PLEASE READ: Debates....
kimberley wrote: i realize we have a very diverse group here with strong opinions they are passionate about but maybe we need some ground rules for debates...
1. Regardless how you feel about someone's opinion, you must respect it.
You may reply with qualifying information but please avoid words like "silly", "stupid", "ridiculous". It can really hurt someone's feelings, whether that was your intent or not.
2. Take the opinions with a grain of salt. With a group as big as ours, it is almost guaranteed someone will have an opinion completely opposite to your own. Don't make it your mission to change their views. Again, offering information once or twice is fine but learn when to walk away from a thread.
3. PLEASE, NO PERSONAL ATTACKS!
I hope we are all mature enough to follow these guidelines. I really do enjoy the debates because I learn so much from both sides. I hate to see that end because a few people make it personal.
Thanks,
Moderators
Boo&BugsMom replied: Can I add one? Once we've made our point, there is no reason to repeat it over and over again. Why beat a dead horse? Sometimes we just need to walk away and let it be.  Thanks for the reminder.
J-rod replied: not to be an a-hole but i think it should go both ways. just my 2 cents and whoever closed the post knows what im talking about.
C&K*s Mommie replied:  thanks Kimberley.
Maddie&EthansMom replied:
With all due respect, she meant this for both parties. 
J-rod replied:
well then why is only one party's post deleted? when the other persons statements cane be found just as rude?
kimberley replied: j-rod.. i do believe those guidelines cover both sides. i am sorry you were upset by this. 
eta: i haven't read the whole thread yet (takes time) and was not the one who removed your post. it is not one-sided, it just takes more than a couple of minutes to weed thru it all.
Hillbilly Housewife replied:
I'm sure you know why the post was closed, and why the particular comments that were deleted, WERE deleted.
Personal opinions are fine... telling someone their opinion is BS is not. Which is why your post was deleted and hers was not. If you have a problem with this, please PM me rather than bringing all this back on the table in the general forums, nonetheless in a post that is meant to keep the peace.
Your posts were delete dby me - I got caught up with a request from my IRL kids, and so didn't get a chance to pm you about it until now.
Thanks.
TLCDad replied: I just wanted to bump this up and let people know that I do get reports about personal attack posts. I have been pretty lenient and letting some slide, but this is absolutely against our TOS (Terms of Service/Use) and does qualify for a suspension or ban. Please take this as a warning: This will not be tolerated. If you have a problem with someone either PM myself or Mod --- absolutely do not attack them... this includes PMs.
Now with that said, I do not want to sound like moderate and civil debates are not welcome here because they are which can be educational... but there is absolutely no reason for name calling or any other form of personal attack. I have instructed the mods to delete any immediately and PM the poster a friendly reminder and warning. Unfortunately, if they continue I will supsend or ban the account.
Basically when you post a reply to a thread that is or can turn controversal, please treat everyone like you would want to be treated even if you strongly disagree with them. Telling them you disagree is perfectly fine... but calling them ignorant for example is not.
I know some people think we are strict and over moderating but for every complaint we get more compliments for doing such. But if you really think about it is not really over moderating it is just making sure the website is enjoyable and useful to everyone.
Boo&BugsMom replied: I would just like to say one thing. When a poster repeats themselves over and over again, that also makes it less enjoyable for everyone. It's very exhausting! It really is a two way street. Yes, saying you disagree is one thing, but I find it very disrespectful when someone feels the need to repeat over, and over, and over, the SAME point that was already made 100 times. That's all I'm going to say. J-rod, I do not think you are an a-hole.
kimberley replied:
i believe i addressed this issue in the second guideline
MyLuvBugs replied: Thanks for the info Kimberly!!
Boo&BugsMom replied:
Thank you Kim!
J-rod replied:
but telling somone to find a different symbol to express themselves is ok? im not arguing anymore and FYI - i did not bring this up....it was posted and i said my piece...i didnt start a topic on a closed topic.
MommyToAshley replied: Thank you Kimberley for posting this. If anyone has a problem with these rules then I would be happy to discuss them with you via PM.
Certain language is not permitted (this is a G-rated board), personal attacks are not permitted, using words that could be considered a personal attack are not permitted, and we expect everyone to treat each other with respect. If you think these rules are too restrictive, then maybe this isn't the place for you. I personally don't think it is too much to ask. There's no need to argue the rules, they aren't going to change. I think everyone can get their point across in a civil manner without name calling. And, it makes the place a little more enjoyable for everyone.
Hillbilly Housewife replied:
LOL!!! You are defeating your own post Jennie.
Wanna post it again?
Crystalina replied:
Crystalina replied:
That was too funny. I was thinking the same thing. Not to worry Jennie, I just got a nice chuckle out of that.
Boo&BugsMom replied:
See how it looks!  Just trying to make a point. I can laugh at myself that is ok!  Repeating once or even again to defend yourself is one thing, or to repeat because you feel you haven't been heard is also acceptable. But some people choose to repeat 20 times, and it's ridiculous. It's like listening to a broken record.  There, that's reiterated 3 times. Anyone wanna make me do it again? Just kidding, I'm done...
Hillbilly Housewife replied:
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