Name dilemma

coasterqueen wrote: Okay so it's not really a dilemma, but I'm having *issues* with naming this baby.

Dh really wanted Megan and I really wanted Ashlyn. He also wanted the middle name to be Nicole and I'm fine with that. I like Megan, nothing against the name I just think it's too popular. It was #30 on the social security list for babies born in 2003. Ashlyn was like #90 so wasn't as bad.

Anyways Dh said fine Ashlyn it is but he keeps making me feel bad in a jokingly manner for him not ever getting to chose the name. I know he's just playing with me but it still bothers me and it's got me thinking twice now.

So of course I've been pounding this in my head a bazillion times and now I'm even thinking bazaar thoughts. Well, maybe not. A few of our friends brought this point up....we live on the outskirts of the city so our kids go to a school in a smaller town. THat smaller town is right next to another smaller town called Ashland. See where I'm going here? So of course I'm thinking she's going to be made fun of because her name would be Ashlyn and well Ashland the town is close by. Am I just having pregnancy insanity over this or what?

So I'm still calling the baby "this baby" or "the new baby" and I hate that. I want to give her a name!

Someone shed some light on this please. Oh and I tried to have DH and I both look at a whole array of new names but he said Ashlyn and Megan are the only ones he likes....so those are my ONLY choices.

MomToMany replied: We went through this when I was PG with Kayla. We could NOT decide on names. And we didn't know what we were having either, so that meant double the names!

I love the name Megan. I've wanted a daughter with that name. But I agree that it is too popular. I know Hannah is a very popular name as well. But DH didn't like Megan. We could NOT agree on anything until we were driving home from our fishing trip. I kept saying different names, and e said NO to each one. Then I almost started crying because we could not agree! I said, "There's one more girl's name, but I don't know if I want to tell you now!". Of course he wanted to know. We knew the middle name was going to be Marie, so I told him Kayla. He said he loved it! So that's how we agreed on a girl's name.

The boy's name was a totally different story!

~KARA~ replied: I like both names but I think they both are way to popular.
I was going to suggest making one her first name and the other her middle name but it dosent sound right!

Good luck! my dh and I couldnt agree on my youngest dd's name eaither untill I was like 7 mo prego.

chloe&tysmommy replied: That was the worst part for me and dh...we couldn't agree on ANYTHING! So I know what your going through....

I like both names LOL! But since dh wanted Nicole for a middle name then you should be allowed to decide on the first name Just a thought

chloe&tysmommy replied:
I was going to say the same thing

5littleladies replied: I think if you really like a name you should go ahead and use it. I understand the concern about the neighboring town but I'm not sure I would let that sway my decision. If you like it and your dh likes it I think that is all that matters. I like both of the names you have picked out so I say go ahead and use one of those. As far as the popularity of the name Megan-I have yet to hear another child called Megan since our Megan was born. I know a few older people with the name, but no one young so far.

victoire2002 replied: We had problems choosing our little boy's name. In the end, after witnessing the childbirth, DH didn't have much say in the matter. We had already compromised on the first name, and he basically was in such a state of shock after our 17 hour labor that I just named DS Aidan Daniel. DH didn't like Daniel from the beginning, but like I said, something about witnessing childbirth changed his opinion quickly about how important the name game was!

HTH
Vicki

coasterqueen replied:
You are totally right and DH said the same thing about the popularity of the name. We've never known a Megan IRL but it's been so popular the last few years that I'm afraid her classes might be swamped with that name, kwim?

Course I do love that name too, I don't know what my problem is. It has to be pg hormones.

Josie83 replied: I would ignore your husband and play the "I'll be the on giving birth" card when he brings it up again. Seriously though, i would ay stick with what you've decided! Ashlyn's a lovely name, i've never met a person called that before. I wouldn't worry about the neighbouring town thing. Let's face it, anything we get named or name our children, someone will find a way to make fun of it. I'm anticipating sassy Cassie when she starts school seeing as though she already gets it now. Din't worry about what anyone thinks, let us know what you decide! xx

jolene555 replied: Maybe I am the only one, but I totally think that having a nieghboring town with a similar name would sway my decision. Not so much that she would be made fun of (then again I've known kids to poke fun at most anything) but more of it becoming commonplace. I'm not sure if I can explain my thinking clearly, but I assure you that it makes good sence in my head. Anyhow, I like the name Meagan. I picture a sweet little chubby cheeked girl with pigtails dressing up in her mommy's clothes and high heels.

