Need advice-Family Issue - long sorry

jacobsmama wrote: First off you need to know that DH parents are divorced and remarried (as are mine) and his step mom is a LAZY POT HEAD. Sorry if that was strong but she is she lets her 5 year old daughter run the house while she is passed out from being so high. TERRIBLE I know. And then she wonders why she gets into chemicals and cuts her hair and puts things in the toilet. Anyhow her and I butt heads because I do not let Jacob stay alone at there house for this reason.

WHO WOULD RIGHT?

Well She has a daughter who is 22 and has a son about 3 months older than Jacob. DH step mother watches this little boy daily (her grandson).

Now with that said.

Yesterday we were down at their house outside and DH little sister the 5 year old and the grandson 2 year old were in the window waving and saying I wanna come outside to us because it was nice out. I look away and I look back and the 5 year old has a death grip on the 2 year old around the neck His face is red and he is screaming and I can hear him outside. Im yelling and so she finally lets go and the punches him in the head I was like OMG. SO I ran in the house and told DH step mom what had just happend and she was like OH WELL

What??? She didn't punish the little girl get up or anything. I also told DH father who was outside and he reacted the same way. I explained to her that was bad (the 5 year old) and she ran off laughing at me. Now we are not close to them and the mother of the 2 year old is very irresponsible with alot of things but has been getting it together a little lately (she isn't with father so single mom)

Anyhow wouldn't you want to know? I know if that was happening to Jacob and the sitter/grandma wasn't doing anything I would be FURIOUS.

So do I get involved and tell her about this?? Or do I just leave it be??

ilovemybaby replied: I would tell her. If she doesn't want to know that's her problem but at least you would have done something.

It's a shame we are talking about your MIL here. Otherwise my suggestion would be to call CPS on her.

redchief replied: I'd tell her but be prepared for the MIL to say you're just saying things because you don't like her. I don't think I'd feel right if I didn't say something though.

jacobsmama replied:
This is the EXACT reason that I even doubt it..She will just say I don't like her and I'm lying and it wasn't that big of a deal KWIM??

redchief replied:
Yes... but sometimes even when I know what the outcome is going to be, my conscience makes me do things. I'd still say something.

luvbug00 replied: say somthing!!!!!

jacobsmama replied: Thanks you guys. I'm going to talk to her about it tommorrow.

EvesMom replied:

My3LilMonkeys replied: Good luck and I hope the mom believes you regardless of what your MIL says.

It's not always easy to do the right thing but I'm proud that you are doing it anyway.

jacobsmama replied:
Thanks Pam. I know that I would like to know so that is why I"m going to tell her.

Crystalina replied: I would definately say something. I would want to know.

Please forgive me for this but ...what the heck is wrong with your MIL. That poor 5 year old. She doesn't know any better and to see her mom passed out like that! That will stay with her forever. I would call CPS! That is exactly how my little sis was with her daughter. She would have EVERYONE passed out at her house and it was filthy. What did I do? I called CPS so fast she never even saw it coming. I told her also. I could care less if she was mad about it. I was NOT going to see my little niece live like that. Now she has another daughter and has straightend up. I looked at it this way...She was making HER choices but why should an innocent child suffer because her mother is an idiot?

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: And why should a cousin, or is it nephew ( I got mixed up in genetics), suffer either. I would tell someone. No child needs to be mixed up in that and it sounds like your MIL isn't doing either child any favors.

CAMSMOM1 replied: Kristi, I'm glad you are going to talk to her. At least you're conscious will be clear, and hopefully, she will believe you & do something about it. Those poor kids are probably so bored, and have no discipline or sturture...or love from her, that they take it out on each other. Those poor kids. I can see why you don't talk to her, I wouldn't either.

Let us know how the talk goes.