Ok, I think I have calmed down enough to talk - to talk about my morning

TANNER'S MOM wrote: I got to work this morning, logged in.. and then got a call from the school.

Tanner was in the office his glasses broke in half. He is legally blind without glasses. He takes pretty good care of his glasses and never takes them off b/c he knows he can't see with out them. He has wore them since he was 18 months old.

So, I have to go get him and try to get them fixed. I am so broke this week after buying bills and nothing is going right financially right now and I am fixing to have to buy glasses cause Tanner can't even tie his shoes with out them much less go to school.

So, when I get to school I ask Tanner what happened. He said a boy coming out of Mr. James class.. which is 6th grade bumped into him hard enough to knock his glasses off his head..when they landed on the ground the boy stepped on them. While Tanner was down on the ground trying to find them..cause guess what he can't SEE.. they boy told him to watch where was going and laughed. Of course Tanner doesn't cry often but he was crying then.

school was doing.. NOTHING.. I mean big signs everywhere that say no bullying .. and they didn't think it was an ISSUE.

I explained to them I had an ISSUE. They asked Tanner if he knew the boy and he said no but he was coming out of Mr. James class and he was very dark skinned. I said would you know him if you seen him.. he said yes. So, Tanner goes and finds the child and they call him to the office. The kid says he did bump into Tanner but he did not broke his glasses or step on them. So, I guess they broke themselves.

The child was given the opportunity to say he was sorry to me and Tanner and refused to do so also...

You know I would've been nice if he had been all Oh my bad. I am sorry..and even helped him pick them up but he didn't. Tanner is in 3rd grade this kids is my height in the 6th grade. I informed the school.. that Juan's parents needed to be present.. b/c Juan needs to be worried about how he is going to by Tanner some new glasses. They said they couldn't ask that.. I said but I can. I have no money to buy him some? Even with the no bullying signs every where we might need to buy Juan some so he can read the signs.

I know I am going over board and I was angry.. but not only was he rude to my son he broke his property then laughed when the kid couldn't find his glasses this kid stepped on. The school was turning a blind eye too.

Tomorrow is P/T conference.. I am sure mine will be interesting.. and I promise you I better get a phone call from Juan's mother who couldn't be reached. That child needs some manners..

Okay deep breath Mel... deep breath..

TheOaf66 replied: wow sorry that happened but I applaud you taking a stand to this kind of treat ment and hope you get those paid for.

Boo&BugsMom replied: I don't blame you, I'd be ticked too. I hope the mom will listen to your story. If it's one thing I can't stand is a mother who thinks her baby can't do any wrong...grrr! I hope she's not one of those and will listen to what you have to say with an open mind. I'd also be extremely ticked at the school for not doing anything about it!!!

Calimama replied: That's horrible! I cant believe the school isnt doing anything.

Kaitlin'smom replied: oh shoot Mel, that kid does need some manners and FAST. I am sorry you had a bad moring, I hope your day is getting better.

gr33n3y3z replied: that so stinks Mel
I hope someone pays for his glasses and not you.

Do you think maybe some crazy glue will hold them together until you get this problem taken care of?

Maddie&EthansMom replied: GIVE ME THAT WOMAN'S NUMBER!!!!!

I don't know how you are holding it together, Mel. I'd be knocking on that kids door or visiting a superintendent's office. Someone would be getting a bill and it wouldn't be ME!!

What the mother SHOULD do is make her son work to pay off Tanner's glasses. He should be doing extra work around your house...I'm sure with all the horses there's plenty for him to do. Maybe you need to suggest this to her. Say "Okay, I'm willing to call this even if he shows up at my house every Weds to work"

I'm so sorry. Tanner is a good kid who did not deserve this. And I know what it feels like to be blind with no glasses.

Our Lil' Family replied: See I'm not ready for this sort of thing! I probably would have raised more he!! than you did. I would have stayed there until Juan's mother could be reached and then let her know what her son did.

Why are kids so mean?????????

CantWait replied: You are not overreacting at all Mel. That crap is NOT ON. I'd be fuming and throwing a fit if that were my child as well. I hope something is figured out so Tanner gets his glasses.

