Need some help/ideas

3_call_me_mama wrote: Ok guys I'm stuck in a rut. hating myself and feeling resentful that i am stuck in this house with these kids all days. I'm sure you've all been there and dodn e that so i know it wil pass (hopefully!). I get NO me time. I mean seriously NO time to myself.. kathleen even comes into teh shower with me most days And with another one coming soon i just need to get soemthign figured out so that I dont' go completely BEZEERRK! Seriously! I about lost it yesterday and called my mom to come get Cameron so I wouldn't end up screaming at him and then feeling horrible about it. I really need to find somethign to do or whatever os that i have time to myself. I dont' want to make excuses but it's what I always end up doing. SO I'll try and avoid shooting down options by saying up front :
*I'm not a girly girl so manicures and pedicures are OUT. I hate havign them done, find it a complete waste of money.
*massages are out too as my SIL is a masseuse and i can go get one whenever but it's not really relaxing for me as we always end up talkign about family stuff or the kids.
*I live in a rinky dink littel town with the nearest mall 45 mintues away, closest walmart is 45+ minutes away
* I HATE the gym (despise it actually.... liked curves when i went but they closed teh one near here)
*Don't have much to spend on my myself. We don't take allowences and so it woudl have to be fairly inexpensive so i wouldnt' feel guilty using $$ to do it.

IF you made it that far . THANK YOU! and IF you have any ideas or advice or suggestions for what you do. I'd be more than glad to hear them. (Sorry i'm so picky/negative and limiting on ideas!)

stella6979 replied: Do you by chance have a bike? Nice long bikerides always help me to relax, clear my head and feel refreshed.

mckayleesmom replied: Walking is free.

Kaitlin'smom replied: okay you said you called your mom to come get cameron, well can she take the kids one afternoon or morning a week so you can just have you time at home, do what ever you want with the time...sleep, read a book, do some type of easy craft anything you love or miss doing. Each week could be different, or the same. up to you.

hoep you find some you time, we all need it.

gr33n3y3z replied: you sound a lot like me with the girlie girl stuff lol

When your children are that young its hard to get away and have you time
But what I use to do is just walk some place or go shopping by myself or with a friend minus my kids and theirs.
I dont have much to suggest sorry

3_call_me_mama replied:
Yes and no. She is the ONLY sitte rwe have so we try not to use her fo rtha tunless we have to. PLUS I watch another little girl during the week so it woudl be 3 kids (4 when the baby comes) and she has MD so can't climb stairs, or chase them or get on teh floor with them, so it exhausts her to have them when my dad isn't home. But they are really good about taking them when i do audits. Plus they own a business that they run form their home, so she has to kind of be in the office part of the day when they're there.

I need a reliable teenager type person to jsut come watch them at the house.. that woudl be ideal.. but i dont' know any that arent' into every sport possible! So it limits their availability.

As far as biking.. I have a bike, it's old but works, and i used ot use it.. but beign 8 months pregnant I can't do that right now.. good idea for after though.... a walk is a good thought too... just trying to figure when i would actualyl be abel to do it. (DH gets home around 6:30 and that's when we eat dinner~ mayeb i could skip dinner and go and eat when i get back)

3_call_me_mama replied:
Thanks for the hugs... and it's ok... I dont' expect everyoen ot have ideas... cause if they were that easy to come by.. i'd have some ! LOL
And I thought abotu callgin a friend (i have maybe 3 tha tlive around me) but they all have kids and woudl have to take theirs along.. adn that is not relaxing.. maybe i need to make a kidless friend just for grown up time.. how do you meet those people?

TheOaf66 replied: you can try just going to a park or something and reading, go for a long walk by yourself. Anything that will take the edge off so you can collect your thoughts for 5 minutes or just get a break.

CantWait replied: Do you have any ritzy coffee houses near you? Grab a hot chocolate, or whatever is to your liking, and sit and read the baby, or head to a near by park.

3_call_me_mama replied: Nope no coffee house. When i say rinky dink littel town i actually mean i live in teh middle of no where. It's actually liek 6 miles to town with anything in it. (Park or otherwise.... only high way between here and there)

coasterqueen replied: Ok, are you wanting ideas of things you can do alone when you DO get alone time or are you wanting ideas on how you could get alone time? Or ideas of things to do with the kids so you somewhat feel like you are getting to do something "for yourself"? Am I making any sense? I'm a bit 'off' today. I only got 3 hours of sleep last night.

3_call_me_mama replied:
All 3 actually !

You actually made perfect sense
I need some ideas that I can enjoy by myself or with a friend
adn I need ideas on how to get that ME time.
and worst case scenario.. if i can't get ME time.. ideas to get teh kids to leave me alone long enough to not pull my hair out!

I know I'm not going to get tiem to myself every day or even every week. it's just a fact of reality in teh way our life works. BUT i still need to find SOME time somewhere to breathe.

Oh a positive note.. I did manage to get a night away SANS hubby adn kids.... with 2 friends, and i informed them that if they dont' want to leave their kids for hte night then I won't be upset if they stay home !LOL
SO Sept 22 (hopefully I won't have had this bean yet!! or it willl throw the plan out hte window!!) we're doing a girls night away. About 45 minutes away, dinner shopping and hotel stay, then more shoppign teh next day. (All our kids have fall birthdays so we'll be birthday shopping, but oh well it's still shopping) One of the girls Dh actually suggested this to me adn I told DH and he said "have fun" so I booked the hotel today. Only $69 for the night.. divide tha tby 3 adn it's $23 a person!!! SO not that big of a splurge! And the 3rd girl hasnt' told ehr Dh yet but if he says no the other girl and i wil ljsut go and split it by 2, still not bad! SO in 1 month and 5 days I get a night away! (Sad that it has to get planned that far away and i probably won't do anythign alone in between there.... But at least it's a start right??!! )
Thans everyoen fo rhte ideas, support and hugs !

CantWait replied: WOW Carrie, I can see your fustration now. Even with all the rinky dink small towns we lived in (here included) there was always something I could do to just get away from it all.

I'm going to keep pondering, and hopefully I'll get back to ya.