New Years party decision

coasterqueen wrote: I don't know what to do. Need opinions, honest opinions. I've spent the last 4 years with my girls and this year I thought I wanted to do something just with DH. I asked my parents if they would watch the girls so we could go out since we haven't gotten to in so long on NY's and they said they would. They normally go out and do this big thing, but kindly gave that up so we could go have fun. My mom was a bit upset about it, but she's now very excited to have the girls.

Our friends (well more like DH's friends, I tolerate them) are having a big shindig. Actually they wanted us to host it but I just don't feel up to catering in my house, so they said they would. Then our other friends (more my friends, Dh tolerates them, lol) usually have a big bash, but this year they are having a party with all our friends AND the kids, so it's very low key.

Well now I'm having second thoughts on what I want to do. On one hand I really would like to go out and have this time with DH, although we just got to do something together a few weeks ago. The other hand I really feel like I'm going to miss my girls and actually feel guilty (not a great word to use here ) because Kylie has celebrated ringing in the new year with us since she was born. Megan slept through last NY.

So what would you honestly do? My mom called all excited last night, so I also feel like I'm going to make them sad if I cancel PLUS they won't be able to get a plan together to go do something they normally do on NYE and I don't want to leave them hanging.

holley79 replied: If M&K would be fine with the grands and ring in the NY with them then I say go out, have a great time just you and DH.

TheOaf66 replied: I guess I wouldn't mind goin out with just Jennie and I, we don't get to do that very often even if it is with other friends.

coasterqueen replied:
That's what DH said too. So we asked Kylie if she wanted to hang with mom and dad or grandma and papa for NYs and she quickly said G&P. So DH said, "Karen, there's your decision".

Still makes it hard to decide. ETA: that we didn't tell her about our friends and their kids party - I'm sure she would have jumped at that opportunity too.

Boys r us replied: Karen, it's not like you're dumping them off with a strange babysitter who is going to have them tucked in at 9pm..they still are going to be ringing in the new yeare with people they love and having fun, plus it sounds like your parents are really excited about it! Not to mention you can never have enough couple time, it's important!! Go out and have fun! Try not to think of the company you're going to be with(since you 'tolerate' them) just think of it as spending an evening with DH!
Maybe the two of you could dress up and go to a really nice dinner before you go to their party!

Kaitlin'smom replied: since your mom and the girls are excited leave that part alone, and then if you dont want to be aorund his friend do something just the 2 of you, does not matter you just got to do something a couple weeks ago, you need the time together. I have no clue yet where I will be, depends if they move the game time or not. Either way I knwo I will be with Kait and hopfully DH but it all depends on the time of the game.

CantWait replied: GO and have fun. Sounds like K is looking forward to NY with G&P.

Happy New Year!!!!

C&K*s Mommie replied: I agree with all the above. Go out to the party and have a good time.

Also the dinner pre-party idea from Nichole is a good one. You can have a good time with friends, get the chance to have a rare dinner alone with your DH, and still have a night out away from the girls. Have fun!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Easy one for me...GO OUT!!!

kimberley replied: go out with dh and enjoy yourself. you have the next four years to make it up to them when no one WILL babysit

Calimama replied: I'd go out! I bet they'll have a great time with your mom.

sparkys2boys replied: ohh, go ut and have fun!! If you really hate it then next year you know not to bother!