JP&KJMOM replied: I am so sorry Mel. You have every right to be feeling just the way you do right now. I know that if it was JP that was in Tanners position I would be as mad as you. Heck I was that mad at DH when he lost JP's out of his pocket in the bottom of the tank while they were swimming and fishing one day. JP can not see a lick without his either and glasses are super expensive especially when they have really bad vision. I would without a doubt be calling Juan's mother.

stella6979 replied:
Forget calling, I'd show up on their doorstep and demand an apology from Juan while his Mother rights the check for Tanner's new glasses.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: Well girl you know what I think about this whole deal! I am so sorry to Tanner for not only having to deal with this crap BUT also for the apparent ability for Juan to bully him and have nothing done

I hope you guys get something worked out with Mrs. Juan If not just go Grechen girl!

C&K*s Mommie replied: Aimee gave a good idea, that Juan should be working to pay off that debt.

Sorry that you are getting this poor treatment from the school, but if they are not doing anything then I would keep in strong contact with his mother over this and leave the school out. If she too cannot pay the entire bill for new glasses, then she should pay a portion of it at the very least.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: You have every right to be angry! I would be angry if something like that happened! I hope you are able to sort this out with the other childs mother and the school. This kind of behaviour should not be tolerated!

Hillbilly Housewife replied: I'd be as angry as you without a doubt. Great job on holding it together!

I just want to ask if this was an accident, would you still want to get Juan to pay for the glasses replacement? The reason I ask is that my MIL ruined something of mine over the weekend, and I wanted to ask her to pay for it, but my mom gave me crap and told me not to say one word, since it was an accident...so would you still ask her to pay for them if it was an accident instead of because of bullying?

TANNER'S MOM replied:
Well I think that if he had said he was sorry and tried to help Tanner pick up his glasses etc.. then I would've been fine.. but since he was rude and didn't even want to help him.. It would've been completely different if his attitude had been different.

As an adult.. if I broke something ON accident.. I always say let me replace this. Or half.. at least.

Did your MIL admit to breaking it?

ediep replied: man, I would be fuming too!!! Poor Tanner!!!! That Juan better pay for the glasses!!

mom2my2cuties replied: Worst case senario - take them to small claims court.

A&A'smommy replied: ohhh I can't stand when I run into a RUDE kid, I don't understand why some parents don't teach their kids manners!!! Poor tanner and I hope you get everything worked out!

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
Yeah I always offer to replace something I break too. It's common courtesy... too bad courtesy isn't common though.

Any news on this? have you spoken to the mom?

TANNER'S MOM replied: Well we have no answers yet. But at 5:15 tonight I go to Parent Teacher conference and I have warned my husband to hang on tight cause something will happen one way or another.. I am HOT.. even more so b/c htey never even called me back..

I am going to call the prinicipal in a few..

C&K*s Mommie replied: Was he able to attend school today, since he cannot see very well without some sort of corrective lenses?

Boo&BugsMom replied: You go Mel!!! KUP!

TANNER'S MOM replied: Yes, I went to Wal Mart and bought new frames and they put his lens in them.. we did that yesterrday so he could see. You know you gotta do what you gotta do.. Money or not..

C&K*s Mommie replied: oh good, I am glad you were able to have something done temporarily for Tanner. But I am glad you are not letting this other mother off the hook. She still owes you, and the son owes Tanner an apology too.

I know very well about doing what you gotta do.

My2Beauties replied: Oh Mel I would be absolutely and completely LIVID! That boy's momma would definitely be hearing from me and if she didn't pay up, small claims court it is!!! I don't play when it comes to my child girl, I know you don't either.

b&bsmom replied: It stinks when their glasses get broken, my dd is in first grade and last year she came home from school and I asked where her glasses were and she told me they broke nobodydid anything they just broke, which I think is true, (and she is not bad without glasses so it wasn't as serious as tanners) but I was mad that the school didn't call to tell me what happened. I had to take her to the eye doc and now we have two pairs 9 which I soooooooo could not afford) just in case something like this happens again. I hope you get it resolved and I hope Juan owns up to his bullying. KUP

holley79 replied: KUP hope Juan's parents understand the seriousness of this. I hope Tanner is ok though.

redchief replied: If Juan were my boy, he not only would have apologized to Tanner, he WOULD have helped pick up his glasses. I know this because the punishment he would have gotten for not doing so would have been much worse than having to humble himself to make an apology and an effort.

Unfortunately I don't think you have a legal edge to get him to pay for them, since a court would rule there was no way that Juan could have anticipated accidentally bumping your son hard enough to knock off his glasses. That's not what this is about though... This is about common courtesy and an older boy vs. a younger boy, however indadvertant the contact. As I said, if that were my boy, he'd rue the day he didn't help out a smaller kid when he was at least partially responsible for a problem.