Our wedding is turning into a disaster

TeagansMom609 wrote: Ok, our wedding was all set to go...or so I thought. We have the permit for the park were getting married at, the Mayor is booked to marry us, the invitations are made, and our honeymoon is booked for the next morning. Well my fiance's mother said we could have the reception at her house and they would get the catering. Well little did I know she didnt discuss it with his father first. His father is all stressed out about some BS family problems (car stuff, nothing major) and now he said he doesnt want us to have it there, or pay for ANYTHING and doesnt agree with us getting married. So now im so stressed out because there is a glick in our plans that I felt so great about finally having all organized. My aunt, who doesnt even have alot of money offered to pay for a reception at the Country Club she works at. I told her at first, no way, its not her place to pay for our wedding. My parents gave us $1,000 for our honeymoon and his parents were supposed to pay for my fiance's half but never did. (once again his mom said that and didnt speak to her husband first) So im pissed at his parents and really dont think they should even be there if his father doesnt want to chip in, and doesnt even want us to get married! That would be so ignorant for them to invite 35 people from their side and expect my aunt to pay! GRRR!!!!!!!!!!

ctymom replied: I didnt want all the fuss that goes along with a wedding... so hubby and I got married in front of my parents fireplace with family and friends around.

In the end of it all...you're married and that's what matters right? I'm sorry to hear things are going rough.

Pamela

Elle replied: I'm sorry you're going through all that stuff... It must be really stressful.
The important thing is that you get married to the person you love, it doesn't really matter how.

A&A'smommy replied: First let me send you some ((((HUGS)))) wow that would be hard!! Did you talk to your df about what you guys should do? that really is a tough one but I know you can figure it out and your wedding is going to be exactly what you want! ((((BIG HUGS)))) I just wanted to send some words of encouragement

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I'm sorry you are going through this. I know how difficult and stressful planning a wedding can be. Is there somewhere else you can hold the reception that won't be so expensive? Maybe phone around and see how much it would cost to rent a small hall. Is this a very big wedding? Could you hold the reception in the park where you are getting married and just hire a caterer? I think you and your fiance need to sit down with his parents and tell them what has been happening. And I wouldn't accept any offer of help from his mother unless you talk to both his parents. It's just a small snafu, try not to let this ruin the plans you have already made!

TeagansMom609 replied:
There are only about 45 people coming, so its not that big of a wedding. I was thinking about having something outside at the park that we will be at but it will be the beginning of October so it might be a little chilly. (?) Also what if it rains?? Ugh this is all such a pain in the butt!

Boys r us replied: ((((HUGS))) I'm sorry everything is going so haywire!

It's time to sit down and regroup!! Your parents? do they have a house that could accomodate enough people? if so you could do it there and then have some of your family or you DF mother who is so good at volunteering, cook some light appetizer type things! That could be done for little of nothing.
Also, you could like someone else mentioned rent a space, like a town hall or something that wouldn't be too expensive!
Or perhaps your aunt could get you guys a great deal on booking the country club she works for.. and you all could have very light apps served and have an open bar where the guests can pay for their own alcohol!

RachelsMomma replied: Just try to keep in the back of your mind that you are getting married to the man you love, and in the end, that is all that matters. Things will fall into place for you, they always do. A nice small wedding sounds wonderful! Don't stress about it all on your own! Gather your families together and try to brainstorm some ideas for a reception, and for rain plans. Good luck!

KatieLeigh79 replied: *Big Hugs* Oh your wedding sounds about as well as ours went! Just remember as everyone else tells you, you are marrying the love of your life and in time it will all be just a memory. Our wedding was supposed to be covered with the $10 thousand my parents paid (they had to refinance to do it and never complained a bit) then his mom went way over board and the only way we could have the wedding SHE wanted was to have them pitch in, all the while they complained it wasn't the "tradition" yet she ended up with her 20+ thousand dollar wedding which on some of our CC's we are still paying on.

My2Beauties replied: I"m so sorry hon, I know how stressed you are, I am planning my wedding too and my bridesmaids are driving me bonkers Just remember in the end you'll have the love of your life standing next to you pronouncing his undying love and devotion to you and I promise all the wedding woes will go away once the "I do's" come out!

By the way: I get all my bridesmaids together last Saturday to find their dresses and for me to find my shoes and hoop that fits under my dress...etc! So anyways, my one friend (I'll say no names) it's completely ghetto! She comes in there with houseshoes on, her armpits aren't shaved (which I'm sorry but I think that is gross) and the hair is hanging further down then my DF's does and she was complaining the whole time. Between their dress and their shoes the total was only $130 (which I think is darn good) and she was like some of use are broke!!! Oh she makes me so mad

Kaitlin'smom replied: sorry that soon to be MIL is no talking with her hubby before agreeing to thing that can make for some stressfull things, time to re think and it will all fall into place. Best of luck

coasterqueen replied: Ugh! I hate planning weddings . I agree that having the reception in the park might be a good idea. If you have it under a pavillion or something you probably won't have to worry about weather too much, maybe? What about having it at a restaurant?

Josie83 replied: I'm sorry you're having such a hard time, I hope you manage to get it sorted. In-laws, who'd have em!! Lol xx

Heather replied: oh sweetie that just sucks so bad. It is suppose to be such a special time and you stress out more than anything. I hope it all works out and you can be happy on your wedding day with no stresses. Jason and I had a simple little wedding too...it was so much easier not having to worry about everything.

HUGS. Please let us know any updates.

kimberley replied: ugh the joys of planning a wedding. sorry you have to deal with them. hope you figure things out and i would not have their 35 friends coming if they don't plan to contribute.