OMG.... - somebody calm me down, please...

MyBabeMaddie wrote: Okay let me first start off by saying that I'm sorry for only coming on here to rant and rave lately but life is stressful with school everyday...


I know this may seem a bit hypocritical since Steve and I took Madison to the zoo earlier this summer but here goes...


Adam has been taking Madison one night per weekend and this coming weekend he is moving out of his mom's house so he said he won't be able to take her... He called me on Monday and asked if he could have her tonight for the night because he has plans tomorrow.....

I drop her off just now and he asks for the car seat, I'm like "why would you want to car seat" (remember he doesn't have his license) he was like "i'm taking her to the zoo tomorrow"


so i'm like hmmm.... uhhhh "well how are you getting there?" he responds "none of your business"

So I was like "it is for sure my business I have a right to know who will be driving my daughter to the zoo tomorrow" (the zoo is a good 45 minutes away through the city and its in a REALLY REALLY bad section of town)

he responds "my girlfriend" ----- Don't get me wrong I'm really happy for him to have found someone else it will get him off my back, but he had been using drugs towards the end of our relationship and supposedly goes to Narcotics Anonymous meetings everynight so I'm thinking he met this chick at one of his meetings - Not to sounds judgmental here but I don't know this girl and if he met her at an NA meeting I'm sorry but I don't want some junkie taking my daughter to the zoo. I don't know her, don't know if shes clean/safe, what kind of car if its safe.... I just don't have a good feeling at all.....


Please tell me I'm not overreacting....

moped replied: Oh I know what you are saying - trust me I know 100%
I don't know what to say but I understand your anger!

luvbug00 replied: Brad wasn't allowed to take tabitha anywhere NEAR mya until i met her and gave him the ok. I wouldn't have let him have her. I would say not until i meet your girlfriend are you taking my daugter out with a strange woman. I would make him wait until next weekend.

gr33n3y3z replied: you have every right to want to know info on her
and I would not let him take her any place especially since he doesnt drive.

PrairieMom replied: I can understand where you are coming from. I don't know if I would be able to let my child go with him, esp with him and another person that I have never met. I don't know if you are over-reacting or not. if red flags are going up for you, then I say listen to your instincts.

Calimama replied: I don't know, I mean you don't know for SURE that he met this girl through his drug program right? You say you don't want a junkie to take your daughter to the zoo, well no offense, but how is SHE any different from Adam? If they are both taking the classes.. they both have a drug problem, kwim? If I was in this situation my daughter wouldn't be going with Adam alone to begin with, let alone some stranger. I'm sorry hun, I'm sure it's a tough decision to have to make. I agree with trusting your instinct.

Boo&BugsMom replied: Totally agree with you 100%! Not overreacting at all IMO.

grapfruit replied: Lots of hugs. And I totally agree w/everyone else. TRUST YOUR GUT!!! I'd much rather be labeled a witch (fill in the correct letter) then have something happen to my baby. I'm have no doubts you feel the same.

stella6979 replied: Until he completes the program and proves that he can clean up his act I wouldn't allow him to have any unsupervised visits. And I'm pretty sure that when you're in a program such as NA or AA you're not supposed to be dating anyone anyways which proves right there he isn't following the rules. He needs to grow up if he wants to see his daughter. JMO.

mummy2girls replied: you have every right hun to know. You have every right to meet the gf as well because if the gf will be a part of your ex's life for a long time then she will be a part of your dd's life as well. Its hard believe me. I went through alot of what ifs with aron and his gf and i had my suspisions with her and him. if you feel that she will not be safe and you feel really anxious through it and will worry the whole time then i would say no. You may have a fight on your hands but you have every right your the mommy!

Cece00 replied: I can understand your reservations but remember- if this went to court and he was awarded time with his child (and he would be...), he would be able to take her wherever, and with whomever, he chose to. He would not have to answer to you.

So dont take your situation (this not being in court yet...) for granted, and try to be flexible. Your daughter deserves a relationship with her father and he apparently WANTS to be involved with her, so that is a good thing.

Farelle replied: I say go with your gut instinct! They are usually right. If I were in your shoes NO ONE would be driving my boys around unless I knew them!! Come to think of it, even un my own shoes I would not let someone I don't know drive my boys around!
Good luck!