 nephews [one deceased], 18 nieces, 8 or 9 [I lost count ] grandnephews and nieces and I'm so NOT counting Aunts, Uncles or cousins!!!

We're a VERY diverse family and have German, Dutch, Japanese [unofficially adopted], Korean [officially adopted] family members and who knows what else [I *think* one of my SIL's is Italian]!! lol. The majority of us are all in Canad-eh, but Dad's family are all still in Germany [his one brother comes to visit at least once a year] and Mom's, other than two brothers [and their families], are still in the Netherlands. She has a niece that comes every few years to visit. Mom also has a brother who's name is Oom Frouké - if you translate his name into English, then he's Uncle F***. Now how totally kewl is that????!! I've never met him, and I think this is a good thing because I don't think I could have ANY sort of conversation with him without bursting into laughter!!!

Sad thing, though, that's just MY side of the family!!!

Tell him I'll send him a list and I expect him to have EVERYBODY's name memorized AND how they're all related to each other by the end of the week. I'll be quizzing him.







J/K. DH and I have been together for 17 years and HE can't keep them straight.... heck, most times I can't either!

abunky replied: