Now I'm really worried - Kel freaked.

loveydad wrote: I told Kelton that I had to go pick up his brothers and sisters and that he needed to stay with Henry because I don't have room in the car for him. H'es getting tired anyway. I thought maybe he'd curl up on the couch.

He started SCREAMING his little head off!! Not just screaming but crying, tears streaming down his little face, he fell down on his knees and started grabbing onto my clothes so I wouldn't go anywhere, and totally melted down like a 2 year old. He kept crying "dadddyy" and he wouldn't even calm down when Henry grabbed him and was hanging onto him. Henry offered to play x-box, watch anything Kel wanted, play any game he wanted, even go outside and look at the stars (kel loves that) and Kel just screamed. You know that noise toddlers make when you tell them to go to the corner and drag them there that little "no *gasp* No...*gasp* and long scream NOOOOO *gasp*... He was doing that. He was holding onto my leg so hard he left a mark! It was so sad. He even started coughing so hard I thought he'd throw up. Kel don't do this stuff guys. He's not a tantrum child. He's laid back. If he doesn't like something I'm doing he either says "don't do that" or he crise quietly if it's something awful. (not usually though) usually he's fine.

He then ran to the door and tried to keep me from getting past him. I thought he'd calm down so I was about to leave. He PLEADED with me not to go, to take him...

I'm really worried now. Last night he wet his bed. Actually he was in my bed but we won't go into symetatics. (SP). He's totally freaked out. It's almost as if something else is bothering him. I know he likes the attention he's getting for it just being me and him.but I feel awful makin the other kids stay away from home... I don't know what to do!! I don't want the other kids to see this if he's exploding like this. He's so freaked out. The poor kid I called his name, snuck up on him (not on purpose) and he jumped a mile... I don't know what's going on with him! I even checked him for bruises just in case someone was hurting him but he's clean. It's all his mind.

Should I try and keep him and let the kids stay there? Should I bring Vincent home so he can be with his twin and leave the others? Should I bring them all home?

I'm going to go ahead and let the kids stay another night. They're all okay apparently. I'm worried now very bad..

Des replied:
shew! this doesn't sound good at all!
sounds to me like it could be something else bothering him -
how long has this been going on??
have you noticed any other changes lately???

Becky74 replied: That is scarey, have you asked him what he is thinking about? Excuse me since I a new, but how old is he? Has he watched something on TV he shouldn't have? I think it is scarey the way he's acting, hope things settle with him, and soon!

Kaitlin'smom replied: deffinalty sounds liek soemthing is bothering him, I am sorry how old is he? You said he was spearated from his twin is this the first time they are appart?

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Yikes.....

I'm not a twin, but i've heard about intense bonding.... could that be it?

redchief replied: Viggo,

It almost seems like a sort of separation anxiety. Your kids are smart and articulate normally very well. Have you tried sitting down and talking to him about his fears and worries when he's calm and you're not going anywhere for a while (so he's not afraid you're just saying things to him so he won't freak out)?

I would say, too, that the overreactive fears and bedwetting are part of the same problem. Hope you can get it cleared up soon!

loveydad replied:
Thanks guys. Thanks Ed. That really helps.

He's 5 1/2. No tv show could have caused this. He's totally breaking down. I'll try to update you guys.

I'll try taking him on a drive and talking to him tonight if I'm able.

Zachs mom I don't think so because he gets a different problem when he's away from Vince and he starte dthis before then.

kimberley replied: poor baby! i am sorry he is still going through this. it sounds like separation anxiety to me too. good luck on the drive. i hope it helps

loveydad replied: Well I was going to take him but he fell asleep with his head on my knee

I'mma let him sleep since his cycles are so off, maybe if he wakes up before midngiht or so I'll take him for a drive after all. If we're not going to get any sleep might as well make use of the time we're awake.

So I took him today, I had to check in at henry's school, there was a crisis (I'll post about it in teenagers) and he clung to me! He made me pack him around for a while! I held his hadn and told him I couldn't hold him but I would hold his hand.

Oh by the way, I asked him if he wanted Vincent to come back and he said "not yet." so I guess he doesn't. Vincent gets a lot of his attention. *sighs* i feel bad.

Alice gave me some great suggestoins I'll try tonight.

I'm trying not to leave him. I even let him go in the bathroom with me! and he stays real close all the time. I pulled the arm chair over by my desk and he's curled up on it. He's been bedwetting/wetting his pants I'm a little more than worrid about that. I asked him jokingly if he wanted me to put him in diapers and he just nodded. Yikes. Let's not have serious regression!!

A&A'smommy replied: poor kid I can't amagine what must be bothering....I hope you figure it out soon because it doesn sound very serious!! Please keep us update!!

loveydad replied: I hope it's not serious. I'm giving him a couple days before I'm taking him to a doctor. I keep talking to him and he's now started getting adversive when I ask. Like he don't want to talk to about it anymore. He wont' tell me what's wrong, I thought it was that whole bomb crack and it may be part of it.

loveydad replied:
No other changes, I mean we're having another baby soon but that should be an old hat to him. There are 4 other kids smaller then him living here.

This has been going on since... Only a couple of days. Maybe it was friday. the days are running together.

Alice replied: Hi Vig,

I haven't had time to read this post, but it doesn't sound like Kel's doing much better. (Sorry, I've got to get the kids up and dressed for school.)

But something else just occurred to me:

Call your local police precinct and explain the problem. Maybe you can get Kel in for a tour. Maybe seeing policemen with guns explaining how they keep him safe would be a real concrete image to replace the one already in his head??


Also, one of Julia's 5 year old friends has started having real separation anxiety in the last two weeks. We think the thought of Kindergarten coming up is doing it. Could that be part of the problem?

Sorry about not reading the post... the bus comes in an hour and I've got to get the 3 kids up and dressed to take Brian to the stop. I'll catch up later.