Nursing Poll - inspired by Amy :)
kimberley wrote: how old is your child? when do you plan to stop?
i ended up weaning both the boys around 13mos. 1 not by choice (OB said i had to), the other from sheer exhaustion and loss of interest on his part. i want to go the distance with Jade and let her decide when to wean but find her very distracted lately. Plus, i am starting to go a little stir crazy being the only one responsible for her when she is upset. DH just says... well she wants you, not me. i know this makes me sound like a rotten mom but i need a break sometimes too and she will have nothing to do with espressed milk or cow's milk when she is tired or upset and DH can't calm her. any thoughts?
MomToMany replied: I didn't BF my boys (really feel guilty about that). Hannah is 2 1/2 and still nursing several times a day. Kayla is 7 months old, and nursing around 8 times a day. I voted for "non-stop", since that's what it feels like  .
ETA: They will wean when they are ready. DH has asked when Hannah will be done, but I told him that it's too important to her. He said she better not be nursing at age 6 (when a DD of a lady from my BFing support group weaned). I told him it won't be that long!
I feel that way too Kimberley. So when they are done eating, Daddy gets them so I get a break. I'll go in the bathroom and wash my face and brush my hair. If there's enough time, I'll take a long, hot shower and shave BOTH legs. Then I rub some scented lotion on (or powder, depends on my mood). Makes me feel much better.
Sorry I don't have more advice. I think we all feel that way at some point, though.
mama3x replied: I weaned DD in July and I took the entire month to do it, eliminating about 1-2 feedings a week. Even though I wanted to wean her, I would've continued nursing if she'd wanted to. But she was really ready to move on.
I too went through frustration and resentment about being the only one responsible for DD. I had no life (not that I do now) 24/7 and DH goes on without a care or tie down to stop him from his life. He did NO feedings, not even of expressed breastmilk b/c DD HATED and refused all bottles regardless of nipple. Then I thought solids would help but then DD didn't want to take food from anyone but me!!!!! There are still times now where no one but me will do.
Anyway...I wish I had advice but I can tell you this from study and from personal experience with DS: there will be a time where your little one will prefer daddy or other caregiver over you. It's a WONDERFULLY RELIEVING moment but it's quite sad too...bittersweet.
Good luck and try to find some time for yourself, as hard as that is.
FroggyJK replied: I weaned my son at 3 months. I was having problems nursing, started supplementing with formula and dried right up. I feel bad about it cause I wanted to nurse for a full year but just couldn't take the pain. 
I weaned my daughter at 12 months! I absolutely loved nursing her and am so glad that I stuck it out with her. 
I can't wait to nurse again. I think that is one of the things I am looking forward to the most with having another baby! I am thinking about going longer this time. 18 months??? Depends on how long baby wants to.
Schnoogly replied: Still nursing at 22.5 months even though I haven't had milk for almost a year.
Nursed through PG and a miscarriage, some days more than others, but not showing any signs of weaning!!
He's bottle weaned finally though, last month.
Jamison'smama replied: Weaned at 21.5 months---can't wait to nurse this baby!
coasterqueen replied: Kylie weaned during this pg when she was 24 months old. I can't say it was a child-led weaning because technically she weaned due to the pregnancy (taste of milk and lack there of) instead of her wanting too  but it was the next best thing. I miss her nursing so much but I didn't want to tandem. In all I couldn't have asked for a better way for it to end....it was so very gentle for the both of us that we had a very happy ending to our nursing relationship.
Wahhhh! Now I'm going to cry. 
I can't wait to nurse this lil bean sprout though. BUT I can honestly say I'm not really looking forward to committing 19 months of working and pumping like I did for Kylie. 
maestra replied: Jaci weaned at 22 months- not because she wanted to, but because my preg. stopped my milk production. With the sore bbs from pregnancy, it just became too painful anyway.
I am looking forward to nursing this one! 
MommyToAshley replied: Ashley self-weaned around 16 months old. A few months prior to weaning, she had cut back to nursing one time a day which was just before bed.
paradisemommy replied: still going strong at 27 months. we nurse about 3 to 4 times a day and there is no sign of letting up. i really want taven to self wean and am hoping some day before graduation he'll wean!! nah just kidding (well kinda)  
kit_kats_mom replied: K weaned herself, with a tiny bit of encouragement from me, at 23 mos.
amynicole21 replied: Still nursing about 3-4 times a day at 26 months. Sort of hoping she'll wean before the baby is born, but I'm willing to try tandem nursing if not 
DansMom replied: Still nursing 3-4 times a day at 23 months. Daniel has marathon nursing sessions during the early morning hours, starting at about 5:30 and every 45 minutes until 8 or so, when he gets up for good. I'm not sure how much milk he gets---sometimes a good amount, sometimes not much, I think.
Kaitlin'smom replied: weaned several months ago
jcc64 replied: Still nursing at 26 months, no signs of stopping. Honestly, I'm ready to wean, but she loves it sooooooooo much I can't bear to take it away from her. She only does it at night, but I would love the chance to spend a night away from her occasionally with dh.
Gatalita replied: I continued breastfeading Zuriel up until he was 1 yr old. I would have continued to breastfead him if he didn't continually bite my nipple w/ his teath  . My sis' went until her daughter was about 8 or 9 months.
