Need to vent- got any tissues?

maestra wrote: We are selling my house to my brother and sister-in-law. We have been wanting to get out, and they needed a place. So we agreed that we would walk away with 5,000, loosing 15,000 on our house. When my brother mentioned the appraisal, I said on the phone to him "Aren't you lucky to have such a nice sister?" to which he responded "You couldn't have sold it anyway." No thank you, nothing.

Then they came over, wanting to look at carpet samples and paint samples. I worked two jobs to buy this house, and spent months agonizing over the nursery. They don't like it, and don't need it, so they are paininting over it. I don't want to hear about their changes, as that is hurtful to me, knowing how hard I worked. So I try to stay away, and when they asked me to come and look, I just said "No thank you." Well that made them mad.

SO THEN, they hit us up for money for rent for the three weeks after close that we are staying. We have a contract, in which they agreed to two weeks. When we found out that the apartment of our dreams would be available on July 7, they agreed to let us stay through that weekend. Now they are saying they don't have to let us stay at all, despite what the contract says (my realtor says that's not true). Wrong thing to say to a pregnant woman! So I let loose, told them about the money I have been paying lately on the house to make sure that everything is in good order for when they come. (Extermination, making sure that the air conditioning is working well, about 200 worth)

They call every day, wanting to come over to compare samples, etc, and have really hurt my feelings. My brother did finally say Thank You though. But I guess I got the ultimate revenge. I called my mom at work at told her what they did. She's furious, and they are staying with her. ha ha.

A&A'smommy replied: OMG that is SOO mean! Your brother should be ashamed of himself!!! ((((BIG HUGS))))

DansMom replied: These unpleasant misunderstandings and weird feelings always seem to happen, whether you're related or not to the person, when there is a lot of money involved. In fact, I think it might be worse when you are friends or related to someone that you sell a home or car to. We bought our home from someone we didn't know without using a realtor, and it seemed like the closer we got to the purchase date the more they wanted to take back things they said we could have, like furniture they would leave behind for us. At first they offered to let us move our bigger furniture and some boxes in early (no one was living there), and then they suddenly changed their mind---which meant that I had to close by myself on the condo I sold and take the check as a downpayment to the other closing (different bank), all while DH worked with the movers to load our stuff and our kitty cats and clean up the old place, get the key and meet the movers at the new place---I was 7 months pregnant, and it was such a hassle to try to do everything in one morning. Anyway, the seller was the daughter of an older woman who had lived in the home and had passed away, and the seller was an only child who had grown up in the house and had so many memories in it, so she was having a lot of emotions about strangers moving into her childhood home---I'm sure it wasn't easy at all for her. She cried at the closing, knowing she was selling her mother's home, and I ended up feeling her sadness and imagining how it must be for her. I guess what I'm trying to say is that it's natural for weird interpersonal stuff to go on when you're selling or buying a home---it's such a major life change, and it can be awkward.

amynicole21 replied: Oh man! I would be very upset as well. First of all, I'd request that they wait until you are out of the house before doing all of the decorating... that's just plain rude I can't believe that they are going back on agreements, either. You wouldn't think you would have to get everything in writing with family. I hope that they grow to understand just what yo uare doing for them, and begin giving you the respect you deserve

Jamison'smama replied: Maybe you need to write some of this down to really explain to them what they are doing. Sometimes it is hard to tell someone verbally what you need to without arguing. If you just stated your feelings and desires it may help.

So sorry you are going through this!

kit_kats_mom replied: I'd be ticked off. I hate it when you do something nice for someone and they just don't acknowlege it at all. Sorry that you are going through this.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: OMG that is just terrible! I can't believe your brother would do something like that! I'm glad you finally said something to him, that's just WRONG! I think I would have exploded too! Good Luck with everything and I hope your move goes smoothly for you1

bellymonstersmama replied: Sometimes siblings can be very incensitive. It sounds like you got the ultimate revenge by telling your mom though. That really made me laugh.

momof2girls replied: Argh Id have hit him, just kidding, Im sorry that is not very nice of him!

CantWait replied: I'm so sorry your brother did seem grateful. He really did get a deal. I can't imagine how hurt I must have been. Like DansMom said any change to something you love would hurt. I bet they just wanna make the house truly theirs and that's why they're making all the changes. I'm sure nothing hurtful was meant by it.

paradisemommy replied: wow..don't think you could get any more insensitive on his part. he's just being plain rude. so sorry you are going through that...

kimberley replied: i would be very upset too. a little appreciation and sensitivity goes a long way. i am glad you told your mom. hope things get better.

maestra replied: I know that they're not trying to be hurtful by wanting to change everything, but why do they want me to look at it all the time. And why do they want to come over every week? I know they are really excited, but what really made me made was they came over right after signing their paperwork. When they signed their paperwork they saw that I made 500 more than we agreed on. I purposefully lied about the amount I owed on my mortgage because my brother never makes contingency plans and always cuts things too close. I overestimated by 1500 but only got 500 of that. Good thing I thought ahead, right? Well they were mad that I made that 500 more so they came over to ask for money. They didn't even ask, they demanded, then my sil threatened to evict me.

I suspect they don't have enough cash for the carpeting, and that's why they hit me up for money. If they had just been kind and explained their situation, dh and I would have given it to them. If they would have asked for some rent from the begining, we would have gladly paid it. But they didn't, and they wait until the bottom line to ask for money. That was just the straw that broke the camel's back for me.

Thanks for listening guys, I really needed it.

MommyToAshley replied: OMG.... I am sorry your brother and SIL are acting this way. You have every right to vent.... You have given them a great bargain, and then they have the nerve to ask for rent. I don't get people sometimes.

But, on the upside... it is almost over and I am glad you found your dream apartment. Try to focus on your new apartment and try not to think about what is going on with your brother.

coasterqueen replied: That is just down right horrible that he is acting like that to you! I couldn't even imagine my sister doing that to me.