My Daughter - Sleeping

djsdaddy wrote: My daughter is nine years old and when her Grandma visits they sleep together on a sofa bed.
This raises some questions for me regarding modesty and privacy boundaries but I wanted to get some feedback from other parents before I take up the issue.
I never crawled into bed with my grandparents it would have been quite inappropriate.
Any thoughts or advice would be welcome.
Thanks

Hillbilly Housewife replied: When I was little, and was visiting with the grandparents, it was quite a treat to be allowed in their bed. I wouldn't worry about it too much, I did this until we moved in together, when I was 11.

luvmykids replied: One of the best parts of a visit with grandma, and my kids love to snuggle up in my moms bed now too

A&A'smommy replied: My daughter sleeps with my mom when she stays the night, its a treat for my mom to cuddle with her granddaughter that way. I still cuddle with my grandmother and I'm 22 years old I wouldn't worry about it.

grandma replied: When my grand daughters/grand sons sleep overnight we always sleep on the sleeper sofa and that's only becuz there isn't room in my bed or they would be in there with papa bear too.
When they get older I'll make sure that it's still okay with them and when they don't want to anymore....I can go back to my comfy matress

Calimama replied: Miabella sleeps on her grandpa's chest when he's here.

lisar replied: Lexi sleeps in the same bed as granny when she spends the night over there. Its a treat to get sleep there.

grandma replied:
Sorry I don't think I really answered your question, just told you what we do.
Since your daughter is nine, that's different than my grandkids who are 6 and under.
I don't think it's a bad idea to casually bring up her sleeping with grandma and see what she says. When she doesn't want to do it anymore it will probably be obvious. You could always say to grandma "Are you sure you don't mind that ___ sleeps with you, wouldn't you be more comfortable sleeping alone?"
Then you could get both sides.....just a thought.

:.Mrs_Mommy.: replied: I would talk about it with your daughter. If she is uncomfortable than tell g-ma but if everything seems ok then I probably is.

Good Luck!

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CantWait replied:
Same here actually. I'm quite sure I was pretty old when I stopped sleeping with my grandma.

danahas4monkeys replied: I'm 30ish and would give anything to be able to sleep with my grandma now! I don't think there is anything to be concerned with. As long as they are both ok with it! They are only little once and sadly grandparents aren't with us forever.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I agree with the others, it was something I really enjoyed doing as a child. Even now, at 33, I have slept in the same bed as my grandmother when visiting. Perhaps if it were the opposite sex, as in grandpa with grandaughter, that may be different IMO, but I don't see anything wrong with the situation you describe.

I guess the answer is really upto you. If you feel it is inappropriate, then I would just make sure there is an extra bed or sleeping bag on the floor for your daughter instead. Don't make a big deal out of it, since it may hurt grandma's feelings.

austins mom replied: for most kids its a treat for them. i would worry about it. when the time comes for it to stop she will stop it her self.

sparkys2boys replied: I agree with everyone. Esp, if they don't see each other alot.. kwim makes it more special for them.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: My mother and daughter are REALLY close. When Maddie was born my mother stayed with us for a week and snuggled with Maddie everynight. They formed a special bond. My mom now actually looks forward to coming here just to snuggle with Maddie and have a "sleepover". Maddie is almost 8. My dad sleeps in the bed with Ethan.

I dont' think you should be worried, it seems to be the norm. I'm sure if grandma had a problem with it, she would say something.