My Grandfather

lisar wrote: Died yesterday at around 3pm. I got the phone call here at work and left. He has been really sick latley. He has cancer it started in his bladder and nothing worked to get rid of it so they took his bladder out, and it was to late it was in his lympnotes at that time. And then moved to his blood and his liver. I know he is now out of pain but it still hurts. My DD doesnt understand this is the first death she has had to deal with. No matter how many times I have tried to explain it to her she thinks he is still comming home. I tried telling her that Papa went to heaven with Grandma (my mom). Does anyone know what I can say to help her with this to understand. I am at a lost here. Thank you and please keep my Granny in your thoughts and prayers she is having a really hard time.

JP&KJMOM replied: My grandmother died a little over a year ago and JP was 5 at the time and Karlee was 3. JP does pretty good understanding all of it now and says she is with the angels and checks on him often but Karlee still has issues with where she is. When we pass her house even though we sold it Karlee wants to go and play to wait for the train to come by and it is hard at times. Just be patient with her because it will eventually get easier.
Hugs and prayers for your family during this time.

1lilpeanut2love replied: Lot and lots of prayers and pt's to you and your family. I am SO sorry about the loss of your grandfather!

BAC'sMom replied: I am so sorry to hear about your loss

punkeemunkee'smom replied: I am so sorry! We lost my Grandpa in 2001 and I still miss him everyday! As for Lexi I think you are doing all you can by telling her he went to live with Grandma...it is a hard concept for kids to grab (especially at this age) Taylor asked about our Grandparents (both sets of Dh's are gone and I have my Grandmas left) I told her that Pee Pop died when she was little and she cried and cried-but when I ammended that to say he went to live in Heaven with Jesus and the Angels she said OHHHH OK! Like that was much better. I think there will be plenty of time for her to absorb the finality of death but for now I would just continue with what you are saying Your family will be in our prayers!

amymom replied: Lots of prayers for you and your family. I do not have any suggestions. I think you will find the right words as time goes by. My kids always found / find relief in visiting the cemetary. If that is an option do not keep her away, thinking it will be easier. Kids deal well with what they can see.

Sarah&Mackenzie replied: I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers.

3xsthefun replied: I am so sorry for your loss.

mckayleesmom replied: Im so sorry for your loss. Hugs and prayers to you and your family. Im glad your grandfather is at peace now and is no longer hurting.

lisar replied: Thank you everyone. I apreciate your thoughts and prayers. Lexi has now told my Granny that Papa is walking the golden road and going to meet Jesus. So I think she is getting it a lil more. (lexi goes to a private school Trinity baptist.) so she has learned alot. I think she is going to do better than I expected her to. Again thank you.

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TheOaf66 replied: very sorry to hear that, I wish you and your family the best.

lisar replied: Thanks again everyone. We have made the arrangments for Monday. He is going to have the 21 gun salute because he had an honorable discharge from the military (before I was born). Again thank you

CantWait replied: I'm so sorry. I have no advice for you, but you're all in my prayers.

MommyToAshley replied: I am so sorry for your loss. I have no advice. It may just take some time and patience for them to understand. It must be difficult on you to try to explain to your children when you are grieving yourself.

Lots of prayers and hugs for your family.

gr33n3y3z replied: I'm so sorry to hear this

mammag replied: I'm so sorry for your loss. My prayers for you and your family.