Need Help ASAP - Dreams, what do they mean?

salmndr007 wrote: Ok, I know Jess doesn't like when I talk about her, but I am getting kinda nervous. She keeps having these really bad dreams. The other night, she dreamed the baby was born still, and tonight she woke up crying saying that the baby didn't have a heart beat in her dream. I assured her that everything is ok, and it took her literally an hour to calm down and start to relax again. She hasn't been spotting or anything like that. Our next appt is on the 13th and I told her that if she wanted, we can give the Dr. a call Thursday (thats when we get back home) and see if they have had a cancellation and see if they could squeeze her in so that she wont have to wait to put her mind at ease. I just really don't know what to do and these dreams seem like they keep getting worse. I would feel so terrible if I kept telling her that everything was going to be ok and then we got to the Dr. and everything was not ok. I don't know...I guess to sum it all up in one word I would have to be...scared. Ok, sorry to keep ranting on, but she is asleep and I just couldn't fall asleep so I decided to come see if you gals had any advise or knew anything that would help me and Jess out. I appreciate all your help and input.

CAMSMOM1 replied: Sal~

First of all, I've studied dreams. (it's been awhile, but I can give you a little insight hopefully)

Dreams do not mean what they appear as. For instance, most of her dreams of having something wrong with the baby, doesn't mean that it's true. I've read a lot of post on here, from pg ladies about dreams. And many women have very strange dreams when they are pregnant. First of all, the hormones are crazy. Not only do they make you moody, but they do effect your dream life. And then all the pressure of being pregnant, all the fears & worries we have come out during our sleep. Every mother has fears & worries when we are pregnant. We feel responsible for the child's health, and we always second guess ourselves. Especially if you are having any medical problems. I remember having dreams that I would drop my son, or that I gave birth in a toilet and he drowned. Horrible dreams, that seemed so real at the time, and when I would wake up I would cry! That's when I started researching info on dreams & intertations.

I'm going to go see if I can find that book on dreams. But that might take awhile, so for now, I wanted to reassure you that everything is fine....at least as far as the dreams are concerned.
Our subconscience comes out during our dreams. When you are going to become a Mom, even though you are excited, you still worry. And since Jess has had some medical issues, like any good Mom...she worries about the baby.
But I have to ask, why is she doing so much travleing?? Isn't she suppossed to be on bed rest? Sorry for being noisey, just wondering.
But rest assured that these dreams don't mean anything is wrong with the baby, it's just Jess's way of releasing her anxiouties.

salmndr007 replied: I'm glad someone is up at this hour. Thanks for the reassurance. We talked to the Dr. and he said that traveling was fine. As a matter of fact, he said that it would probably do her some good to get out of town for a while because she was worrying about so many things around Charleston. We have been mostly resting, a couple days of shopping, but as soon as she starts feeling tired or worn down even a little, that is it, time to go home, put the feet up and relax. The stress her body was taking on was due mostly to not being able to find a good job as well as stressing about her situations. These trips were to help her forget about that for a while so she could have some fun and relax for once. Besides, I take care of everything, all she has to do is wake up and follow me. I pack, get the car ready, drive, and haul everything through the airport, plus she sits with the bags while I run and grab food and whatnot so it really isn't that stressful on her body at all.

Edward's Mommy replied: When I was pregnant with Edward, I dreamt one night that I went into labor and I went into the hospital to have the baby, and in the dream, I wasn't pregnant at all. I had dreams that he was premature and even dead. But when I REALLY gave birth, the only thing that went wrong was the epidural wore off on me 4 times and I ended up in C-section. But he was so beautiful and healthy! These dreams are nothing more than her fears coming out! But the best of luck and prayers for the rest of the pregnancy and may God bless you with a healthy and beautiful baby!! to both of you!

MyLuvBugs replied: Don't worry about it. Pregnancy dreams are crazy, and feel soooooo real that you wake up and actually feel like they happened. I dreamt once when PG with Lorelei that I'd accidentally stabbed my husband in the chest with a screw driver. I woke up SCREAMING and sobbing, and I had to turn on the light and make sure that he was alright, and just like Jessi it took me FOREVER to calm back down. It felt so real!!

According to my PG books, Pregnancy hormones keep you stuck in REM sleep where most dreams occur. The longer your there, the more vivid and nutty the dreams become. Another mom on here once told me that we dream what we fear. So maybe there's some truth to that. I know that I fear miscarriage and still birth and dying in child birth, and I've dreamt it all.

If the dreams are really starting to get to her, just have her talk with her doctor about them on her next visit. I'm sure everything it alright.

If you don't have it already, take a look at "The Pregnancy Book" by Dr. Sears. It's pretty cool, and easy read. VERY informative too.

CAMSMOM1 replied: Hey Sal, I've been looking up some stuff for you. Here is one artical I found on Baby Center website: ('ll try to find more. But basically what I was telling you in my 1st post, is what they are saying below. It's just that every Mom wants their baby to be ok. It's so hard to "know" the baby is fine, when you are pg. You can't see them, and you don't know what's going on. And these insecurites get the best of us, and come out in our dreams.)


