OK, so um people weren't lying to me....

My2Beauties wrote: ...when they told me just wait until your child hits those Terrible 2's. I thought, naw, never my angel, OMG last night she put her hand in my face and told me to Shut my Piehole I honestly have no idea where she got this from, I swear. That is not something me or DH say. When I told Brian he said WTH is a piehole? I have no clue, I guess it means shut your mouth. I have to find out who taught her that

She has been constantly telling me "no" lately and if I ask her to do something she screams "No you do it!" And I feel so silly because I stoop to her level at that and I'll say "no I said you do it" OMG I can't even believe I am going back and forth like that with a 2 year old, kinda funny when I think about it

What do I do moms who have BTDT, I want to nip this in the bud before it starts. I mean she has said no a time or two before to me and done some not so "good" things here and there, but lately, OMG she is driving me crazy!

Edited for spelling!

moped replied: WEll I am not sure but I hav ebeen told by people to try not to use the word NO yourself....so if she is getting into things, instead of saying NO, say you do not hannah, or lets go over here or soemthing, they ge thte word NO from us

kimberley replied: sorry hon, i am there with you. jade started just before kaleigh came and is still pushing her luck. i try to ignore the behavior. it works most of the time. she has had 2 time outs for smacking her dad and hasn't tried it since. hang in there, it does pass.

PrairieMom replied: I can totally relate. I hear that age 3 is worse than 2.

mckayleesmom replied: I have been following Supernanny lately and bought the book. So far Im getting results.


I would get down to her level and say "hanna, that behavior is not allowed in our house, We don't hit, bite...etc (whatever she did) its time to sit on the naughty step" and put her on a step or chair for 2 minutes. Before she can get up. Tell her that she needs to be a good girl and make her apologize.

I don't know..."Time out" doesn't work for Mckaylee, but the "naughty step" works.....Maybe its because the word Naughty is involved...where time out might not make sense to them.

My3LilMonkeys replied: We do timeouts with Brooke and it's working for the most part.

Also, a friend of ours tried the idea of not using the word no - as soon as her DD heard it somewhere else and found out what it meant, it became her favorite word.

blue72 replied: I had to laugh at Piehole. I find it so difficult not to laugh at the youngsters when they are defiant. What comes out of their little mouths, while inappropriate, typically makes me want to laugh.

Consistency in my discipline seems to work best for me.

I would agree that 3 & 4 yr olds can be more difficult/stubborn than 2 yr olds.

luvmykids replied:
SOOOOOO true, IMO. As a mom with a 2 year old AND two just-recently-turned-fours, I have to be honest ..... I don't see much difference!!!!! Three was a rough year for the twins, the worst so far. So far 2 isn't so bad for Macie, I think we learned from our mistakes with the twins and have disciplined/trained her better.

3_call_me_mama replied: Oh yeah , 3 is FAR worse than 2 for us at least.
Also using no is just makign a power struggle with them. Any time you say don't or no or anythign negative, you struggle with them adn they feel powerless adn fight back more. A better way to deal with it is offer and alternative on what they CAN do, not what they CAN"T . So for somethign liek running in the house, please walk is far beter and gets more results than No running does. Also for biting adn behaviors like that tell them clearly adn firmly "Biting hurtspeople. If you want to bite you can bite food" same for hitting or other hurtful behaviors. All kids go through these phases to test their power and control. They like to have teh control over a situation, and by giving them a boundary they can exert some control, but not run rampant. .. personally i woudl have fallen over backwards if my child had sais "shut your piehole" to me. and I would be speaking to daycare about where it came from since neither you nor your DH knew where she got it. Good Luck to ya!

A&A'smommy replied: no kidding were going through the same kind of stuff Anyway piehole wow

My2Beauties replied:
That was both of my reactions too, LOL! I was stunned at first and my mouth just dropped and then because my facial expression was the way it was she started cocking a smile so it made me want to laugh so bad because to be honest, she sounded so funny saying it, but I knew I couldn't in this case, so I kept a stern look and told her she doesn't say those things to mommy and that she can apologize to me. I am still in shock. I have no clue where she picked that up from.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Maddie was worse at 2 than at 3 although both ages had their challenges. I dont' even want to discuss Ethan's bad behavior.

I think the other ladies gave some great suggestions. Just try different things, read some books until you find soemthing that works for you.

Good luck!

C&K*s Mommie replied: mothers of 2yos.... what a ride we are on together-- enjoy the good times when you can, tantrums and definance ahead.

BAC'sMom replied: Yes, I am another member of Terrible Two's club. Hold on to your hats it will be a rough ride....but it will be over in no time!