New baby..............
CosmetologyMommy wrote: My son is only 2 months old and I am already dying to have another!!!!!!! Actually the only thing stopping me is what other people will say. Has anyone had children or want to have children this close in age??????? 
My3LilMonkeys replied: Personally I don't but my boss has 2 kids (now age 24) who are 10 months apart. No one thinks it is odd now that they are older. I remember her telling me that when she went back to work and told her boss that she was pg again her boss immediately assumed it was an accident and said she was sorry to hear that, which I think is quite rude. If you really want it and are ready, I say go for it!
CosmetologyMommy replied: THANX 
shelbysmom replied: My brother in law has two kids about 14 months apart. They are now 3 and 4, and it was hard at times. But, I feel that if it is something that you and your husband agree on, why not. The kids are great together, and entertain one aonther! The other weekend the 3 year old stayed over night at our house, and he must of called his big sister 4 times while he was here. It was so cute!! They are very close.
But, at the same, my brother and I are 5 years apart and very close. And we were growing up also.
I say, do what you want, NOT what other people tell you!
PrairieMom replied: I thought I had baby fever when I concieved my son, but I had NO IDEA what baby fever was until the day after he was born. I got it so bad, and it didn't go away. i managed to hold off for 2 1/2 years before concieving another just by thinking about what life would be like with 2 kids under 2...
danahas4monkeys replied: My older 2 are 13mths apart planned!!! my youngest 2 are 22 mths apart! I want another but dh says not yet, he seems to think 4 is enough! do what is right for you if you want another go for it! people just assume we are done since we have 4 and 2 of each sex, i remind them all they are my kids and i'll have a dozen if i want!
dana
*tammy* replied: As you can see in my siggy, mine are pretty close together. It can be hard at times, but it's soooo worth it! If you're ready, don't worry about what people say. I know it can be hard to tune others out, because with us having 7 people always have something to say. But we're happy with how many we have and how close they are. I couldn't imagine life without any of them. Good luck!
mckayleesmom replied: I think it is personaly choice...I think it helps though if one is at least walking when the other ones comes around....It really helps.. 
TsurugiButterfly replied: I can't say I've felt any "baby fever" yet; Tristan's only 9 days old, LOL, the newness hasn't worn off... but I had decided a while ago that I wanted at least two.
However, I think my fiance is having the baby fever... he was TERRIFIED of the thought of having more than one.. not so much because of the child, but because of the crazy pregnant lady that comes with the territory.
My cousin came by to see Trist and brought her two that are 10 months apart and after she had left I mentioned to him "I don't want to have ours *that* close together..." and he was like "So... hey, when would you like to have the next one?"
I am 21, and I have two younger sisters that are 14 and almost 9. By the time they were born, I was so involved in the changing and feeding and whatnot that I became more of a second mom than a sister. I never really got close to them and now we're at the point that the 14 year old is driving my parents crazy, but I can't even offer any advice because she thinks that whatever I do is lame. My fiance is 23 and his brother and sister are 22 and 21. At least they all grew up together and have a much closer relationship. I would like my kids to be close enough to play together and maybe even get along, LOL.
MyLuvBugs replied: OH YEAH! We've all been there. Those hormones go nuts just after having a baby, and you loose your mind and start thinking you want another right away. lol Although, most of the women in my family have had them CLOSE, like 11 months apart close. lol It's hard, just close your eyes some night when your baby is SCREAMING and imagine 2 of those, both in diapers, screaming for your attention. Then see if you really want another right away. Not many woman can handle it, and I applaud those that can. 
msoulz replied: Life is too short to care what other people say!!!!
(Easier said than followed, of course . . . but true!!)
mammag replied: My oldest two are also 14months apart. I was only 21 at the time so my body could handle it back then.....don't know that I would have done it at the age I am now.
Certainly don't let what other people say make your decision for you.
luvbug00 replied: I remember you! Congrats! and I couldn't handle two close together . 
Hillbilly Housewife replied: My oldest (now 3) and middle child (almost 2) are 16 months apart. My middle child (almost 2) and 3rd child (2 months old) are 21 months apart.
It really isn't all that hard going from one to two... nor from 2 to 3. It' isn't a big change at all. At least it wasn't for us.... and besides.... when you're done with diapers, bottles, cutting food etc... do you really want to start OVER?
when we're done having kids... that's IT. No more diapers.... and our freedom will come quicker. They will all hit their "tantrum" stages at the same time.. in their teenage years I mean...so only a few years to deal with crap instead of 2 years here, then after 2 years, dealing witi it again for 2 years.... it's all in one chunk... and although I may go nuts some days... i think it's bette rin the long run to have had them closer.
CosmetologyMommy replied: That is what I was thinking...no more diapers or formula to buy and they will be potty trained and in school and more independent  ..........ohhh and I want to get the sleepless nights out of the way!
MomToJade&Jordan replied: I say do what you feel is right and don't worry about what others think. As for me I couldn't of had my kids that close together. My oldest is 3 and my youngest is 2 months. I didn't get baby fever after my first because I was in labor for 14 hours. I had pre-eclampsia with my second so we are done. Yes it's kind of like starting over again, but I really don't mind all that much. I don't know what I would do if my oldest wasn't as independent as she is.
PhiMuMommy replied: my friend just did that (her 1st was only 6 wks old when she found out she was a week pg) and it has hurt her soo bad.. her body fought the pregnancey the whole way.. i think you should wait..
A&A'smommy replied: well I had it REALLY bad when Alyssa was about 4months old I thought I was going to go nuts BUT I knew that Jeremiah and I weren't really ready! Since then I have gone through spouts of baby fever.. I really want to wait until after my 21st birthday to before I get pregnant again.. although last night I dreamed I was and it felt SOO real kinda freaked me out.  Anyway if you guys are ready go for it but just know that it is VERY difficult having two babies my SIL did I thought she was seriously going to loose her mind its a LOT better now that they are 4 and 5 they are a lot easier!
pinniy replied: Hey, Shannan. First off, who cares what others think?! Not trying to be rude, but it's your life. If it's the right time for you, and you're sure, GO FOR IT! I DID. Trei-Trei and "Baby Pinniy" will only be between 13-14 months apart, and I actually was hoping for them to be closer. Well, we wanted twins, and this was the next best thing...
There are pros and cons to each situation. Having them close, allows them to learn together. My neice and nephew are exactly 10 months apart, June 25 and April 25. It's amazing how much they act like twins. Plus, they have to learn at an early age how to share.
Then, I have a friend, who had his second child after 7 years. He had already gotten used to sleeping in on Saturdays, and allowing his son to make his own cereal in the morning, and knowing right from wrong. NOT ANYMORE! Now, it starts ALLL over.
So, like I said, as long as you're sure it is what you want, then go for it. We send you our blessings. Happy Holidays!!!
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