My dreams lately have been so disturbing and so vivid. Does this mean something might be wrong with me or the baby?
Not at all. Pregnancy dreams, especially in the last trimester, are often vivid and scary--and this is completely normal. Such dreams may provide a way for your subconscious to deal with any fears and insecurities you no doubt have about pregnancy and impending motherhood. In her book Pregnancy and Childbirth, Tracie Hotchner writes, "Dreams have an important function at this time in your life. Think of them as messages, information about yourself that you have no other way of finding out. Dreams are things to discuss, ideas to recognize."




What do they mean?
You may have a panicky dream in which you leave the baby unsupervised, lose her altogether, or fumble some simple task like burping your child--scenarios that may signal you're fearful of the demands of mothering. Dreaming that you're running away, falling from a great height, or trapped in a room may express your concern about losing your freedom. Other common dreams reflect concerns over changes in your looks or in your marriage, what your baby will look like, or whether you're preparing yourself for motherhood properly.

What do I do about these dreams?
Listen to them and know that they're normal. They're often easy to interpret--a dream that you can't feed your baby is most likely reflective of your fears that you won't know how to take care of a new baby. Although such dreams can be disturbing, regard them as an opportunity to read the tea leaves of your inner thoughts. Once you examine your fears, you can often confront them openly--either with your spouse or healthcare provider.

Though, pregnant women are usually the ones who dream vividly, you may find your partner is also having memorable dreams about the changes that lie ahead of you both. By using your dreams as a touchstone for discussion, you may find them a useful mirror and tool. You may even get a good laugh out of them.

salmndr007 replied: Thanks, you don't understand how much that eases my worries. I am actually sitting in the bathroom on the ground in total darkness so I don't wake Jess up. I guess I had better go plug the laptop back in and try to get some sleep tonight since it is already 1AM and my battery has about 10 mins left on it. Thanks for all the encouraging words. You ladies are the best!

CAMSMOM1 replied: I'm glad we could help you. And you are going to be a great father, and Jess is going to be a great Mom. But being parents for the 1st time is scary, no matter how excited you are. It's actually a healthy thing for Jess to get these fears out through her dreams. Like the article I gave you, try to talk to her about the dreams, and any fears she might have. Talking about it can really ease her mind, and help her sleep better.
And I know you treat her like a queen, and taking great care of her on your trips. I'm glad she is getting out, and having some fun.
Have a great night.

Ann

kit_kats_mom replied: cams mom is right. I think that the hormones make the dreams more vivid and that the bad things that happen with baby in them are just reflections of your fears about being a new parent. Do be suprised if she has a few tornado dreams too. I had LOTS of those and they are pretty simple to decipher. Your life is going to be turned upside down for a bit and there are things going on that are outside of your control (or hers).

I had lots of vivid dreams. I left the baby in the trunk with some shopping bags for a few hours in the hot florida sun. I gave birth to a litter of kittens, a full grown toddler etc. normal normal normal.

Mommy2Isabella replied: I also woke up a little later in the night and had a dream Sal cheated on me! AHH ... so I guess with my fears of being FAT brings upon fears of him LEAVING me and the baby for a skinny woman .... AHH! So, reading these posts made me feel better. I know other PG women have WEIRD dreams, I just didn't know how weird. I guess since I have NO IDEA how the baby is doing in there i worry if he is alright! Though ... I AM STARVING and need IHOP ... so that is a good sign! haha Hope everyone has a great day!

TO IHOP I GO! ... WITH the NON cheating Husband

C&K*s Mommie replied: I am glad that the ladies here helped to assauge your fears about the dreams. I, too, had strange dreams when I was PG with Kellie (my second).

Hope you have enjoyed your IHOP b'fast. We were going to go out to eat this AM ourselves, but Kellie is ill. So maybe tomorrow. IHOP sounds good though right now!

A&A'smommy replied: While its scary and they suck they are perfectly normal to have them.. its her worse fear and pregnancy harmones mess with your dreams too

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Oooh I rermver cheating dreams - i woke up mad and smacked my dh a couple times too.

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Either i'm pregnant or extremely weird. Last night I dreamt I was playing soccer. The ball was the removed head of someone I knew (thankfully I no longer remember who that was).

Fortunately the memory of dreams is fairly quickly erased.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Being PG myself, I have strange and scary dreams ALLLLLLL the time, totally normal. All you can do is give her a big hug and tell her it's okay. I always snuggle up to my DH when I have bad dreams. He gives me the "okay" and I feel a lot better. He also holds my hand or belly sometimes. Like Ed said, I typically forget the dream in about a day or so, sometimes sooner.

kit_kats_mom replied:
bwahahahahaha!

hurry Ed. Get to the store & buy a test. If it's positive, you will be one rich fella