Ok lets hear it - when were they potty trained???

moped wrote: At what age.

I will be 100% honest, jack is NOT, I was told at 3, so I was going to this past MOnday but Tom said he didn't want to start, so I have to wait til the weekend.

What age was your child?

What age do you think is right?

etc

And nice debates please!

Kaitlin'smom replied: Kaitlin first showed interest at about 20 months I think but it was on and off till one day bam she really took to it, and before her 3rd birthday she was fully trained both day and night. For me it was when she was ready, I let her lead the way, sure once she really took to it we encouraged her, cheered for her, let her pick out her reward and such. It worked for us and I do believe this was the reason for such easy night training.

luvbug00 replied: I think mya started at just before 2 ish. she showed intrest and we just ditched the diper

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: Logan is not

Boo&BugsMom replied: Tanner was 2 1/2. From my experiences personally with dealing with kids in daycare, the longer the wait, the harder it is to get them to comply because they get too use to being in diapers and it becoming "easy" to go in their diapers. IMO, children by the age of 3 CAN and do have the bladder control (sometimes we have to teach them how to control it), it's a matter of getting past their stubbornness sometimes. I'm not saying this is anyone here, so please do not take this wrong, but in the experiences I have had with children older than 3 not being trained, it's been the parents who aren't ready to deal with it and the potty training woes that come along with the transition, even though the child is physically capable. Esp. the very stubborn child who insists on not doing it. Just because a child doesn't want to, doesn't mean they aren't ready, and I think some people misinterpret (sp?) that. No tomatoes PLEASE , I'm just going from my own experiences within the last 8 years of dealing with this age, and everyone has different experiences...sooooo...my experiences may be different than the next persons. And, I will admit, after I put my foot down with Tanner and didn't give him a choice, he was pretty easy to train. We'll see how Aiden acts in a couple years, then I might be starting another thread about this and my own frustrations with training. Only time will tell.

moped replied: Different views are interesting. Now from what I have been taught at my parenting classes is: that is anytime after 3 is good because you can tell them jsut what is going to happen and it is then underwear from then on. Except for naps and nighttime at first. At 3 they understand and can control their body better.

I can't remember all the details but it made sense - I guess we will see how it all comes out - LOL....no pun intended!

Oh and after 3 is quicker and less setbacks than when they are younger

Boo&BugsMom replied: I was taught that in my education classes as well, and it makes sense, but I've learned that a lot of people who come up with those theory's tend to not have the hands on experience with children. For example, a head professor of the education department in a local collage bases all her teaching based on her DOGS. She has NO children of her own. She's a great professor, but dogs??? She openly admits it too. So, I combine the experiences I have had, books I've read, and classes I've taken, and combine them all and take out what I think is effective and what is not. Don't know if that makes sense. It's interesting though how some of the most popular parenting books are written by people who do not even have children.

I really had no reason in bringing that up, it was just something that I remembered, about the dogs, and thought it was interesting and funny.

moped replied: Very interesting!!!!!!

The woman that I learn from has a few kids and many grandchildren!

And incase you didn't notice she is kind of old school in her parentig which I have been accused of many times!

Boo&BugsMom replied:
That's how I am too Jen. Very old school. Sometimes too old school for my age.

moped replied: Oh me too - I think I am worse than my mother!!!!!!

I am 35 going on 70

PrairieMom replied: Benjamin was fully night at day trained at 3 years 1 month. We had a few set backs after Al was born, but it wasn't to bad. It took us FOREVER!!!!!!

My3LilMonkeys replied: Brooke was just over 3. We tried when she was 2 for about 3 weeks, but with spending half the day with me and half the day with DH the consistency just wasn't there and she didn't really want to either. I am glad we waited because she trained fully for day in just 2 days and for night in 2 weeks - much easier than the first try.

Madison just turned 2 and we have not tried her yet....probably in the next few months we will.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: You can do a search for my longer version of this answer... lol

When toddlers are able to walk up stairs one foot at a time rather than two feet on each step, they are PHYSICALLY ABLE to control their bladder and other uscles pertaining to realeasing their waste. Between 16 and 24 months is the usual age for toddlers to walk up steps... so that's when I say the ideal age for potty training is.

