Not sure what to do - help

mysweetpeasWil&Wes wrote: One of my BFs offered to watch Wesley Wednesday morning because I am taking Wil to his preschool orientation. It's only for an hour or so, she said fine to it last week. I watch her kids all the time. So today I called to remind her and she just left a message saying "Yeah, no problem about watching Wesley on Wednesday, but I have a slight change of plans. I have to go to the dentist that morning, so I have my babysitter coming to watch the kids. It should only be a 15 minute overlap, so I should be home not long after you leave him".

She is my BF you guys and trust her judgement completely, but I'm a little weirded out by leaving Wesley with her babysitter, especially because I know she is young. Yeah, it's only for 15 minutes, but what if my friend gets caught up?

What would you do?

I don't want to offend her and back out, plus at the same time, I don't have a backup right now. The orientation doesn't allow siblings to attend due to space in the classroom so I really can't bring Wesley with us.

Maybe I can convince DH to take an hour off of his morning, but that's nearly impossible these days....Hmmmmm....I'm really stuck on this one.

gr33n3y3z replied: if you trust her judgement then why double think??

Calimama replied: I'm not a huge fan of babysitters so I would make DH take the hour, but I'm weird.

mammag replied: I would have a tough time doing it too. I think if you really trust her judgement it would be okay. Also depends on how long she's been watching her kids, how man will be there, etc. Then I would just tell your friend that you are a little uncomfortable so that she will be sure to hurry home. Has Wesley met the sitter? Is he usually okay with strangers? That would also help me determine.

I'm sure he'll be fine but I know you'll be worried. Maybe you can slip out of the room and call to be sure she made it there.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
True, very true...But it's in my nature to double think everything. Except for marrying DH....

Jeane, Wesley isn't great with strangers. Not horrible, but he cries for maybe five minutes everytime I leave him at the YMCA daycare. They are strangers there I suppose, so I guess it's really no different. I go there almost everyday!

I think maybe I'll let it go and just call like you suggested. He will be fine, right?

mammag replied: Yes, he will be fine. The worst that will happen would be that he'll cry for a bit when you leave but he'll forget all about it when you walk back through the door and all will be well again.

Try not to worry to much.....easier said than done, I know!

boyohboyohboy replied: i agree with your gut instinct. i wouldnt leave my child with someone i have not met and interviewed myself...
it shouldnt be an insult to your friend, she knows the girl, but you dont....
i think i would take dh and ask him to watch him till you can get back, or can he take him to the bf house once she is back maybe?

gr33n3y3z replied: he will be just fine you wait and see

luvbug00 replied: I would not leave him there due to his past crying when you leave. my issue is that is the sitter mature enough to handle a child who is upset after their mom leaves?. I would have a hard time doing it not having previously using the sitter. does any of your BF kids ever had the seperation anxisty and the sitter been able to handle it? i would ask my bf and tell her youare greatful for her help your just a little worried and see what she says..but if you can't do that..honestly if it were my child i would wait till bf gets home or BEG dh to stay home for that hour.

Our Lil' Family replied: I would not have a problem with it. If you trust her judgment and it's only for a short while then it'll probably be fine.

A&A'smommy replied: I agree with the others if you trust then Wesley should be fine Trust me I know its hard but he will be fine!!

moped replied: I think I would be ok with it if you trust her 100%

holley79 replied: If your friend trusts her and you trust your friend's judgement I would be ok with it. Just go with your gut.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Thanks for your help you guys. My BF is truly a saint, one smart cookie...I trust her completely (like I said), so I really shouldn't be worried. I just needed to talk it out, so thanks for helping me get to a final decision.

Nadia, I totally get what you are saying, but I think about myself when I first started babysitting. I was 11, certainly not very mature, but I knew how to handle a crying baby. Distract them! Wesley is always peachy whenever I get back from my workout at the gym. They say he cries for about five minutes and then he is fine, ready to play. So I have to just hope that the same thing will happen with the sitter. Besides, the staff in the YMCA daycare are teenagers too, and I trust them, so I think I can trust the sitter.

Anthony275 replied: do you have a neighbor or somebody in the playgroup that could watch him??

sparkys2boys replied:
ok well I am weird too then. Id make Dh take the time off too!