OMG IS HE SERIOUS!?

luvbug00 wrote: Lars has lost his bloody mind! he sent me a text this morning where he said that he wants to move to another state and join the millitary WHAT! since there was NO mention of taking me with i assumed he ment it's over for us. so i've spent the entire morning crying. Then he calls and is like why do you assume i don't want you with me? well when you get a text like that what would you think? geeze! apparently he is feeling really unaccoplished next to his peers ( all financial advisors and in the financial field) now there is another reason this makes no sence, Lars isn't a military man at all. they WILL break him. He doesn't support the president or the war. ( he does support the troops very much and has sent care packages, i'd like to add before anyone jumps to judge) so why he would want to put himself in the possition to have the possiblity to be shipped off is beyond me. oh he mentioned moving to chicago he can't even pronounce chicago correctly! he says chick-ca-go. eww the windy city? come on. umm what about texas or hawaii or flordia? somwhere warm please! so now i'm at another loss as to what to do to get him to change his mind. what is he thinking!!!!???

MommyToAshley replied: Hmm, maybe it is time to have a talk with him about where you stand and any future plans. I can understand why you are upset. If you are going to be a family, then this is the kind of decision that you should make together. The decisions he makes now will affect you and Mya if you plan to get married or stay together in the long run. Yes, it is his life and his career ... now. But, if there are plans of getting married soon, then you should be included in the decision-making. He shouldn't just "plan" to take you along, you should be part of the decision process. I hope I didn't offend you, as that is just my opinion and I am just thinking about you and Mya.

Good luck, keep us posted.

mummy2girls replied: you guys need to sit down and talk. tell him that if he sees a future with you and Mya then yuou need to be in the descion making. its not just about him. yes its his career and he needs to be happyw ith what he does but it will affect you and mya and he needs to realize this. tell him how you feel about all this stuff and hopefully he will understand.

luvmykids replied: WOW, that is a shocker for sure Epecially not supporting the current president or the war! I understand we have elections coming up and there is lots of talk of ending the war but if it were me I'd definitely think long and hard about joining at the current time. What is it the military offers that he wants?

I hope you guys are able to talk about it and come to a conclusion that works for both of you, together!

Mommy2Isabella replied: I hope you guys can sit down and talk about this. Like others have said if there is future you need to be included. This decision would affect you greatly.

With the elections coming up and talk of ending the war < that doesn't necessarily mean much. We can't just PULL OUT after everything we have done and how long we have been over there. It won't be like the new guy is elected and OH WARS OVER. I don't think it works like that. But there is hope that if he joins he wouldn't get sent because they probably wouldn't send anymore people over while trying to get everyone out!

HOWEVER, I think you guys just need to talk it out!!

luvbug00 replied:

school assistance he said. but he has NO idea what he is getting into. i have sent 2 boyfrineds to marine boot camp and they came back differant men. He doesn't understand the commitment or the emotional toll this will take on him. like i said before they will eat him alive.

lisar replied:
I have no advice excpet talk to him. If you love him then you will support him in the long run, but he should have talked to you about it before making any decision.
I just wanted to offer and support.

Crystalina replied: Wow! Has he ever even hinted that he would like to maybe join in the past? Maybe he is going through a "thing". He has to realize that the military will offer alot but at the same time they expect that much more. He really needs to think this through before going any further. Does he know anyone in the armed forces?

And I agree with everyone else. He should have communicated with you and the two of you should have made this descision together if you plan on being together. I'm not sure how things are now but when my mom was in the military only spouses were able to follow and be supported by the military. Are you two willing to marry only to be together and so you can move with him? And is that a good reason to marry faster then you maybe wanted to? If you say yes then go for it. I'm not sure how serious the two of you are. I gather that you are pretty serious but these are things you just have to think of.

Either way.... Hugs to you because you may need it before his sanity returns.

luvbug00 replied:

my bf Karla was a marine and he knows her but she got out just befor the war.

Crystalina replied:
I would say your man is going through a mini-melt down. Smack him in the side of the head and see if that helps.

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CantWait replied: WOW I really don't know what to say. He's gotta realize that sooner then later he'll be sent to Iraq, and that now they're over there for up to 15 months. If he doesn't support the war or the president I can't imagine what he's thinking right now. The military does offer great opportunities, but I wonder if that is all worth it for how miserable he will truly be doing something he obviously doesn't 100% agree with as is. I know what it's like not finding your niche in life, I truly hope he's able to find it and be happy.