ediep replied: I love the names you chose....Ashlyn, Megan, Nicole all of them are beautiful....but I wanted to add we have a nearby town called Brielle and I also know a girl by that name and it isn't wierd at all and she never realy got teased.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: When DH and I picked Madeleine there weren't very many Maddie's and now they are everywhere. I know atleast 5 Kylies and I know some Ashlyn's. Megan I don't hear of too often anymore, but when I was in school there were a few. I'm partial to "M" names. I always wanted to name my little girl Mollie or Morgan. DH and I decided on Madeleine Estelle b/c that was my Nanie's name.

Ashlyn is a beautiful name. It goes especially well with Nicole. IMO a name needs to be given a lot of thought b/c they will be stuck with it forever (hope I didn't put more pressure on you there ) I really don't think the whole town situation will be paid attn to. My cousin named her little boy Collin and she lives in Collin County (there's a Collin Creek Mall, etc)

It is true that kids will be teased, but I find it hard for them to make a connection like that. KWIM?

I see your dilemma. Let us know what you and Ryan decide on.

5littleladies replied:
Same here. We thought we were being so original. I wouldn't change it though-I love the name Madeline.

MamaMartie replied: Well there are a few options:

You could just keep it as Ashlyn and your dh will eventually stop acting like a sore looser.

You could give in and name her Megan.

You could put it up to a vote with your family and friends and let them decide.

You could put the 2 names ina hat and pick one out.

You could use both names and not use nicole as the middle name.

You could wait til she is born and you see which she looks like.

I have a Megan and she has never been ina class with another Megan. In fact we didn't meet another Megan until last year and that girl is a couple years older. The hard part about that social security chart is it really isn't accurate. Names seem to be popular from place to place, and that list is counrty wide. Our 2nd son's name is Joseph, which is in the top 5, I think. We've met 1 other Joseph and he is 3 years older than my son. But our first son is Jared, which isn't in the top 10, but there are always tons of Jared's in his school. And our 4th child, Hannah has a top 10 (maybe top 5) name and we've not met another Hannah yet. So if you want to poll popularity of names ask around your neighborhood about Megan an Ashlyn to see how many other kids have that name.
Good luck picking a name and for now just give ehr a really good nickname so youhave a name you like to call her.

MommyToAshley replied: I wouldn't let the popularity of the name or the neighboring town decide what to name your daughter. But, of course, Ashley is a very popular name and I still picked it. I thought it was pretty, and it was only one of two names that we agreed upon.

This just reminds me.... remember when our little ones were just starting to say their names? A lot of them would only say one syllable and drop off the last syllable. Well, Ashley would say Ash... but you really couldn't hear the "h" sound. You get where I am going. You might have the same issue with Ashlyn for a short time,

GavinsMommy replied: Karen...

I feel you on the popularity issue. Gavin is the number 3 name in Europe right now and God knows what the rank in the USA is. But I wouldn't worry though. Just about every name...except for names like Chiquita and Shaquanda and Penelope (LOL) are popular at some point. So go ahead and use what you like. Lauren wasn't popular when my mother named me and look now!!

catou_98 replied: How about you let kylie choose the name, you both like megan and ashlyn so why not, I read somewhere that it's a great way to involve the older sibling and making them feel really special and more loving toward the baby because in a way it's "their" baby too! just a suggestion!

jolene555 replied:
What an extraordinary idea!!! I remember when Rosie O'Donnell adopted her baby girl she let her son, Parker, name her Belle after his favorite movie Beauty and the Beast. Too cute!!

coasterqueen replied:
Great idea and I did think of it. I just think she's just a tad bit too young to understand it all.

We asked her "Kylie would you like to call your sister Ashlyn or Megan?". She immediately said Megan. So Dh asked her "Kylie would you like to call your sister Megan or Ashlyn?". She immediately said Ashlyn. She's just picking the last name she hears. I think she's just too young . I would LOVE to let her pick it out...although her sister might not like that idea if we would tell her that one day.

MommyToAshley replied: That's funny, Kylie can't make up her mind either.

Mommy2BAK replied: Thats funny.

I agree that Kylie is probaly too young to understand. And I agree about the younger sibling maybe resenting that the older sibling picked out their name. But it could be the opposite too.