My New Life

Kirstenmumof3 wrote: I'm staying with a friend, but only for another 10 days. After that I will be homeless unless I can find an affordable apartment, my disability only allows $436 for rent. So if I find anything above that amount it will have to come out of the rest of my benefits. It's hard to find an apartment in a nice area, large enough to be able to have the kids over, clean, well kept, that allows pets and has everything included. Not having much luck at all. I may have to resort to staying in a motel for a while until I can find something. One thing is for sure, I'm not moving in with my parents.

I'm so depressed right now, I don't really have anyone to talk too. I've applied for sub-sidized housing and had a melt down I was crying so hard that DH couldn't understand what I was saying on the phone. They told me I had the wrong papers. That is straightened out now and I was told that my name will go on the list and there is an 8 month waiting list for a 1 bedroom. I'm coping the best that I can right now. But I think I'm at my breaking point.

Mommy2BAK replied:

Anthony275 replied: it'll be ok

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kit_kats_mom replied: I'm sorry you are struggling right now.

If it helps any, a one bedroom would be ok. The kids don't care if they sleep on cots or in sleeping bags on the floor as long as they get to see mom KWIM? Home is where the heart is right? I grew up very poor and we lived in a lot of 1 br places. Sure, it wasn't ideal from an outsiders view, but honestly, some of my favorite memories are of mom and I snuggling on the double bed that doubled as a couch, in the living room.

It's ok honey. You can only do your best and even if they complain, don't take it personally. Sooner or later, they will realize that at least you always loved them and did what you could.

Kirstenmumof3 replied:
Thanks! I am only applying for a one bedroom, because that's what I qualify for. There isn't a seperasion agreement, so legally I can't put the kids on the housing application. When DH and I seperated last time I only had a one bedroom, but it was a really good size. Just don't want us all to be cramped into a tiny apartment.

kit_kats_mom replied:
Hey you know, sometimes close is good. LOL I'm really really sorry you are having a rough time. It just burns my butt that there aren't more support systems out there for people who are really giving it a good go.

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A&A'smommy replied: I'm sorry honey!!! It will get better just takes time honey!!!

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amynicole21 replied: You're in my thoughts. Don't worry, something will work itself out.

Can you find a roommate? I know it's not ideal, esp. with the kids coming to visit, but maybe it would work?

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mummy2girls replied: (((HUGS)))

hun maby at first a one bedroom may be a good thing to just start off. The kids wont care hun! As long as theya re near you and you can make a fun slumber oparty everytime they come over:) When i first started off it was a small one bedroom. it felt nice to be close to jenna like that:)

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Kirstenmumof3 replied: Thanks everyone! I've been calling landlords all day and I'm really starting to get frustrated. I am going to see one on Monday, it's the second floor of a house, just down the street from the kids. The only problem is it's $550 a month and the landlord wants first and last. I barely have enough for the first months rent and it's also over a $100 more than disability will allow for rent. I guess will see how it goes.

Oh and some bad news I was turned down for a cleaning position because I didn't have an address. It was through the Canadian Mental Health Association.

Calimama replied: I hope things start looking up for you hun.

MommyToAshley replied:
I am sorry things are so rough right now. Hang in there, it will work itself out. Many thoughts and prayers for you.

As for the cleaning position, couldn't you give the address that you are staying at right now? And, then give them the new address when you move?

Kirstenmumof3 replied:
No I had to give them a premanent address and by October 1 I don't even know where I would be staying.

kimberley replied: i am sorry hon. i will pray u find something soon.
can u maybe leave the pets at the house? i know that is a big issue in ontario... most places that are affordable don't allow pets.