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mysweetpeasWil&Wes wrote: Need opinions again...

We had Thanksgiving at my sister's. My sister's SIL's kids were there too. Her daughter is 11 and my niece is 7, and of course my niece looks up to her older cousin. All of the kids were in the playroom and when I went in to check on Wil, the older kids were at the computer on Itunes playing that song "London Bridge" by Fergie. There is a naughty version and a radio edited version, but both can be dirty IMO. So suddenly I hear the 11 year old say to my niece "do you know what this song means Giulia?" And I immediately said in a stern voice, "It doesn't matter what it means. It doesn't mean anything". It got really quiet and I just walked out of the room (with Wil).

So later I saw the 11 year old whispering something to her mom and her mom said "well then just turn the volume down"...and the rest of the night the 11 year old was really snotty to me. Of course she was mad at what I said. But my niece is SEVEN! She doesn't need to know what that song means IMO.

Do you think I did the right thing? Should I have told her mom and my sister? I don't know my sister's SIL that well, so I let it go the rest of the night and waited to tell my sister when everyone was gone. My sister was PO'd, because it's not the first time and was happy I said something to her niece. But I'm wondering if maybe I should have done more/less/nothing at all. Maybe it wasn't my place...?

What would you have done? How do you protect your kids from downloading naughty music? It's so easy to get it these days!

grapfruit replied: Nope. I think you did the right thing.

A 7 year old does NOT need to know what that means. As far she knows it could a take on the nursery rhyme, and IMO that's what a 7 year old SHOULD think.

There's a reason that music has "age limits" on it.

I think maybe your SIL dropped the ball a little bit by not scolding her daughter, although knowing an 11 yr old, she probably didn't tell her mom the entire story. I wouldn't worry about it too much, especially if you don't see them too much. If it's a problem, nicely explain to her mom what you witnessed, and just mention that you know your sister doesn't want her daughter listening to that type of music.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Well, I think what you did was fine - however if you started, you should have finished... as in - you told them in a stern voice that it didn't matter... but you didn't expalin why you were speaking sternly, kwim? So the daughter probably didn't get the "message", but rather thought that maybe you were ticked that maybe it was too loud and that's why her mom told her to turn to volume down?

I don't know. But you were definitely right in saying something... I would have followed up on it with the kids though, telling them that the lyrics aren't something that need to be explained at this moment, and that the moms probably wouldn't appreciate them talking about that sort of stuff.... Jmho

TANNER'S MOM replied: Can we have her explain it to me.. cause thats one song I dont get..lol

No I think you did the right thing.. Let them be snotty cause you were right. It's hard when kids play with younger kids and this seems to happen..

cameragirl21 replied: i would have done the same thing, but i probably would have told my sister right away so she can decide if she wants her daughter to play with her cousin for the rest of the day or not.
you removed Wil from the situation and likely your sis may have removed her daughter from the situation also had she known about it.
but it is TG and it's hard to keep the kids apart when family members get together for something like this so I don't know how much your sis could have done without causing a scene.
i think that 11 year old's mom has a few screws loose if she doesn't mind her 11 year old playing lyrics like that for her young cousin and talking to her about what it means. then again, like grapfruit said, the 11 year old probably didn't exactly tell her mom the whole truth.

coasterqueen replied:
Yeah can she explain it to me too.

ITA that you did the right thing.

Boo&BugsMom replied: ITA with everyone else. IMHO, an 11 year old shouldn't be listening to it either.

C&K*s Mommie replied:
Fergie describes the song as being "kind of like a punch in the face to let people know I'm coming out.. I've been getting way too into myself nowadays and I just wanna have fun with as many men as I can possible." The song is a club track that only lightly touches on personal lyrics about fame and celebrity ("It's like every time I get up on the dude/Paparazzi put my business in the news").

This does not explain the song very well, but this is what Fergie had to say about it.


I think you did the right thing Rae.

MyLuvBugs replied: I agree with Rocky. You did a good job!! but you could have gone further in my opinion. I definately would have told them to turn off the computer, and explained that what they were listening to was NOT for their little ears. Then I would have escorted them directly to their mothers and explained the situation right then and there. I could care less if my SIL would want her kid to listen to that kind of music, but by gum they better NOT listen to it around my kids. KWIM?

luvbug00 replied: I personaly wouldn't have cared. Mya is a furgie fan and listens to all kinds of music unedited. I answer her questions when she asks but mostly she just likes the music. I don't remember any really provocitive lyrics on that one. At any rate I don't know what their parents views on censorship are but I think you did the right thing by removing Wil from an envornment you were not comfortable having him in. Also when Mya has friends over I ask the parents what the kids can and can not listen to because Mya has music going all the time.

My3LilMonkeys replied: I think you did the right thing IMO. If your neice is not allowed to listen to that music, then you had every right to ask the music be turned off/down. In my family, whoever sees/hears a child doing something wrong tells them about it and all of the kids are taught to obey all of the adults.

A&A'smommy replied: YOu did the right thing!!!!! IMO!!!!