Ok, I let her go the way she was - thanks Di

coasterqueen wrote: When I met up with Di and Sarah, Di had mentioned that Kaitlin wasn't matching that day. Although I thought she was - she was in two shades of pink. Better than Kylie. Anyways, Di mentioned she just lets Kaitlin go in what she picks out and doesn't stress over it. This is something I stress over on a daily basis and Kylie and I usually end up in argument and tears over it. Yeah, I know - terrible. Anyways, so today I picked out Kylie's clothes, but let her pick out her socks and shoes. So she went to school wearing tan pants, pink shirt, yellow socks, and red shoes. She came into the kitchen and asked me if they matched and I said "no, but if you want to wear them go ahead". So she did. My baby went to school looking like a dork. Sorry, but she did. So Di, if I get a call from the school or a note sent home that maybe I was asleep at the wheel this morning for letting Kylie go to school dressed like that I'm blaming you. It took everything I had not to say anything to her and force her to change. I swear she's going to be a major fashion victim her whole life.

moped replied:

Too funny!

Maddie&EthansMom replied:

This reminds me of Maddie's friend, Olivia. They wear uniforms now, but in preschool she was allowed to wear whatever she wanted. Her mother let her pick out her clothes everyday. It was the highlight of my day waiting to see what she showed up in every morning.

I've never been able to do that if we are leaving the house.

Kaitlin'smom replied:

Sorry Karen It was pretty easy in the summer, she only ever wanted to waer dresses, now that the cold is hear as long as she is dressed for the weather I dont care if she matches. For me it not worth fighting over.

coasterqueen replied:
You are right, it's not worth fighting over. Especially since it stressed both of us out and Kylie doesn't need that most of all - she's too young to stress about that.

So I thank you for telling me that. It made me feel a lot better. I won't say that my anal-ness isn't making me want to beg her to change her outfits, but I will refrain from doing so.

We still will fight over whether she should wear a coat or not, though. For some reason she doesn't think she needs one when it's 30 degrees outside.

Kaitlin'smom replied:


She does not pick her clothes out all the time by herself, she does ask for help, but if there is something she really wants to wear together and its ok weather wise fine go for it. I figure one day she will get it.

The other thing I can suggest is giver her outfit choises, and make sure they are complete with socks and shoes she got me more than once on that if I did not present the entire outfit.

grapfruit replied:
I was just going to suggest that! Like pick out 2 or 3 COMPLETE outfits and say you pick which OUTFIT you want to wear. Other then that, who cares! She's cute in whatever she wears I'm sure!

luvmykids replied: Kylie and I have gone through this for about four years now I go through spurts where I can live with it and ones where I can't. But she is so much happier, even if I think she looks dorky, when she gets to wear what she wants. I believe firmly it's a form of expression for them

Insanemomof3 replied: I hate it when my kids don't match...but they are boys so they don't care. They get mad at me when I try to "fix" their clothes. LOL

MommyToAshley replied: Way To let Go Karen! I bet Kylie was cute no matter what she wore!

I let Ashley wear whatever she wants when she goes outside to play or to the store... she wore those glittery red ruby slippers for two months straight last year . But, when she went to preschool, I either picked out her outfits to wear to school or I let her choose between a couple of choices. This year in Kinder it is uniforms, so we don't have to worry about it.

amynicole21 replied: Oh lord, if we kept up the fighting with Sophia over this like we used to, none of us would survive! Sophia is usually so crazy looking when she goes to school. If I can gently persuade her to change into something that matches, fine. But we can't keep fighting about it anymore. It's making me crazy!

My2Beauties replied: Is this something they start when they're 4 to 5? Hanna could care less what I make her wear to be honest. The only thing she hates is to wear pajama pants to bed, she always just wants to sleep in a shirt, but if it's cold I say well you'l get cold or well go around with the pants until it's bedtime and she says ok...is this something I need to prepare myself for?

coasterqueen replied:
No, Kylie has always been like this. I just didn't want her going to pre-k looking like a dork.

My2Beauties replied:


I'm the same way Karen.

A&A'smommy replied: SO cute!!!

My3LilMonkeys replied: Brooke picks almost all of her own clothes and I swear she's somehow managing to follow fashion trends already - she's into layering her shirts and everything. She usually doesn't even come close to matching though. I pick Madison's clothes because she could care less what she wears.

Calimama replied: Too cute!!

Cece00 replied: Its not all kids, mine really dont care, we dont fight about it, although sometimes they have a preference. Especially since 5 days out of the week, they wear uniforms. But when they can put regular clothes on, I usually pick out a pair of pants and tell them to pick out a shirt, and generally they do match well. And they have shoes that are sneakers, brown casual shoes, or a bunch of sandals, so its hard to have shoes that dont match somewhat as well.

Boys are a lot easier, I must say. Every now & then I let them pick the whole outfit & they dont match, but they also dont argue when I ask them to change the bottoms/tops to something that is "X" color.

Natalie loves shoes, though, and she likes to wear shoes that dont always exactly match. One day she wore shorts, a shirt, and rain boots Everyone thought it was adorable. I ask her what she wants to wear every day & she will show me, and generally I let her wear it, or again I'll let her pick the shirt and *I* get to pick the bottoms...sometimes I win over the shoes, sometimes she wears shoes that couldnt match less if they tried.

lovemy2 replied: Sometimes that saying Don't Sweat the Small Stuff really is true

I bet she was happy as a clam all day with her yellow socks and red shoes

Hillbilly Housewife replied: What I did is I bought those sweater organizers and hung a couple of them in the kids' closets... when I put away their clothes, I put them away shirt, pants, underwear, socks, everything together...and they can choose which "box" they want to use to get dressed from.

When I tell them to "go get dressed", if I'm not specific in telling them what I want them to wear, it's fair game, as far as I'm concerned. If I tell them to go put their black pants and blue shirt with the red stripe, then that's what I expect them to come back dressed with.

It's a bigger help to dh, I think, than the kids.

I do it for myself too... i never have to agonize over what matches... all my "outfits" are put away together, just the underwear is kept in a drawer, and stuff like shirts I might only wear with jeans are put away with my jeans. Everything's already matched up and ready to wear.

coasterqueen replied: An update:

I went out and bought a bunch of outfits this weekend for her. Hung them all up as outfits. For dresses I even hung up which tights go with each outfit -- so the dress and tights are hung together. The only thing she has to pick out is shoes and socks for pant outfits. I can deal with whatever she picks out for those choices. We are on day 3 now and we've not had one fight or one stressful moment. She was stressing out about what to wear too. Ahhhhh! I hope this lasts.

Kaitlin'smom replied: I am glad you now have one less thing to stress over.

I need to do what you do Rocky, so I am not tring to pick out somehting in the morning, I used to have outfits hug together and got out of the habit, I need to get back to it