Heather replied: Holly will be 6 months on Wednesday and we are nursing every 2 to 3 hours...day and night. I plan to go as long as she wants.
mamaduck replied: scott (dh) does well - there were a few months when i felt like i was a single parent but i finally had a breakdown - he found me in the bathtub without water crying while hayden was in the bouncy seat next to me fussing and a half opened bottle of wine on the counter  what a sight - -- he does much better now - i'll feed hayden a good one - try get him take both sides and then leave for two hours or go take a bath ---- i get a sick pleasure being the only one that can calm hayden down sometimes - it's like "yeah - i'm his momma!!" it took a couple weeks of screaming and frustration (hayden's and scott's) but they work well with ea. other now and hayden won't take his eyes off scott whenever he's home now - so sweet - try to leave once you have just fed her and go out for just an hour - sometimes that's all you need to get a refresher
kimberley replied:
LOL sorry for laughing but visualizing the bathtub scene is too funny (though i am sure it wasn't at the time) and EXACTLY how i feel sometimes. thanks for the advice. i appreciate it.
elvisfan replied: I am still nursing my 22month old 2 times a day. Before nap and before bed. He only nurses about 5min so I think he's pretty close to being weaned.
My ds2 I nursed until 15months and then he weaned himself and ds1 I only nursed maybe 2months cause I had problems, no support and no clue what I was doing.
CCTandME replied: Teagan is 9mo old. I plan on nursing until around 1yo.
Cailee & Camryn weaned around 16mo.
MommieMel replied: havent yet ...but im really excited about starting.Even as a little girl i would hold my baby dolls up to my chest to feed lol.
Daniels Mommy replied: Well ds will be 11 mos tomorrow and we're still going strong! I don't know if I'm nursing too much or not enough but we go about every 4 hours (if he's picky it's every 2 hours)!! I'm about to go back to work so we'll probably go to 2 times a day (give or take) and begin to transition him onto milk within the next three months or so. It makes me sad to think about stopping, because originally we had planned to go only to a year (if he made it that far) and now I have no interest in stopping there! My son, on the other hand, I think he'd be OK with stopping....except at bedtime and during the night when he wants a little snack
1valentinemom replied: Jonah just turned 4 months, it seems like he is nursing constantly, but it is probably every 2-3 hours during the day and about 3 times during the night.
akbutterfly83 replied: My baby is 10 days and not wanting to nurse but a few times a day..... but I pump like none stop.... cause he don't want formula.... so I guess it's ok.....
So I voted 1-2 times a day!!!!
Mommy2BAK replied: Ok shame shame on me  But I only BF Blakely for two weeks, but she was so hungry that I was nursing non stop and after two weeks I was just plain tired and needed help! SO I stayed the night at my moms and she fed Blakely a bottle and Blakely was so happy and content for two hours which had never happend before. But next time I plan to stick with it longer.
macsmom2003 replied: i still feed several times a day. have never really counted but i feed her on demand day or night and will till wants to stop.
JAYMESMOM replied: I voted 1-2 times a day since my daughter only nurses in the evenings when I am home from work. She takes a cup the rest of the time as she has done since she was 11 months. She is 14 1/2 months now. I plan to keep up the nursing until she is ready to quit or around two whichever comes first.
Lollie replied: Hi...
Because I am nusing 2 little girls,Bri who is almost 1 yr old and Caitlyn who is 2 months old..I voted that I nurse non-stop!!!
Bri nurses 3-4 times a day and Caitlyn nurses all the time!! It feels like with her she's either sleeping or nursing!!!!I plan on making Bri wean herself when she's ready but sometimes its sooo tiring that I wish she'd wean herself already but I love the bond on breastfeeding my babies.
So we still going strong here!!!!
ZandersMama replied: My son is 7 months old and we are still nursing alot. I love it but it is getting hard. Our husbands must be related Kimberly, because every time the baby makes a peep, He says "he wants you not me." I love being the person who can fix everything, but somedays like today, I just want to cry with him. He has teeth now and he is starting to bite. I just stumbled on this site, thanks so much for the place to vent Its good to know im not the only one going through this.[COLOR=purple]
mama3x replied: Just thought I'd post since I am on the next baby!
For DS, I feel like I am constantly BFing. My behind shows proof of that!
My ticker has the exact time we've been BFing and although every day I think to myself I am weaning him soon so I can have a life and go on a diet, I don't! Realistically, I am thinking of weaning about the same time as DD, 12-13 months. Especially if I have to go back to work. Otherwise it'll be whenever he wants to.
kimberley replied:
thanks for sharing. it feels good to know i am not the only one who gets frustrated. we are going on 21months of nursing and i have my fingers crossed that there is an end in sight. i love my baby girl, but i neeeeeeeeeed my body back. she bites and twists and stands and pulls... if you thought gumby was bendy.. you haven't seen my nipples  !
Jade has made some progress. i am able to go almost an entire day without nursing. just feeding her food and distracting her, but sleep time.. she wants her nummies. my goal is to be done before my wedding (3mos) so that she doesn't lose her mind while we are away on our honeymoon.
supermom replied: OMG! Everyone's "little" one has gotten so big.
Well, Emily is still nursing strong at almost 21 mos. She doesn't seem to want too much during the day as long as I am not around, but if I am available, well, then watch out! She also still nurses 2-3 times a night, as we do the family bed thing, but we (I) am trying to break her of that.....
Hang in there Kimberely, all too soon they are all grown up and then you wonder where the time went. I know sometimes it's hard, but when I look at Em and then look at PJ (the 20 year old) then I can relate to really trying to enjoy the time I've got because all too soon they will be big!
No promises, but gonna try to get back here some.
kailynscoming replied: When I was pg, I was planning to nurse for 3 months...
When Kailyn was born, I decided to nurse her until she was 6 months...
Now that she's 10 weeks, I've decided that I want to keep nursing for the whole year. It's a lot different/better than I thought it could be.
Hillbilly Housewife replied: With my first, I bf for about 2 months, not exclusively, I gave him some formula too.
With my daughter, I went to about 4 months, also with some formula too.
With this baby, I *plan* to exclusively breastfeed for about 4 months, then baby food and breastmilk - we'll see.
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