Sorry, but a child than can feed\dress themselves with hardly any help, and who can ask clearly for a drink, a snack, to color etc... is perfectly capable of using the can. If that kid's still in a diaper, it's the parents who aren't ready and will have a heck of a time training the kid. Kids who train between 16 and 24 months don't "know" what's exactly going on, so they 1) don't have the fears that older kids do about pooping etc... and 2) they're still eager to please and don't usually have much of that "NO!" attitude yet. I've potty trained lots of kids... and the older ones were the tougher ones, BECAUSE they can control when and where they go. It's a POWER STRUGGLE, and at 3, 3 1\2 and especially 4, they've won if they're still using diapers full time.

Not judging or anything. That's just my opinion, and what works\ has worked for me. Naomie is 21 months and she's been day trained for quite some time now. She only wears a pull-up at night. She was my hardest one to train, at 6 days, but 3 of those days we were on the road quite a bit visiting family.

My3LilMonkeys replied:
That is very interesting....I've never heard that before. Madison can go up 4-5 steps the "right" way, but for a longer staircase she can't seem to do it the whole way...in your opinion would that mean she is physically capable or not? She is 25 months old, and I think her difficulty is probably due to the fact that we live in a one story house with 4 steps leading to it so she doesn't often get to practice lots of steps. And also because she is the most uncoordinated child I've ever met, she trips over her own 2 feet on average 5 times a day.

I was thinking of trying to train her next weekend (since I have a 3 day weekend and I think it's much easier to do if I am consistently with her for the beginning of the time) so I'd love to know if she is physically ready or not.

ZandersMama replied: Zan was 27 months, basically did it himself. when I brought the baby home that was it, he didnt want diapers anymore. he has had a few nite accidents but very rare

A&A'smommy replied: well honestly it all depends on the child... I ALWAYS thought 2 before having my own child because thats what age every OTHER child I have met has trained including me... well except my brother and that was because he was lazy and not ready

I have heard and read that its actually better to wait until the child is 3... I started Alyssa when she was pretty young but she wasn't ready so we would wait a while and then try again, right before she turned 3 she started to train and actually wanted to and was mostly ready, she is 3.5 and still not night trained. I'm going to wait a couple more months and then hit it hard but as of right now she hasn't shown a whole lot of interest and she BEGS for a drink at night (I think she is REALLY thirsty) and I'm also going to do some research before I start just to get some ideas.

Good luck I'm sure he will do great, and if it turns out he isn't ready wait a couple of weeks and try again and just remember ONE thing, PATIENTS it takes a LOT of patients!!!!

maestra replied: Jaci was 3 1/2, but it took much longer for BMs due to some initial constipation incidences . Giselle is 2 1/2 and just recently refused a diaper, went over to the potty, and started to use it. We are still having a problem getting her to wear underwear and shorts over it- she feels the bulkiness and thinks its a diaper, so she wets. We're working on it though. If we have to go out at this point, she wears a pull-up. Otherwise, she only uses underwear, except at night.

A friend of mine had a pediatrician who gave her some good advice when she started worrying about potty training. He said, "No kid ever goes to Kindergarten in a diaper-they will get it in their own time." Whenever I would talk to her about being worried, she would remind me of that. (Granted, we don't have our kids in childcare) And sure enough, Jaci will start K this fall, and she's not in diapers.

Sarah&Mackenzie replied: Mackenzie has been potty trained since March, she will be 3 in Nov.. Surprisingly she was really easy, we never pushed her. We put her potty chair in the bathroom when she turned 2. She started coming into the bathroom with me and would sit on her potty when I was going potty. That is how she got interested in it. Then before I knew it she was fully potty trained.

Good Luck Jen!! I hear boys are harder than girls.

Boo&BugsMom replied: A lot of people tell me the opposite, that boys are easier than girls...they just have more equipment. Tanner was pretty easy for me.